Anduru saidThere are guys you'll want to fuck, guys you'll want to date, and guys you'll just want to be friends with. I don't understand why people find that complicated.
Guys you want to fuck won't always be interested in you.
Guys you want to date want to be your friends or aren't interested.
And some of the guys you'll want to stay just friends want to do both of the above.
I run into the problem of wanting people to be in the friend-zone and then they're attempting to hit outside of it.
Friendship *can* involve benefits sometimes too, and not move into the dating category. Just saying.
And guys who are already good friends can make great dates - if there's some attraction there and you're willing to risk it. Frankly, I think that an attraction with a friend is a better way of starting a relationship than from scratch with a stranger - if the sex stuff fades quickly, and you haven't had time to get emotionally close yet, it's much more likely to crater.
That said, I have lots of friends where there is a firm line drawn with no crossing - and occasionally I've had to reinforce that. Kindly and gently, of course.