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So there's this guy at my school. I'm a guy and I think he might like me, but I'm not sure. Here's some background information. We know each other and we run in somewhat similar circles. He's a senior and I'm a sophomore. We live in a small town (4000) in the Midwest, so being openly gay wouldn't go over well. He's the captain of the football team and is in National Honor Society, and seems very successful and tries to surround himself with successful, serious people. I'm a golfer and I'm the sole leader of my grade (which is very frustrating and stressful). I'm the class President, and President of three high school clubs. Finally, we're both going to college next year, but I'm not sure where he's going.

There are a few things that make me think he likes me: we met in Speech and Debate and he was infatuated with my abilities (mostly my sharpness (maybe even snideness)), he leaves his closer friends to sit next to me in Student Council, he sings along with songs to me, he picked me to relinquish his NHS seat to, he occassionally tugs on my hair, he likes me accent (I'm from Philadelphia, and most people out here don't like it), and he calls me "sweetheart". What makes me think he isn't gay is that he had a girlfriend and tells innuendo jokes. Another thing is he said that Lady Gaga is a she-man and that he would still have sex with her anyway, but he said that because he likes her fame.

Most importantly:
Could anyone give my some tips to discreetly "flirt" back, I really don't want to be obvious. What should I do if I come to the conclusion that he does like me? I want to entice him further but not seem gay if he isn't gay.

Thanks for any answers!

I'm really sorry to burst your bubble man, but he doesn't sound gay at all. He also sounds like a jerk. Besides didn't you say he had a GF already? The best you can hope is a bi-guy.

I thought you have to be 18 to be on this website...? And you're in high school? Sophomore?

Stay tuned. I would like to see what others have to say as well. Don't let my answer scare you off yet.

You said you are a sophomore but going to college next year?

ohioguy12 saidYou said you are a sophomore but going to college next year?

Yeah that didn't make sense either.

Since, you are a sophomore, I assume you lied about your age to create the profile and are more likely 15yo.

You are too young. Something like that needs to just land in your lap (pun intended).

Enjoy your friendship and if something happens, it happens. Put yourself into situations where you might hang out with him outside of school, but let him initiate it.

For now, spend time with him and be a friend.

Since you're good at golf, you can teach him how to play. A few hours on a lonely golf course, and you might find out which way he swings...lol.

Don't even bother mate. I have chased my few share of straight men and it is exhausting. There is no point, at the end of the day he won’t be able to give you what you really want. Unless you genuinely want to be mates with him, then be a friend and nothing else.

dude, i am sorry to tell you this but i think you are just looking into this more than what it actually is. i think he is just being friendly. question, does he know you are gay?

Underage b& tiem

he is more gay than i am!! i hate lady gaga..

no straight guy would ever listen to lady gaga.. especially not openly say that he would sleep with her..

are you sure you want him? thats gross

You should try hitting that dude up in the gym locker room after P.E., under the bleachers after football practice or in detention like Justin from Queer as Folk did and see what happens. LOL.

Seriously though if you aren't a certain age then you shouldn't be here. No one likes jailbait unless they're creeps and we have a few of those here. You're a President of three high school clubs and the class President, huh! You should be deleting this account if you want to win another term. LOL.

In all seriousness though it sounds like your friend is gay in questioning or at the very least bi/curious. DO NOT CHASE AFTER HIM. Continue on with the clubs you manage and just go through high school being you. High school is the birthplace for all kinds of drama and you have two more years left before graduating. You've plenty of time to go to parties and have fun. Might even dream boy at a few parties and something might happen. Don't sweat and don't prey on him and you'll be fine.

What's up with people thinking that just because someone is nice to them it means they are interested?

He's not interested in you that way. He just thinks you're a cool guy and would like to be friends.

As soon as I saw the big story, I didn't even read it, I just went to "Reply" I've been there and cried the tears so many times. If he isn't following you home, he really isn't interested. Or maybe he's interested but he's a fucked bi guy and you don't want to bring one of those home! Let him go. Enjoy the memory of the possibilities, but let him go.

barriehomeboy saidAs soon as I saw the big story, I didn't even read it, I just went to "Reply" I've been there and cried the tears so many times. If he isn't following you home, he really isn't interested. Or maybe he's interested but he's a fucked bi guy and you don't want to bring one of those home! Let him go. Enjoy the memory of the possibilities, but let him go.

^ words of wisdom^