NOW, GUYS WITH PARTNERS...what are some of the down sides of being monogamously partnered?

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    Apr 06, 2008 10:09 PM GMT
    It cant be all sweetness and roses all the time ... icon_lol.gif

    ...what are some of the problems that come with a relationship?
  • Timbales

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    Apr 06, 2008 10:19 PM GMT
    No more surprises.
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    Apr 06, 2008 10:38 PM GMT
    You're stuck with their irritating personality trait(s) ...

    Firecat will start to explain something and you would think he was making a report to the Canadian Parliament.

    OMG! serious ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZs

    I can hear the change in the tone of his voice and know what's coming ..... icon_eek.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 06, 2008 10:44 PM GMT
    I figured I had better make the right kind of post here or Caslon would get after me......

    Well several things that can be difficult. First, if you are used to being single, one can feel "hemmed in" and freedoms reduced. Suddenly, you have to "discuss", get input or compromise with another. That might be hard for some.

    Another thing, one might feel they have "settled", (is this the person I really want to spend my life with?)


    The benefits far outweigh the difficulties, but you wanted a couple...icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 06, 2008 10:49 PM GMT
    the death of passion
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    Apr 06, 2008 10:58 PM GMT
    We are talking about the DOWN SIDE of partnering, gentlemen

    I presume all here can read...even those from Kansas!

    I've heard about all the evil messages a Kansan who shall for the moment remain nameless has hurled towards Solidguy......SHOCKING!!! ... icon_eek.gif ... but not totally unexpected ... icon_wink.gif
  • zakariahzol

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    Apr 06, 2008 11:02 PM GMT
    I was in 2 monogamous relationship , both latest 2 years. For me, the down side must be the sex part. You kinda wondering how it is to be with another person, eventhough you know it not right. In my earlier relationship , I was faithful for about a year, than yield to my lust and temptation and cheat on my bf. The second times I was completely faithful, but it was my bf who cheat on me first. I remain faithful for a couple on month, before I start straying. A few month later he walk out of out relationship and we just became friend and fuck buddy.
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    Apr 06, 2008 11:07 PM GMT
    Downside????? It can be looked at as a good thing or a bad thing....but not being able to hook up with anyone you want. Thats not with me. But it was early in my relationship. Now im content with one person.
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    Apr 06, 2008 11:14 PM GMT
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    Apr 06, 2008 11:35 PM GMT
    Imagine your favorite food. A thick, juicy steak. Lobster. Rich chocolate cake. Whatever turns you on and gets your juices flowing.

    Now imagine eating that same meal every single day for the rest of your life.

    Despair!
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    Apr 06, 2008 11:38 PM GMT
    JohnnyD saidImagine your favorite food. A thick, juicy steak. Lobster. Rich chocolate cake. Whatever turns you on and gets your juices flowing.

    Now imagine eating that same meal every single day for the rest of your life.

    Despair!


    Can be a good thing too LOL.
  • UncleverName

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    Apr 06, 2008 11:43 PM GMT
    The main downside I see, as HndsmKansan pointed out, is basically compromise. Sometimes I'm tired of compromising. Sometimes I don't want to. Sometimes I want to be selfish and only think of me. Sometimes I don't want to hear what my partner thinks or how he feels. Sometimes I don't want to try to persuade him to compromise with me on something he wants. Sometimes I don't want to do things differently, even when they're easy, so that we can both be happy. Sometimes I'm tired of talking about stuff till we are both comfortable enough with it.

    That enough of a downside for you Caslon? lol
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    Apr 06, 2008 11:59 PM GMT
    UncleverName saidThe main downside I see, as HndsmKansan pointed out, is basically compromise. Sometimes I'm tired of compromising. Sometimes I don't want to. Sometimes I want to be selfish and only think of me. Sometimes I don't want to hear what my partner thinks or how he feels. Sometimes I don't want to try to persuade him to compromise with me on something he wants. Sometimes I don't want to do things differently, even when they're easy, so that we can both be happy. Sometimes I'm tired of talking about stuff till we are both comfortable enough with it.

    That enough of a downside for you Caslon? lol


    Thank you, Unclever...I started this to bring out the sacrifices that go with a partner, so single guys could see that it isn't all sweetness and roses
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    Apr 07, 2008 12:04 AM GMT
    Caslon saidUncleverName saidThe main downside I see, as HndsmKansan pointed out, is basically compromise. Sometimes I'm tired of compromising. Sometimes I don't want to. Sometimes I want to be selfish and only think of me. Sometimes I don't want to hear what my partner thinks or how he feels. Sometimes I don't want to try to persuade him to compromise with me on something he wants. Sometimes I don't want to do things differently, even when they're easy, so that we can both be happy. Sometimes I'm tired of talking about stuff till we are both comfortable enough with it.

    That enough of a downside for you Caslon? lol

    Thank you, Unclever...I started this to bring out the sacrifices that go with a partner, so single guys could see that it isn't all sweetness and roses


    Well there are ups and downs to having someone as well as being single which I think that is obvious to everyone without trying to point it all out. Here's the thing, if you are single and want to be with someone then just be patient and honest with yourself. If you are someone that gets tired of the same ole thing over and over again then be single and happy. It really is that simple.
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    Apr 07, 2008 12:14 AM GMT
    Once I got into an LTR, every cute boy in the world came out of the closet and started talking to me. It's like Murphy's Law: when I'm free all the pretty boys are straight or taken, when I'm in a relationship all the pretty boys come out to play.

    It's probably more of a mental thing, it just seems that way because I know I'm taken and now it seems like everyon else is single. Just like when you're single it seems like everyone else is taken.

    Other than that, I've got no complaints about my monogamous partner. We're a very happy couple.
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    Apr 07, 2008 12:28 AM GMT
    Caslon said..even those from Kansas

    I've heard about all the evil messages a Kansan who shall for the moment remain nameless has hurled towards Solidguy......SHOCKING!!! ... icon_eek.gif ... but not totally unexpected ... icon_wink.gif





    David, I did talk about the downside (see above) LOL... and regarding Solidguy... he is learning the lesson .... others have learned
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    Apr 07, 2008 12:45 AM GMT
    HndsmKansan said[quote][cite]Caslon said[/cite]..even those from Kansas

    I've heard about all the evil messages a Kansan who shall for the moment remain nameless has hurled towards Solidguy......SHOCKING!!! ... icon_eek.gif ... but not totally unexpected ... icon_wink.gif





    David, I did talk about the downside (see above) LOL... and regarding Solidguy... he is learning the lesson .... others have learned[/quote]

    It was the ending to your posting above that ruin the whole point.

    "and regarding Solidguy... he is learning the lesson .... others have learned"

    .....I will have to get back to you on this. .... icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 07, 2008 1:07 AM GMT
    Oh well, he's not pulling his hair out over his lesson... like apparently you have over your bet...

    oh sorry...you didnt pull your hair out...it is just thinning. That's just normal for some guys. ... icon_rolleyes.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 07, 2008 1:09 AM GMT
    Caslon saidOh well, he's not pulling




    Actually Solidguy enjoys "pulling" my chain.... its all fun David.

    Don't have any bet issues or hair issues in any way, but back to your thread...

    You bring up an important "case in point" here..
    If one is partnered, it takes patience.. I get razzed by Will all the time (like you were doing to me above).. you can't get offended, just enjoy it and go on.

    If you cannot learn to be more flexible than when you were single, probably isn't going to work.



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    Apr 07, 2008 1:17 AM GMT
    There is no dawn side for me. Coz... I do what ever I want.....and able to. But then One gives them the same right too.
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    Apr 07, 2008 1:25 AM GMT
    HndsmKansan said[quote][cite]Caslon said[/cite]Oh well, he's not pulling




    Actually Solidguy enjoys "pulling" my chain.... its all fun David.

    Don't have any bet issues or hair issues in any way, but back to your thread...

    You bring up an important "case in point" here..
    If one is partnered, it takes patience.. I get razzed by Will all the time (like you were doing to me above).. you can't get offended, just enjoy it and go on.

    If you cannot learn to be more flexible than when you were single, probably isn't going to work.



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    now I see why he lost the bet
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 07, 2008 1:33 AM GMT
    Caslon said[quote]

    now I see why he lost the bet






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    Apr 07, 2008 4:16 AM GMT
    Wow guys, monogamy is not that horrible is it? It's not easy, but it can be done after all.
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    Apr 07, 2008 4:21 AM GMT
    The irritating personality traits can be turned into comedy gold when you tag-team friends...so, while the traits themselves are irritating, it's fun to sound like Ben Stiller's parents for the reaction from onlookers.
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    Apr 07, 2008 4:49 AM GMT
    It'd have to be financial for me.

    Last night some guy sent me an IM offering me $200 to top him! If I didn't have a boyfriend, I could afford to go to Sydney this weekend with my boyfriend... oh.