Have you ever had a friend ignore you?

  • sportsjockla

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    May 07, 2011 4:48 AM GMT
    I've had this happen to me a few times now. Guys that I know online whether I've met them or not ignore me when I send them a message. WTF is up with that?

    When someone does that, I take them off my friends list!
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    May 07, 2011 5:08 AM GMT
    I leave my Skype signed in all the time and I'll walk away from the computer when nobody is talking to me and come back to messages.

    If somebody deletes me for that they aren't worth the friendship. icon_lol.gif
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    May 07, 2011 5:47 AM GMT
    Anduru saidI leave my Skype signed in all the time and I'll walk away from the computer when nobody is talking to me and come back to messages.

    If somebody deletes me for that they aren't worth the friendship. icon_lol.gif
    ^^^this

    ...and people wonder why I swore off ALL instant messengers a few years back. They're just not worth the hassle. If I wanna talk to someone that bad, I'll call or text.
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    May 07, 2011 5:49 AM GMT
    the title is misleading, I thought you meant in real life not online...
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    May 07, 2011 5:52 AM GMT
    A_1991 saidthe title is misleading, I thought you meant in real life not online...


    re..al....luh...ife?


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  • sportsjockla

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    May 07, 2011 3:35 PM GMT
    I'm talking about guys I do know in real life, but when I send them emails, they ignore them
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    May 07, 2011 3:43 PM GMT
    sportsjockla saidI'm talking about guys I do know in real life, but when I send them emails, they ignore them



    First off, you live in L.A. -- HELL-ohhh?!?! This IS "real life" in L.A. Don't take it personally, as it may not have been deliberate that your email went unanswered. Secondly, if you do know these people in "real life", decide if you want to keep them as "friends" based on more than an ignored email. If it means that much to you, ask them why the hell they don't answer your emails.
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    May 07, 2011 3:51 PM GMT
    sportsjockla saidI've had this happen to me a few times now. Guys that I know online whether I've met them or not ignore me when I send them a message. WTF is up with that?

    When someone does that, I take them off my friends list!


    How did they get on your friends list?
    Seems to me that the term friends is used rather loosely. If they were your friends they would never ignore you - unless you were a total pain in da ass.
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    May 07, 2011 3:56 PM GMT
    sportsjockla saidI'm talking about guys I do know in real life, but when I send them emails, they ignore them


    These are called "crappy friends."
  • shawn06

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    May 07, 2011 3:57 PM GMT
    It might not be you getting ignored it can possibly be them just taking time to respond or maybe forgot to respond. I do this a lot on sites like this for example, I get a msg, read it, then 4 days later finally get to replying. Sometimes I totally forget and never reply, this may be the case for you so be a little bit patient. Otherwise txt em and if your ignored there then yea they are not trying to continue communication with you.
  • masculumpedes

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    May 07, 2011 6:15 PM GMT
    No...but I've been ignored by a guy that I tried to flirt with before.....it's plum embarrassin' I tell ya......9.gif
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    May 07, 2011 6:32 PM GMT
    They are not really your friends. Those are the guys who hug you when they see you but make a gag face to their buddies over your shoulder.

    LA is notorious for guys like that. Screw 'em.
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    May 07, 2011 6:41 PM GMT
    I was talking to a guy and it was going really, really well until he started ignoring me for a reason that I've yet to figure out.
    It's such a shame because I really liked him, but if I can't trust him to f*cking message me back then he's not worth trusting at all. =)

    Though I still kinda want to send him an message informing him that he's an asshole... just for some closure...
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    May 07, 2011 6:43 PM GMT
    Had a buy I broke up with (mutual ) & then stopped ALL communications with me for about 7 months. I learned that it is the best way to hurt someone. I was heart broken without the closure I needed. Finally after starting.to.date my current bf, he replied that he needed me to be over him. Had gotten all my messages since I kept trying. I like the guy. He's a nice guy but what he did hurt.
  • stratavos

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    May 07, 2011 6:46 PM GMT
    A_1991 saidthe title is misleading, I thought you meant in real life not online...


    In real life this has happened to me. Often you just need to let that person go. If they are playing avoidance with you constantly, and you're the one trying to keep contact: they are not your friend anymore.
  • Celticmusl

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    May 07, 2011 6:46 PM GMT
    chat buddies are not really friends. Although I try to be polite, respectful and diplomatic towards most of my buds I do tend to miss a few messages here and there. They do the same thing and it's all good.
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    May 07, 2011 7:57 PM GMT
    Yes. Very annoying...I don't even like to consider them as friends anymore. Which is fine by me...Iicon_razz.gif
  • swimmer8671

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    May 07, 2011 8:03 PM GMT
    haha i have done this to some friends. But only to the kinda friends that only need to talk to you when they want to vent about some awful thing in their life. Like litterally they never talk to you any other time.

    So they will text and i just don't reply haha.

    I shouldn't be expected to be their psychologist at all times of the day, specially when every other day is a "bad day" you know?

  • sportsjockla

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    May 08, 2011 12:48 AM GMT
    I guess when you know someone for several years, they are on my facebook page, I have their phone numbers, etc, then when I send them a number of emails (on RJ you can see if they have been read) and I just get ignored..

    I've met guys online, where we chat over n over then all of a sudden they stop. That's just the internet. In LA of course sometimes they do it live too. LOL
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    May 08, 2011 7:37 AM GMT
    sportsjockla said Guys that I know online whether I've met them or not ignore me when I send them a message. WTF is up with that?

    When someone does that, I take them off my friends list!


    If you haven't met them, definitely don't get hung up on them. If you have met them, still don't get too hung up on them.

    The best thing to do is to not message them again. So maybe in 2 months when they realize they are all alone...they'll think, wait a minute, I was supposed to had messaged back sportsjockla!

    Sometimes people have so much going on in their lives that they can't take the time out to respond to a message. It's not an excuse, but it's so you don't take it on yourself.

    But like others have said, if they can't respond they aren't friends. They're just taking up space.
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    May 08, 2011 7:45 AM GMT
    Don't worry about it if they are true friends they have their reasons, if they aren't true friends you'll find out soon enough.
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    May 08, 2011 7:49 AM GMT
    This has happened to me a few times actually. I just think it's so frustrating as to why people do this ESPECIALLY when you have good conversations going and they just leave you hangingicon_rolleyes.gif
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    May 08, 2011 8:11 PM GMT
    A_1991 saidthe title is misleading, I thought you meant in real life not online...



    Yeah, seriously.. That's what I thought too....

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    May 08, 2011 8:48 PM GMT
    sportsjockla saidI've had this happen to me a few times now. Guys that I know online whether I've met them or not ignore me when I send them a message. WTF is up with that?

    When someone does that, I take them off my friends list!


    Man, I would get out of bed in the middle of the night to answer you!