Guy I Date....Bisexual and Craigslist co??Suc???

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    May 07, 2011 2:20 PM GMT
    Is someone experience dating with bisexual guy? Im seeing this guy almost one month now, and I already introduce him to my friend, unfurtunetly one of my friend mention to me this guy always posting a craigslist they exchange pic and everything, and other friend of mine also saw him constanly posting at craigslist. Now I keep distance for now. Im so freakin scared when i heard the news.Good things nothing happened yet.. Need some advice....
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    May 07, 2011 5:34 PM GMT
    sounds like you need to find another man...
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    May 07, 2011 6:24 PM GMT
    myname1 saidsounds like you need to find another man...


    Yeah, what he said. You will most likely catch something from that guy.
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    May 07, 2011 8:12 PM GMT
    Oh please. I've done craigslist. You just have to filter. Yall sound like you fear craigslist gays like conservative right wing Christians fear gays.
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    May 07, 2011 8:33 PM GMT
    issh has get a way written all over it
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    May 07, 2011 9:48 PM GMT
    bluey2223 saidOh please. I've done craigslist. You just have to filter. Yall sound like you fear craigslist gays like conservative right wing Christians fear gays.


    Well, seeing as the OP was looking at this guy as a potential BF, it would be bad if the guy was posting ads all over Craigslist for a fuck. Doesn't seem as if he's interested in the relationship.

    I say that you should talk to him about it, but be firm that you can't see each other anymore because you're uncomfortable about it.
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    May 07, 2011 9:59 PM GMT
    FOR ME, it is a relationship ENDer; finding CL related shit makes me feel really unsafe.... But I understand guys who just want sex and are willing to risk the other shit that goes along with it, like putting mileage on a car hahaha. But, each his own, lets just say major deal breaker if I see craiglist pop up in the web browser on a dude's computer I'm chillun with.
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    May 07, 2011 10:12 PM GMT
    sportsman saidFOR ME, it is a relationship ENDer; finding CL related shit makes me feel really unsafe.... But I understand guys who just want sex and are willing to risk the other shit that goes along with it, like putting mileage on a car hahaha. But, each his own, lets just say major deal breaker if I see craiglist pop up in the web browser on a dude's computer I'm chillun with.


    What if the 'dude' was just selling something? Do you also run away if he has cholesterol-lowering meds in his medicine cabinet?

    OP: this thread is a lot of fear...what ever happened to sitting down and talking over your questions? Relationships are about communication; running away from that doesn't say much about your interest in pursuing something long term.

    Yes, CL does have some nasty, freaky people. However, this could also be someone who stole his pictures posting the ads.
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    May 07, 2011 10:44 PM GMT
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    sportsman saidFOR ME, it is a relationship ENDer; finding CL related shit makes me feel really unsafe.... But I understand guys who just want sex and are willing to risk the other shit that goes along with it, like putting mileage on a car hahaha. But, each his own, lets just say major deal breaker if I see craiglist pop up in the web browser on a dude's computer I'm chillun with.


    What if the 'dude' was just selling something? Do you also run away if he has cholesterol-lowering meds in his medicine cabinet?

    OP: this thread is a lot of fear...what ever happened to sitting down and talking over your questions? Relationships are about communication; running away from that doesn't say much about your interest in pursuing something long term.

    Yes, CL does have some nasty, freaky people. However, this could also be someone who stole his pictures posting the ads.


    Yea pretty much. I've used craigslist for 3 years since realizing I'm not going to settle down with just anyone. It's great for having sex when you want it (if you can filter through 95% of the disgusting types on there), and if you don't know how to have safesex or safe sexual play, then don't use it because you don't know what you're doing. You have to know how to look for signs and play on the safe side, but other than that, get over it and have fun. Consenting rational adults can do what they need to do, and it doesn't diminish these people toward being relationship-worthy. You don't buy the car before test driving it.

    I'm sorry that this thread is full of prudes. You CAN look for a relationship while also having your other needs met temporarily. If you're looking for a relationship for just sex, you're going to be unhappy. There is much better sex with variety and new experiences than just having the same guy and all his other shit you don't like about him that you're sticking with because you're too prude to go find out about how STDs are contracted. This is why people cheat--you're in it for the wrong reasons.
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    May 07, 2011 10:56 PM GMT
    I actually had my photo stolen and used on that site. Only got the heads up from a friend that wondered why I listed myself in that state and was seeking promiscuous sex - which isn't how I'm wired.

    When he shared the link and I saw my photos with someone else's words and thoughts, I realized how fortunate I was to have mainly headless photos. Definitely made me less inclined of sharing photos of myself online, consequently.

    Anyways, just adding this perspective. If those guys MET the guy, then I guess you can share your opinion. However, keep in mind some accounts on Craig's List steal other people photos. I know first hand of that, sadly.
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    May 07, 2011 10:59 PM GMT
    A1972 saidI actually had my photo stolen and used on that site. Only got the heads up from a friend that wondered why I listed myself in that state and was seeking promiscuous sex - which isn't how I'm wired.

    When he shared the link and I saw my photos with someone else's words and thoughts, I realized how fortunate I was to have mainly headless photos. Definitely made me less inclined of sharing photos of myself online, consequently.

    Anyways, just adding this perspective. If those guys MET the guy, then I guess you can share your opinion. However, keep in mind some accounts on Craig's List steal other people photos. I know first hand of that, sadly.


    Yes, this is true. I have had mine stolen before also. I messaged the poster, and they apologized...but I think it would have been more fun to show up and be like:

    OMG YOU'RE NOT MY TWIN YOU IMPOSTER!

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    May 07, 2011 11:05 PM GMT
    bluey2223Yes, this is true. I have had mine stolen before also. I messaged the poster, and they apologized...but I think it would have been more fun to show up and be like:

    OMG YOU'RE NOT MY TWIN YOU IMPOSTER!



    The whole ordeal left me nonplussed; so, any witty clever comebacks didn't come to me.

    Just figured I would keep my photos more restrictive to those I was in contact with, oppose to having it available publicly. Identity theft is rampant online, and Craig's List is not exempt, unfortunately.
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    May 09, 2011 2:30 AM GMT

    ask questions, have a meaningful conversation. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    May 09, 2011 2:40 AM GMT
    The majority of people posting pics on craigslist are posting stolen pictures.
    Confront him and find out for yourself.
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    May 09, 2011 2:48 AM GMT
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    rund86 said
    sportsman saidFOR ME, it is a relationship ENDer; finding CL related shit makes me feel really unsafe.... But I understand guys who just want sex and are willing to risk the other shit that goes along with it, like putting mileage on a car hahaha. But, each his own, lets just say major deal breaker if I see craiglist pop up in the web browser on a dude's computer I'm chillun with.


    What if the 'dude' was just selling something? Do you also run away if he has cholesterol-lowering meds in his medicine cabinet?

    OP: this thread is a lot of fear...what ever happened to sitting down and talking over your questions? Relationships are about communication; running away from that doesn't say much about your interest in pursuing something long term.

    Yes, CL does have some nasty, freaky people. However, this could also be someone who stole his pictures posting the ads.


    Yea pretty much. I've used craigslist for 3 years since realizing I'm not going to settle down with just anyone. It's great for having sex when you want it (if you can filter through 95% of the disgusting types on there), and if you don't know how to have safesex or safe sexual play, then don't use it because you don't know what you're doing. You have to know how to look for signs and play on the safe side, but other than that, get over it and have fun. Consenting rational adults can do what they need to do, and it doesn't diminish these people toward being relationship-worthy. You don't buy the car before test driving it.

    I'm sorry that this thread is full of prudes. You CAN look for a relationship while also having your other needs met temporarily. If you're looking for a relationship for just sex, you're going to be unhappy. There is much better sex with variety and new experiences than just having the same guy and all his other shit you don't like about him that you're sticking with because you're too prude to go find out about how STDs are contracted. This is why people cheat--you're in it for the wrong reasons.



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    May 18, 2011 12:32 AM GMT
    It seems that people are just looking for different things. Sex is great but the way I am wired doesn't mesh with the random hooking up just to get off. I don't look down on that path at all, just not for me.
    I have more fun going on dates, getting drinks, dancing, hanging out with somebody letting that anticipation build. For me, the sexual excitement builds to the actual act, and 'hosting' with 'NSA' undermines the whole experience for me.
    Communication is paramount for sure, and when this has come up in past relationships we talked about it and realized we both just wanted different things, and we were able to move on with our separate lives. Needless to say, he misses the stability and trust that we shared in our relationship and the random trick hunting on CL hasn't led to the fulfillment he was looking for.
    We all have thorns in our sides that keep us human, for me I choose to stay away from the random sex scene because the personal satisfaction in evolving into a physical relationship is much more hot to me than stripping off clothes and beating off with some dude when I just want to release.
    I enjoy the points of view though it's a decent thread!