Is he your boyfriend or partner?

  • InsatiableBlo...

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    May 07, 2011 3:16 PM GMT
    Which do you prefer?
    Is there a difference?
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    May 07, 2011 3:30 PM GMT
    I prefer boyfriend.

    When marriage is legal, then husband would be appropriate.

  • InsatiableBlo...

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    May 08, 2011 2:15 PM GMT
    I always felt "partner" was awkward, but others seem to disagree.
  • Celticmusl

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    May 08, 2011 2:22 PM GMT
    de compagnon.
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    May 08, 2011 2:31 PM GMT
    I think BF & Partner are the same. Or it's complicated sometimes because i saw the news that said about Sir Elton John when he was in the Royal Wedding. The news said "Elton John was there with his husband (that's mean bf?), and another news said "Elton John was there with his Partner". icon_smile.gif
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    May 08, 2011 2:32 PM GMT
    My bitchicon_twisted.gif
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    May 08, 2011 2:35 PM GMT
    I thought partner relates to domestic partnership which is like being married but not really... especially in california
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    May 08, 2011 2:37 PM GMT
    boyfriend.. yeah....

    Partner sounds like legal talk
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    May 08, 2011 2:38 PM GMT
    AvadaKedavra saidI thought partner relates to domestic partnership which is like being married but not really... especially in california


    ... and don't think I've forgotten you Avada! We WILL get married
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    May 08, 2011 2:47 PM GMT
    Hm, tough question! These terms tend to have different meaning to each person.

    To me, I find "boyfriend" to mean a guy you're just dating, or have been in a relationship with for just a short time. I tend to associate it with people in their teens and 20s who are just getting a feel for dating.

    Meanwhile "partner" means a guy who has become your companion for the long haul that the word "boyfriend" just doesn't do justice for the seriousness of the relationship. This term just seems appropriate when you're well into adulthood.

    That's how I define these terms anyway.
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    May 08, 2011 2:53 PM GMT
    I would use "partner" but some days it feels more like a 70:30 relationship.

    Hehe, JK. icon_razz.gif
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    May 08, 2011 3:00 PM GMT
    That thing that sleeps in my bed and eats all my food.
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    May 08, 2011 4:45 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidThat thing that sleeps in my bed and eats all my food.


    we call that an animal in my house. lol.
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    May 08, 2011 4:57 PM GMT
    pocketnico saidHm, tough question! These terms tend to have different meaning to each person.

    To me, I find "boyfriend" to mean a guy you're just dating, or have been in a relationship with for just a short time. I tend to associate it with people in their teens and 20s who are just getting a feel for dating.

    Meanwhile "partner" means a guy who has become your companion for the long haul that the word "boyfriend" just doesn't do justice for the seriousness of the relationship. This term just seems appropriate when you're well into adulthood.

    That's how I define these terms anyway.


    Well said. But when do you start transitioning those words during a LTR?

    While we're at it, what about the term "Significant Other", "Companion", or "Lover"? Any ideas, guys?
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    May 08, 2011 4:58 PM GMT
    Boyfriend.
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    May 08, 2011 5:00 PM GMT
    cityaznguy said
    pocketnico saidHm, tough question! These terms tend to have different meaning to each person.

    To me, I find "boyfriend" to mean a guy you're just dating, or have been in a relationship with for just a short time. I tend to associate it with people in their teens and 20s who are just getting a feel for dating.

    Meanwhile "partner" means a guy who has become your companion for the long haul that the word "boyfriend" just doesn't do justice for the seriousness of the relationship. This term just seems appropriate when you're well into adulthood.

    That's how I define these terms anyway.


    Well said. But when do you start transitioning those words during a LTR?

    While we're at it, what about the term "Significant Other", "Companion", or "Lover"? Any ideas, guys?


    and don't forget about "mate" ! icon_razz.gif
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    May 08, 2011 5:01 PM GMT
    I don't think I could ever picture myself using the word "partner" to describe my boyfriend.

    I mean, you have a partner for lots of different things, like playing charades...you never have a boyfriend for anything else though. To me, "boyfriend" seems more special than partner - it's more identifiable with a relationship. I wouldn't want to confuse anyone when I say I love my boyfriend (<3). Both are totally acceptable though - whatever floats your boat!
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    May 08, 2011 5:02 PM GMT
    its boyfriend for me. when people say partner it seems like there trying to be politicaly correct.
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    May 08, 2011 5:04 PM GMT
    cityaznguy saidWell said. But when do you start transitioning those words during a LTR?

    While we're at it, what about the term "Significant Other", "Companion", or "Lover"? Any ideas, guys?


    That's a good question. I have no idea! I don't think this can be answered so concretely. In the end, do these labels even matter when you know what your relationship is?
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    May 08, 2011 5:05 PM GMT
    BOYFRIEND BOYFRIEND BOYFRIEND... If you think about it, the word "partner" was a word given to use because straight people didn't want us to use their word.

    To me, I think using the word partner is submissive and insulting to any gay person. Kinda like how they wont let you use the word husband, hm?

    Partner is another "four letter word"
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    May 08, 2011 5:07 PM GMT
    kkongroar said
    AvadaKedavra saidI thought partner relates to domestic partnership which is like being married but not really... especially in california


    ... and don't think I've forgotten you Avada! We WILL get married


    all i hear is an empty promise. i want to see actions! or be in the action.
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    May 08, 2011 5:10 PM GMT
    I don't like the term partner either. Why do we have to have this different name for it? When a guy is my boyfriend, I will refer to him as that. When/if we get married, he will be my husband
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    May 08, 2011 5:15 PM GMT
    After ten years, "boyfriend" seems juvenile.

    Straights use the terms nowadays when not married but settled.

    I used to think it was a bit odd but then I grew up
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    May 08, 2011 5:18 PM GMT
    Brit_Bloke saidAfter ten years, "boyfriend" seems juvenile.

    Straights use the terms nowadays when not married but settled.

    I used to think it was a bit odd but then I grew up


    This is what I was trying to get at earlier. I have an uncle who's been with the same woman for 19 years now without legal marriage, and he's never referred to her as his "girlfriend" since they've been together for so long. He's always called her his "partner" or "lady".
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    May 08, 2011 5:19 PM GMT
    pocketnico said
    cityaznguy saidWell said. But when do you start transitioning those words during a LTR?

    While we're at it, what about the term "Significant Other", "Companion", or "Lover"? Any ideas, guys?


    That's a good question. I have no idea! I don't think this can be answered so concretely. In the end, do these labels even matter when you know what your relationship is?


    I know, right? It should be the private matter for the people involved in the relationship. With that said, I do think that labels provide an easier access for others to understand the nature of your relationship. It's very exhausting to introduce the guy standing next to you as, "This is a guy I have been steadily seeing for the last 3 years, we have sex on regular basis and the relationship is intensifying and some day we plan to make it legal with domestic benefits", instead of just saying, "He's my significant other", or "This is my better half". No?

    @Mohammed: "mate" just won't work especially in the UK. Unless all of them are gay, ya know? Wait.....*confused*. lol!