I definitely agree with the last part of this video. If more "straight-acting" (I hate that term) masculine men were more open with their sexuality then the media's (and thus society's) perception of what it means to be gay would definitely change.
My ex is a professional bodybuilder, famous with a large following. He's terrified to come out and risk his career/losing his following. Unfortunately, there are 1000's more just like him, gay bodybuilders who would love to be able to be in an open relationship with someone, but everyone's too afraid to make the first move. Bodybuilders can't be gay, it's too masculine a "sport". That's the majority of straight society's perception (obviously gay society knows better).
I'm so tired of people throwing stereotypes in my face about gay men being fashion designers and hairdressers and that's all. But unfortunately I can't really throw a whole lot back in their face because so many gays that are in other professions would prefer to keep themselves on the "DL", and as Crocker mentioned, are not comfortable with themselves/harbor self hate.
If you're ashamed to be labeled as a part of the gay community, then CHANGE what "gay community" means, by coming out and making a difference. It's like people that don't vote in federal elections. Quit your bitching if you're not going to participate.
/rant. I'm going for a 10km run