difference between queers and "straights"

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    May 08, 2011 2:13 AM GMT
    I recently was with a queer friend of mine, and the age old question of "if you could be turned straight (either go back in time and be straight your entire life, or just be "turned" now), and we came to a conclusion that I'd like to share... and see if other people agree with.

    *note, this is not a complete answer to the question, only one of the many reasons why we both came to the answer of NO!

    Most every person is insecure as a child. Part of maturing and becoming an adult is getting past these insecurities and becoming fully comfortable with yourself. It is then that you learn to truly live life.

    Queer folk are forced to deal with these insecurities at a younger age. We are forced to vulnerable and subject to the ridicule of many many people, something a large number of "straights" never experience. We noticed that a large number of our "straight" friends are just more insecure and are less themselves.

    Being forced to deal with all of these insecurities forced me do learn who I am. If I were not queer, I would not have discovered myself at such a young age (if ever at all).

    So we decided that all of the struggles we have gone through have actually made us better, stronger, more comfortable and confident people. I would never give up who I am today for the comfort of being able to "conform" to the larger society.

    Anybody else have any opinions on this subject?








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    May 08, 2011 2:28 AM GMT
    I've thought for a long time that gays would be great at raising kids, because the coming out process includes all these helpful things like developing self-awareness, accepting yourself the way you are, realizing where you differ from other people and such, that all kids could benefit from our experiences.
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    May 08, 2011 2:44 AM GMT
    We share the same opinion. I think that if I were straight, I wouldn't be the person that I am today. Being gay puts a whole new spin on things. Even though we have to deal with the grief of coming out, the process makes us stronger in the end. We have to look deep within ourselves. I don't think many straight people do the same thing.
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    May 08, 2011 2:53 AM GMT
    Every time I think how easier life would be if I were straight, I visit a "straight" bar and see how they get along.
    Then I see the fights break out, the arguments over who's fucking who's ex, etc. etc. etc.
    That reassures me that nature blessed me with the ability to be turned off by women; and even went as far as to create clubs and bars specifically for other people like me who don't wanna go get drunk and fight every Friday night just to say they had a good time. icon_biggrin.gif