New to dating

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    Apr 07, 2008 4:42 AM GMT
    I was just wondering if anyone can offer me some tips. I'm pretty new at dating (never had a boyfriend).

    I know I'm a late starter going on 23 and haven't had anything romantic except a thank you card and a good bye hug. LOL

    So is there to expect on a date?

    Anything will help because I'm tired of the non-social life. LOL

    Thanks.
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    Apr 07, 2008 4:43 AM GMT
    Just be yourself.
    Talk random things about you, things you are passionate about. Be on alert for anything that will be of common interest to your date then build up from there. Your profile is interesting enough as it is... talking about them will all depend on you.
    Do not order anything spicy. LOLLLLL
  • UncleverName

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    Apr 10, 2008 3:54 AM GMT
    I got nervous about this before I started dating.

    I talked online with my current partner for about 2 months before we met, and then I insisted that we go to an arcade to play pool and air hockey, because I didn't want to sit through any uncomfortable silences. It turned out that there weren't any, because we clicked really easily. So my fears on that occasion were for nothing.
    Another date I went on, I went out to a bar and talked with the guy. It ended up being really painful, and I wanted to cut it short, but wasn't smart enough to do that. I would now. After the date, I realized that there was absolutely no way I could see myself with that guy, as talking is something that has to come easy.

    So the upshot of what I'm saying is, don't worry about dating. If you go on a date and it doesn't feel easy, then cut it short and realize that he's not the one (or one of the ones) for you. Be comfortable with yourself. If you want to make out with the guy on the first date, or second date, or whatever, let him know that you like him and that you'd like to kiss him. If he wants to kiss you and you're not into it, tell him you're not ready yet. The same goes for everything else (including sex).

    You could also do what Trocks did and create a thread about it and get advice/suggestions from everyone as you date. Just make sure you update it when you say you're going to icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 10, 2008 4:17 AM GMT
    To reiterate zimatar: Just be yourself.

    Try not to have expectations...which may be difficult if you and your date hit it off or you can't keep your hands off each other. But just go into a date without expecting anything. Just be yourself, have a good time.

    If you hit it off with someone, don't get over-anxious in the following days. If it was meant to happen, it'll happen.

    Finally, in the same vein, don't get discouraged if you don't hit it off or he doesn't call. He may not be into you, or he may just be a flake (and there are quite a few of them out there). You may have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince!
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    Apr 16, 2008 3:57 AM GMT
    Thank you all for the advice. I will keep it for future reference. My first date sadly was a no show icon_cry.gif

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    Apr 16, 2008 4:07 AM GMT
    What a jerk! I'm sorry you got stood up. It happens to everyone. And then sometimes the other guy shows up and you wish he hadn't. Here are a few ideas for conversation starters I got from a women's magazine in a doctor's office. I thought they were pretty good:

    1. Ask how he got into his current line of work or school. Just asking "What you do?" is often boring, and some people feel like it's a test. It's more interesting to hear about the path he took to get there.

    2. What kind of stuff does he eat? Does he cook, or is it all take-out? Really healthy, or a lot of junk food? Tells you a lot about a person fast.

    3. Who does he admire? Are there any people, living or in history, who inspire him?
  • GQjock

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    Apr 18, 2008 10:02 AM GMT
    You got a Thank you card?
    That's a new one...lol

    But just put yourself out there
    go to places where there are going to be guys available and that doesn't mean bars
    go to the beaches
    pools
    gyms are a great place to meet men
    bike rides
    vacations are the best