Issues during anal sex

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    May 09, 2011 9:54 PM GMT
    My boyfriend and I have been able to have really amazing sex - of the anal variety - but sometimes I'm just too tight for him, no matter how much foreplay we enjoy, etc. I thought at first it was just because it had been a while since we had sex last, but it doesn't happen every day. We have no issues one day, then the next it's excruciating when he tries pushing in. I honestly have no idea what to do. I finger myself and make sure to relax, and he always gets me into it... but that's not always enough. Is there anything we're missing that might help?
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    May 09, 2011 10:24 PM GMT
    do drugs
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    May 10, 2011 12:01 AM GMT
    I assume you guys are using lots of lube and he's gentle.

    Have him push all the way in and once it hurts (like hell) have him withdraw completely. Wait until the pain has gone away and have him try again. 2nd time is usually fine with me, no matter the size.
  • Masturbador

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    May 10, 2011 10:39 PM GMT
    How badly do you want to do it? If you want to really badly, then have him push in and then let him just stay inside you still until it feels comfortable.
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    May 11, 2011 1:23 AM GMT
    The issue isn't so much that it hurts a lot when he gets inside - which does happen occasionally - it's that he can't even get in. Yesterday I couldn't even get the tip of my index finger inside my hole without it hurting. :/ This has been happening a lot, too.
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    May 11, 2011 1:32 AM GMT
    samuelbrennan saidThe issue isn't so much that it hurts a lot when he gets inside - which does happen occasionally - it's that he can't even get in. Yesterday I couldn't even get the tip of my index finger inside my hole without it hurting. :/ This has been happening a lot, too.


    maybe you honestly aren't a bottom... OR... you need to work on relaxing yourself a hell of a lot more.

    I don't bottom often because of this exact reason - my hole is too tight and as soon as I poke something in there it fucking kills... so i stick to topping - all the pleasure without the pain icon_smile.gif
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    May 11, 2011 1:36 AM GMT
    silicone lube?
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    May 11, 2011 2:44 AM GMT
    This is a small part of the reason for which I don't engage in anal anymore.
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    May 11, 2011 4:25 AM GMT
    i_VAN saiddo drugs



    IVAN!!!!! (As GAMRican smiles, while he kicks i_VAN in the shins under the table.)

    (GAMRican turns attention back to samuelbrennan)

    samuelbrennen, dear, be grateful that your little bum is still tight as a drum! Be grateful that your BF's dick is so big! For those times when you're sphincter is just not cooperating, you can try different positions and just "play". Have fun with his big hard dick and just rub and wiggle the head against your anus. Beat off while you do this. At a certain point you'll be grooving and you can naturally take it a bit at a time.

    Also, does your BF like to eat ass? Let him spread you open and suck on your ass until you're nice and ready for something more.

    Try using small dildos or other small items to open you up.

    A shower douche can also help loosen and relax your sphincter.

    And remember, that anal sex doesn't have to be just about "sticking it in". It can be a very romantic and intimate giving of oneself to your partner as you both learn to trust each other to even greater depths of love.

    Besides, you'll have lots of years to be all loose and leaky. Why rush?

    And, "drugs"? Oh, don't go there, dear.
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  • MikemikeMike

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    May 11, 2011 4:51 AM GMT
    Put a butplug in for 20-30 mins before sex. My work here is done! Sorry U had to wait for a top's advice for the obviousicon_idea.gif
  • my8kitso

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    May 12, 2011 3:12 PM GMT
    That's the answer, butt plug! I have this bottom bitch boy who would call me saying he wanted to be fucked hard, but then when I would gently try to enter him (I'm no sadist) he'd scream like I was killing him.

    I got him a nice medium sized butt plug, then told him when he got horny for my dick in his ass, work the plug into his tight little boi hole, taking all the time he needed to get it in, then keep it there for 20 minutes, THEN call me. I told him he has to wear it when he comes over, so when he's on the cross town bus, every bump pumps his ass a little. By the time he gets to my place, I pull him in, French kiss him hard, pull his jeans down, take the plug out and fuck the hell out of him.

    He's now a happy bitch bottom who can take a proper power fuck!

    Pete
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    May 17, 2011 2:39 PM GMT
    samuelbrennan saidThe issue isn't so much that it hurts a lot when he gets inside - which does happen occasionally - it's that he can't even get in. Yesterday I couldn't even get the tip of my index finger inside my hole without it hurting. :/ This has been happening a lot, too.


    What you need to do is ignore the pain and pretend things are meant to be jammed up your ass despite the pain.
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    May 19, 2011 3:14 AM GMT
    i have the problem too .. I usually just tell the person to jamm it in and leave it there maybe moving a bit ... and when the head won't even go in i use my fingure around him head and play wth it moving sliding ect .. i make it more pleasurable than a chore really it may take time but moaning and groaning about it won't be sexy .. try and keep the mood .. u'll get it in just play a bit
  • rnch

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    May 19, 2011 1:15 PM GMT
    rimming, single/double fingering, a slow, gentle, pausing when necessary entry, waiting until the bottom guy gets used to having the top guy inside him...these steps work well for my bf and I.


    also...try some fresh poppers! the bottom guy will open up and his top man will sllidddeeeeeeee right in. ohh yehhhh!!!!


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  • janu88

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    May 19, 2011 1:21 PM GMT
    It´s really hurtful for me aswell.... and i guess my hole is just too tight.
    not made to be bottom.
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    Jul 11, 2011 7:51 AM GMT
    deltalimen saidsilicone lube?

    Yeah, try silicone lube, sweetheart!! It's a bit pricey, BUT goes along way (bang-for-buck, if you'll allow me a bit of a double-entendre, lol). So, yeah, just RELAX (that sphincter!), precious darlin'! And definitely give silicone lube a try!!

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    Jul 11, 2011 10:32 AM GMT
    I'm also very tight, at first I didn't like it, of course the top likes it, but it's really painful for me, until someone said to me would you rather be tight or loose? I definitely choose being tight.

    Now to answer your question, what I do, is tell the top to introduce only the tip and stay like that for like a minute and then proceed to introduce another inch or so and then stay like that for a couple of minutes, this stage is still painful tho but then if he takes it out completely and then introduces it again, the second time isn't painful at all.

    This is what works for me, and I'm definitely like you guys, I bottom one day and then I'm tight as hell the next day, it's frustrating!icon_evil.gif
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    Jul 11, 2011 11:02 AM GMT
    Chattman91 saidThis is a small part of the reason for which I don't engage in anal anymore.
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    Jul 11, 2011 5:00 PM GMT
    my8kitso saidThat's the answer, butt plug! I have this bottom bitch boy who would call me saying he wanted to be fucked hard, but then when I would gently try to enter him (I'm no sadist) he'd scream like I was killing him.

    I got him a nice medium sized butt plug, then told him when he got horny for my dick in his ass, work the plug into his tight little boi hole, taking all the time he needed to get it in, then keep it there for 20 minutes, THEN call me. I told him he has to wear it when he comes over, so when he's on the cross town bus, every bump pumps his ass a little. By the time he gets to my place, I pull him in, French kiss him hard, pull his jeans down, take the plug out and fuck the hell out of him.

    He's now a happy bitch bottom who can take a proper power fuck!

    Pete


    I would have to agree this 100%. I'm a bottom and use this method. I was never a sreamer though, I have a high pain tolerance. But it does make it easier.