Friends: Players or Pieces?

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    May 10, 2011 6:18 AM GMT
    Was just thinking to myself how throughout my whole life, and especially stemming from highschool, my group of "friends" are mainly people I am connected with through partying, drinking, beachweek, etc. One can only take so much of hollow social events, right? I am beginning to realize how much I do not care about shallow socializing.

    Anyone else out there ever feel like this? What kinds of friends do you guys surround yourselves with? It seemed like fun being at the center of attention during drinking events (at my age), but I think having a couple, personal buddies would be nice.
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    May 10, 2011 6:22 AM GMT
    I made those friends in college. People you befriend fast and then lose fast. All of my true friends I made in high school (my best friend of 20 years I made in 2nd grade).
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    May 10, 2011 7:51 AM GMT
    I had a pretty large circle of friends during high school. But over the years, the circle has gotten smaller and smaller. And what I have now is a really tight knit group of true friends. People that I've known all my life, and shared a lot of experiences together. People I'd take a bullet for. icon_biggrin.gif

    Developing true friendship takes a lot of time and effort as noted above. With that said, it's harder for me to make true friends as I get older. Most people I meet these days fall within the acquaintance zone. No fault on them or me. As adults we have day jobs and other obligations that come with adulthood. So it can be challenging to find that quality time to really get to know someone. And making gay friends is even more challenging because most guys just want to get in your pants, or they only want to know you for what they can get out of you. So yeah.
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    May 10, 2011 8:16 AM GMT
    I only have one friend from college that I know I'll be with forever because we boycott all the stupid college parties and just spent time watching movies and talking about boys together.
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    May 10, 2011 11:52 AM GMT
    Never been real social to begin with. Most of my friends I made in school, and even that list gets smaller as the years go by, eh?
  • hartfan

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    May 10, 2011 1:21 PM GMT
    Ditto to what's said above. Unfortunately that is life. You just try to be ok with it.