Older with younger?

  • Inandout312

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    May 10, 2011 11:52 AM GMT
    So, I'm a young guy, but 95% of the time I'm attracted to peoplemuch older then me. Is this a problem? Is there like a stopping point age wise where it's not attractive?
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    May 10, 2011 11:54 AM GMT
    I'm 21 and I usually date guys over 30, it's no big deal.
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    May 10, 2011 3:03 PM GMT
    Lol. I think this is one of countless threads on this subject here.

    I would imagine one's desires are the stopping point.
    As long as the one you desire returns the feelings.
    That might not happen often.

    I'm 45 and I love guys younger than myself. Even late 20s or early 30s.
    I don't care what people think. Nor should you.

    (BTW you will meet more people with a profile pic, I think, lol.)
  • tazzari

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    May 10, 2011 3:22 PM GMT
    it's only a problem if YOU think it is. Be you.
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    May 10, 2011 3:41 PM GMT
    no it never stops.
    i'm the same and now at 54 i'm attracted to guys who are 100 and older.
    it gets complicated.
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    May 10, 2011 3:48 PM GMT
    theantijock saidI was always sexually attracted to much older guys until I became one. Though my first 2-year relationship was with a guy my age, my first 10-year was a year older and my 2nd 10-year almost 8 years older. Now in my 50s I mostly prefer my age to a reasonable-to-me younger or just a little older, though since burying my last two, my friends tell me to go after a young one, joking that they'll last longer.
    Much older = only an 8 year difference? icon_lol.gif
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    May 10, 2011 9:01 PM GMT
    i love older guys, i think here so hot!!!! but that's not all I'm attached to.icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 10, 2011 9:22 PM GMT
    theantijock saidMy point was that though I was sexually attracted to much older guys, I tended to develop lasting relationships with guys nearer my age. That you would seek to mock that is typical of the crap I've read you throw at others.
    It was a little TL;DR so I used selective reading.
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    May 10, 2011 9:24 PM GMT
    It shouldn't be a problem.
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    May 10, 2011 9:27 PM GMT
    I think we can all learn from each other. When I was younger I was certain that I had it all figured out; now that I'm older, I know that I don't know.
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    May 11, 2011 12:15 AM GMT
    Older yay!
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    May 11, 2011 12:21 AM GMT
    Honestly, it depends on the reasons for why you are attracted to older men...

    wealth? If it is because they are more wealthy than you then once they are not so wealthy anymore you will not be attracted to them.

    looks? Well, we all will eventually reach a stage in our life where we won't be physically attracted to one another but emotionally attracted to one another.
    70 on 80 - pretty sure the *looks* aren't what's keeping them together.

    maturity? Now THAT is a good reason to like older men... but wait... younger men can possess the same level of maturity as older men - even greater actually.


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    I guess in my eyes, you should love someone because of their maturity level and not because of their age.
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    May 11, 2011 12:34 AM GMT
    Inandout312 saidSo, I'm a young guy, but 95% of the time I'm attracted to peoplemuch older then me. Is this a problem? Is there like a stopping point age wise where it's not attractive?


    Yeah, I think you should stop around 85 yo. They tend to need to be pushed around in wheelchairs, and that's no fun for you.
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    May 11, 2011 12:40 AM GMT
    The "rule" (obviously ridiculous, but nevertheless commonplace) that I've heard is more a guide for the older guy in the relationship. It says the youngest an older guy "should" date is half his age, plus 7 years.

    So if a guy is 40, the youngest he should date is 27 (half of 40 being 20, plus 7).

    In your case (seeing as your profile says you're 18 ), the oldest you "should" date is 22 (subtracting 7 from 18 gives you 11, which you double to get 22).

    Frankly, I'd be dubious about the intentions of anyone over 22 involving himself with an 18-year-old. But maybe that's just me.
  • wellwell

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    May 11, 2011 12:41 AM GMT
    OK
  • masculumpedes

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    May 11, 2011 12:42 AM GMT
    I like dating young guys because you just know that sooner or later they are gonna need a spank. icon_twisted.gif
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    May 11, 2011 2:34 AM GMT
    I always was interested in guys older than me. At 15 I liked 25, at 25 I liked 30-40. At 29 I like 30-45.

    I am catching up to the ages I like because eventually everything starts to droop. I'm starting to find that it's actually not the age, but the look and the fact that they like younger that makes me giddy.

    It makes me kind of sad though that I would have to start calling guys younger than me "Daddy". Not that I have called people Daddy before.

    Some people keep on loving the grey and chubby look, but I don't think it'll ever happen in my libido.
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    May 12, 2011 1:10 AM GMT
    Yes to younger!!!
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    May 12, 2011 1:16 AM GMT
    not unusual at all. pretty common actually.

    I have a 21 year old guy who i've been seeing for a year. he makes me feel younger and i make him feel more mature, so he says. The reality is that i am completely immature and He's only into the muscle and the cock.

    The point is, who cares. older guys can be super hot, and some younger guys are into them because there's no attitude that comes from younger hot or built guys. Older guys treat younger guys better.

    But i think you will grow out of that as you get older. ;)
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    May 12, 2011 1:19 AM GMT
    malefeet saidI like dating young guys because you just know that sooner or later they are gonna need a spank. icon_twisted.gif




    SOO TRUE! haha just kidding. Anyways...Age is just a number,

    Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter. ~Mark Twain
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    May 12, 2011 1:34 AM GMT
    All depends...I am generally attracted to older guys as well (30-40) but would never date someone over 35 as our interests and what we have in common would be quite limited... Sex is another matter though :p
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    May 12, 2011 1:51 AM GMT
    only you can answer that.. Don't ask us idiots...
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    May 12, 2011 1:59 AM GMT
    Well, as a guy who's almost 40 and would probably now be described as "older" and who generally prefers younger guys, I'd love to say "No, no problem dating older".

    However, I do think there is some wisdom in the adage of half your age plus seven. As much as I might like younger guys, I couldn't see myself having a realistic relationship with someone younger than 26 or 27.

    You're 18. What is the age range you find yourself attracted to? If you're talking 40-something and up, I think you need to be very careful. Someone who's 40+ and wanting to date someone who's 18 is probably going to end up hurting you and/or using you in some way. Be very cautious.
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    May 12, 2011 2:18 AM GMT
    Global_Citizen saidWell, as a guy who's almost 40 and would probably now be described as "older" and who generally prefers younger guys, I'd love to say "No, no problem dating older".

    However, I do think there is some wisdom in the adage of half your age plus seven. As much as I might like younger guys, I couldn't see myself having a realistic relationship with someone younger than 26 or 27.

    You're 18. What is the age range you find yourself attracted to? If you're talking 40-something and up, I think you need to be very careful. Someone who's 40+ and wanting to date someone who's 18 is probably going to end up hurting you and/or using you in some way. Be very cautious.


    Nut uh, younger guys are the heartbreakers! its the older guys who need to be very cautious icon_cool.gif
  • BravoDC

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    May 12, 2011 2:20 AM GMT
    my range goes from 30 to 45 icon_biggrin.gif yumy!