Hi, guys. This is a very interesting forum.
I'm 51, a senior in college (graduate in May), married, very closeted, and (for lack of a better term) gay-virgin. I really hate labels. Back when I was in school the first time (30 years ago), I made a promise to myself that I would go out on EVERY blind date I was asked on, and would at least make a friend. I tried to not pre-conceive what I wanted in a wife (self denial -- gimme a break, eh?) beyond character traits. That's how I found my wife, and we've been together for 26 years (I guess I'm still in self-denial, who knows). My point is that we don't want to be tagged as "gay men" per-se, but rather, we just want to be men with a sexual preference for other men. My thought is that if we need to type men we might think about saying something like "masculine gender preference" or "feminine gender preference." I just don't like being called something. I'm just a guy. Each of you is just a guy. I think that using Masculine and Feminine are really better. I like being around masculine guys, but not so masculine that they're obnoxious. I like a touch of refinement -- gentlemen in public, and rogues in private.
As you can imagine, I'm a pretty lonely guy, being closeted and married. The counselors have told me that I need to divorce my wife, let her get on with her life, and I get on with mine. However I know that if I did that, it would humiliate and hurt my wife, and I can't do that.
By the way, each of you have incredible bodies. Very hot. I wish I looked as good as you and had come out when I was a teenager. I wouldn't be lonely now.
Please feel free to email me anytime, as I like having friends who are male with a male sexual preference. (Ha Ha -does sound funny, doesn't it?) Anyway, it makes me feel like I'm a part of it all.