Any younger guys been burnt by older guys?

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    May 12, 2011 3:30 AM GMT
    I know! there's another topic going about younger/older. But that topic was more about right and wrong in age groups. Sure it's fine to be attracted to someone 10, 20s years difference but does it actually go beyond that?

    I have been thinking about something past few days. I recently met an older guy (35). We went on our 2nd date last weekend.

    Well, I don't know where things are going to lead because I find that when I really think about the guys who have been the most flaky have been the older guys! Like, I was seriously thinking about asking this guy (and probably will if we get to date 3) what can he possibly want with someone who is 23, over 10 years his junior?

    I'm met lots of older guys and I like them because they usually have their things together, are stable, and 'seem' more mature on the surface. But I've yet to have a real relationship with someone in their 30s and 40s. It always seem they have all this baggage that they never mention, but then later down the line they are talking to someone, or just got out of a 10 year relationship and just looking for fun. But they never say that from the start. It's like as soon as things start looking 'serious' they pull back and most disappear.

    I was dating a guy in his 40s and we met about 4-5 times. He just couldn't stop talking about his X's. Every date was a date about his X. Even though I was just having fun too, and didn't see him as relationship material, he felt entitled to 'break it off' with me by telling me he wasn't wanting to be serious.

    I want to hear from younger guys who have actually dated the older ones, and the older ones who go for younger? What is that all about?
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    May 12, 2011 3:44 AM GMT
    When I was 16 (and I was in a somewhat good relationship at that time) I was with a 31 yr old man (who's name was Jon) for 18 months... slightly less than double my age at that time.

    It was good, but he used to keep things hidden from me (Afraid that I might change the way I look at him) and I did not like that. Eventually I found out about what he was trying to hide and a /dump was in order.

    For the most part though, I have met tons of sensitive and compassionate men on here who are older than me by a lot. I only dream I can meet some in reality here in TO.
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    May 12, 2011 4:03 AM GMT
    yes. still hurts.
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    May 12, 2011 2:21 PM GMT
    well, i'm not really young anymore, but when i was 19 i dated a 31yo. and i mean dated. it lasted spring and summer, but then we went to the beach and he decided to invite a 3rd in without asking me and expected me to be cool with it. the financial mismatch meant he didn't think i had an equal vote. we broke up shortly thereafter for "other reasons" but that was the actual reason.
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    May 12, 2011 2:30 PM GMT
    My relationships with older men never got passed phone sex...
    I usually end things up before i get dumped (some kind of defense mechanism)
    I usually tend to shield myself from being hurt, but recently i had somthing with this guy who i think is my age... but am keeping it a slow pace and no rush till i get to know where we are...
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    May 12, 2011 4:26 PM GMT
    Instead of living you over analyze everything, at such a young age too. icon_smile.gif
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    May 12, 2011 4:49 PM GMT
    No, but a stupid drunk girl burnt me with her cigarette in the backseat of a car last week. Bitch.
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    May 12, 2011 4:52 PM GMT
    JoeB1986 saidNo, but a stupid drunk girl burnt me with her cigarette in the backseat of a car last week. Bitch.


    Dude? Definite cuntpunch was in order, gotta capitalize on that.
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    May 12, 2011 4:54 PM GMT
    Speaking as an older gent are you serious!
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    May 12, 2011 4:55 PM GMT
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    JoeB1986 saidNo, but a stupid drunk girl burnt me with her cigarette in the backseat of a car last week. Bitch.


    Dude? Definite cuntpunch was in order, gotta capitalize on that.


    I prefer a falcon punch.

    it works everytime.

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    May 12, 2011 5:11 PM GMT
    Didn't you just state in another one of your threads that you get paid for your dates?

    Maybe the older men get what they want and no longer want to pay?

    Or.. maybe they just don't want to get serious with someone that has that type of "career" and reputation?

    "Dating" a man "for pay" and "marrying" a man "for pay" are two different things.

    I'm not passing judgment or saying there is anything wrong with your chosen career... I'm just stating that many men consider your type as fun for a date or two but would never want to marry that same man, or even get serious with him.
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    May 12, 2011 5:25 PM GMT
    I think it is all about what appeals to you. For some younger men, that is someone older and those characteristics that are more common in an older man. The same for an older man who is more interested in younger men.
    Of the four men i have dated, three were older (15, 12, and 4 years) and one youger (by 11 years) who happens to be my current partner of 4+ years. Although i am typically more physically attracted to an older man, my partner is an example of someone with the complete package and that in-itself is sexy!
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    May 12, 2011 5:53 PM GMT
    If you are attracted to Older 19 to 90 and the feelings are mutual. There should be no problem. But (there is always a but) you will find the older man may always have the most to loose by a total committment because you been the younger will always have the temptation to pull (its a gay thing) just because you can with your good looks and charm. The older guy will always be aware of this and will find it difficult to give total committment until you can prove to him that he is the only one for you. Some young people only fancy older guys it is just they way their bent works. If I had the choice at the age of 23 again I would just get on with it and enjoy my young freedom while I can and the serious relationship will take care of itself later on.
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    May 12, 2011 6:10 PM GMT
    _Mohammed_ said
    KardioKing said
    JoeB1986 saidNo, but a stupid drunk girl burnt me with her cigarette in the backseat of a car last week. Bitch.


    Dude? Definite cuntpunch was in order, gotta capitalize on that.


    I prefer a falcon punch.

    it works everytime.

    Falcon_Punch_GIF_Animation_by_PatPatPR.g


    I think a combination fo the two would be best.
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    May 12, 2011 6:54 PM GMT
    BTW I thought you were leaving us yesterday? Couldn't do it could ya icon_cool.gif

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    May 12, 2011 6:56 PM GMT
    JoeB1986 said
    _Mohammed_ said
    KardioKing said
    JoeB1986 saidNo, but a stupid drunk girl burnt me with her cigarette in the backseat of a car last week. Bitch.


    Dude? Definite cuntpunch was in order, gotta capitalize on that.


    I prefer a falcon punch.

    it works everytime.

    Falcon_Punch_GIF_Animation_by_PatPatPR.g


    I think a combination fo the two would be best.


    Hmm, a falcon-cunt punch. Sounds promising, will have to test this.
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    May 12, 2011 6:57 PM GMT
    KardioKing said
    Hmm, a falcon-cunt punch. Sounds promising, will have to test this.

    Sounds like a non-painful way of fisting...

    =/ xD
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    Jul 09, 2011 6:20 PM GMT
    _Mohammed_ saidWhen I was 16 (and I was in a somewhat good relationship at that time) I was with a 31 yr old man (who's name was Jon) for 18 months... slightly less than double my age at that time.

    It was good, but he used to keep things hidden from me (Afraid that I might change the way I look at him) and I did not like that. Eventually I found out about what he was trying to hide and a /dump was in order.

    For the most part though, I have met tons of sensitive and compassionate men on here who are older than me by a lot. I only dream I can meet some in reality here in TO.

    Honesty, candor, forthrightness...is the best policy. That's just my own life experience (I'm loathe to somewhat conceitedly call it wisdom) talkin'!! I'm sorry Jon hurt you, Mohammed. Clark (who is five yrs my junior) hurt me as well! I'll probably tell you the story sometime, if you're interested. (It's actually a bit hard to fathom how/why it is you don't have men falling all over themselves to be with you, you lil incandescent hottie, you!! icon_lol.gificon_wink.gif )
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    Jul 09, 2011 11:43 PM GMT
    older guys are usually more fucked up then the younger ones.

    Personally I prefer the younger guys (mind you I'm only 2icon_cool.gif cause they usually aren't so beaten around as to feel this stupid need to hide everything to "appear cool" cause ya know, letting a guy know you like him is just all needy and shit like that right.

    Then you gotta deal with the whole fact that lots of them where in the closet for years, tried to have a relationship with girls, bla bla bla, stunted emotionally. Got a lot of crap to deal with and all that crap.

    OR

    They came out, found the "gay scene" and then became a mirror for all the dramatised bullshit and breakin a nail becomes headline news worthy.

    Younger guys, or at least the ones I've come across tend to be a lot more calm, easily excited, but calm. Plus they let on pretty quickly that they like you.. Yeah it's short lived, but that's okay. icon_twisted.gif