This guy lied to me, should i forgive him

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    May 12, 2011 8:01 AM GMT
    Ok i met this guy we talked for like a week he was like o i ike you we should meet and chill and hangout ur a nice guy i wanna take u out, but as always he just drops off the map i would text him and hardly got a reply. he never called like he said so i went on his Facebook page he was like i like this guy hope to see him again tonight, he makes me feel complete. then the next day was like i love my baby miss him already. Ok dude juss 2 days ago u was making plans to meet me and wanted to date and shit but now out of the blue u got a man that quick.

    I never approached him about it but i said if he ever says anything to me he is getting it. ok he messaged me like sayin hi whats sup im single now we should talk i missed you. i let him have it i told him how i felt how he is dumb and called him on every lie he said and asked how u not know u had a possible BF after u started dating him a few days after u were trying to make plans with me. He appologized and shit, as always, and i was like im no backup hoe im top priority after family and kidz. He was like ur not a backup i promise but ok what am i then. u had a main dude and me u chose him and when it ended u wanted to get back with me like nothing happened im like u like from hello, how can i trust u. He was like i know but i want to do better.

    Now my question is by being blunt and str8 up and saying i cant trust you, is that enuff should i forgive him and give him a chance because i have very bad trust issues mom almost got me sued because i paid for some o my cousins college with my credit card she was holding back when i was 18 and she said i could not manage it then when i was 3 i started a savings for college she cleared it out by 8 or 9th grade. dad lied to me invited me to wedding then never told me details till a couple days before, o i was gonna be the best man, and then he never liked me from birth never tells me of family events and lie to family like i didnt want to come then all my friends use me so i have trust issues. I am just like should i try to be nicer and give him a chance because last time i did this my ex fucked my ex i lost my virginity to and said it was my fault o yea he hit me also and we had a fight, but that is a whole other chapter in my life. What do yall think?

    ps its long and not a good grammar but its late and my eyes hurt so do ur best
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    May 12, 2011 8:02 AM GMT
    Never trust anyone who lies to you
    Never lie to anyone who trusts you.
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    May 12, 2011 8:06 AM GMT
    TrevorMark saidNever trust anyone who lies to you
    Never lie to anyone who trusts you.


    my thoughts i dont trust my mom or dad really, mom got mad at me because she pissed me off and i didnt say happy mothers day i was like o well
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    May 12, 2011 8:12 AM GMT

    Will u just call me.. So I guess ur talking to other guys..Fenix this time I am really not talking to anyone I promise.. Wat do I have to do to show u that I am not...



    Call me!!!!!!!!Why r u being an ass .


    3:07am
    how am i being a ass u took 3 months to hit me back and u did that ater ur bf left u or whatever like i am a rebound u were a douche bag lying asshole


    this is his last message to me lol
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    May 12, 2011 8:17 AM GMT
    full message well some of it see if i am wrong in this:


    Who me?I want to make ur eyes open up and see me for me I am a sweet person, loving.. Very out going.. Love to make ppl happy.I am tied of being lonely and going to bed alone!Lets try to work this out..No I am not lost and I know myself and what I want omg





    im going to bed goodnight .



    Goodnight bae.



    Good afternoom.


    4:28pm
    HeyI guess that ur upset wit me.



    Hey.



    yo


    Hey I just got out of the showet.



    o .



    How r u doing?.


    9:14pm
    ok doing classes.



    Hey.



    yea


    Hey broFenix if u want me to leave alone I will.
    Today




    Sup.



    I get ur hint now Call me plz and lets work this out!!.



    what hint .


    1:56am
    U dont want to talk to meCall me plz.. 5016975831.



    we can talk on here .



    My fone is almost died.. All I have asked u to do is forgive me Ur not some fuckin backup U can take it whatever u want I know the truth.. But thats wats up. Good nighy.



    night .



    I care bout u but r u really going to be like that wit meJust call me plzCall me and lets talk bout this plz for meI am tryin to show u that I care!!.



    ur phone is about to die .



    I am bout to plug it up.. I will explain it to u wen u call.



    hmmmm.



    Plz fenixHelloHey plz call me.



    i am about to head to bed .



    Call me firstPleaseWhere u talking bout me .



    on what.



    Suppose to be on craiglist but where u referring butbfbCan u call me I know that I was wrong and I wished u would trust me again.



    no it was a another boy.



    How old was he.



    14 or 15.



    I do look at ur fbSo was that guy hot lolCall me right quick please .



    nope he got a page on ehrehere.



    I do want to get to know u fenix and I am not seeing anyone nor talking to anyoneI am going to bet u lolStop playin shitWhy would I want to I am tryin to talk to the man I want to be wit but I dont want anything to do wit me.. He.



    i wonder y .



    I am going to leave u alone after tonight.. It was nice tryin to get to know u but has much as I try u push.. So I am going to leave u alone. I know i hurt u.. Bye fenix.



    night night .



    Fenix call me Stop playin call me .



    im not playin .



    Will u just call me.. So I guess ur talking to other guys..Fenix this time I am really not talking to anyone I promise.. Wat do I have to do to show u that I am not...



    Call me!!!!!!!!Why r u being an ass .



    how am i being a ass u took 3 months to hit me back and u did that ater ur bf left u or whatever like i am a rebound u were a douche bag lying asshole so dont call me a ass.
    Jonathan is offline.







    END... i was nice tonite
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    May 12, 2011 4:16 PM GMT
    Are you still interested in him? If so are you prepared to be lied to in the future? If you answered yes for both then have at it. If you are not than dont let him waste your time. You seem alright and where you try to make people happy is what has got you in over your head. I am not knockin you but I can remember as a kid someone always saying people dont use you, you allow them to! Basically at some point you yourself have to determine I am worth more than their happiness. If you can be happy and still make others happy enjoy...but dont place their happiness ahead of your own. My opinion he's an ass and I would reject the texts.
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    May 12, 2011 4:18 PM GMT
    If someone lies to you once, they'll do it again.
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    May 12, 2011 4:26 PM GMT
    trust is a funny thing.

    someone can tell you the truth as they know it, but it be inaccurate...they're not lying..they're just wrong or uninform..they're hones..you can trust them

    someone can tell you the truth, it's accurate...you can trust them

    someone misrepresents something knowingly....you can't trust them to be honest, or accurate....but you can trust them to be someone you can't trust...so don't invest in the idea that they are honest or accurate....


    as long as you know this stuff upfront and consciously, there's no problem

    lots of people date liars
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    May 12, 2011 5:55 PM GMT
    Suck on his left nut gently as you massage his right nut. You should feel his head right at your nostrils.... Smells good doesn't it ;)
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    May 12, 2011 6:29 PM GMT
    I know nothing about this guy or you, so I am not speaking specifically about your situation, but I believe everyone is capable of evolving. I've forgiven myself for not being perfect, so it's only fair that I extend that courtesy to others.

    Most people are just trying to figure out how to find/be loved. They aren't in some Dr. Evil mode trying to destroy you. Instead of holding onto anger and resentment, wish them well, let go and find people who will encourage your own evolution rather than hold you back.

    I've become much more wary of people who speak in absolute terms, (or spew generally accepted cliches about trust and lying), than those who acknowledge wrongdoing and ask for forgiveness.
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    May 12, 2011 6:34 PM GMT
    Why explain anything? Drop him without words and move on. He doesn't care how you feel and your words will mean nothing.

    Plenty of fish in the sea.
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    May 12, 2011 6:35 PM GMT
    MNrunner2003 saidI know nothing about this guy or you, so I am not speaking specifically about your situation, but I believe everyone is capable of evolving. I've forgiven myself for not being perfect, so it's only fair that I extend that courtesy to others.

    Most people are just trying to figure out how to find/be loved. They aren't in some Dr. Evil mode trying to destroy you. Instead of holding onto anger and resentment, wish them well, let go and find people who will encourage your own evolution rather than hold you back.

    I've become much more wary of people who speak in absolute terms, (or spew generally accepted cliches about trust and lying), than those who acknowledge wrongdoing and ask for forgiveness.


    this is a beautifully expressed thought
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    May 12, 2011 6:55 PM GMT
    FS696 said1:56am
    U dont want to talk to meCall me plz.. 5016975831.

    I like how I couldn't understand 99% of that conversation AND there's a phone number in the middle of it.
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    May 12, 2011 6:57 PM GMT
    Never trust anyone who willingly posts people's phone numbers on message boards.

    And who is aged 14 or 15?
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    May 12, 2011 8:32 PM GMT
    dayumm saidNever trust anyone who willingly posts people's phone numbers on message boards.

    And who is aged 14 or 15?


    Agreed. That's completely invading some random dudes privacy by posting it on the internet. That's a lil and by a lil I mean a lot, shady.
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    May 12, 2011 8:35 PM GMT
    why would you forgive somebody you barely know? did they earn your trust that quickly?