WUT? Another FTF thread about gym creepery? NO WAI!!!1

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    May 13, 2011 12:55 AM GMT
    So... I just had an awesome shoulder workout.

    However, in the middle thereof, I was getting a drink (of WATER, you pervs) at the drinking fountain. A semi-obvious late-20s gay couple was standing behind me. After I finished my drink and began to head back toward the weights, I overheard one of the couple say "that guy's hot." His partner agreed. I heard them both since I was like 6 feet away. Like, seriously, if you're going to comment on someone's appearance, either commend them on their hard work to their face or wait until they won't hear how you've been checking them out. Just common sense/courtesy/what have you...

    In addition, since everyone is expecting it, and the gym is not IRL Manhunt:

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    May 13, 2011 4:59 AM GMT
    FearTheFall saidSo... I just had an awesome shoulder workout.

    However, in the middle thereof, I was getting a drink (of WATER, you pervs) at the drinking fountain. A semi-obvious late-20s gay couple was standing behind me. After I finished my drink and began to head back toward the weights, I overheard one of the couple say "that guy's hot." His partner agreed. I heard them both since I was like 6 feet away. Like, seriously, if you're going to comment on someone's appearance, either commend them on their hard work to their face or wait until they won't hear how you've been checking them out. Just common sense/courtesy/what have you...

    In addition, since everyone is expecting it, and the gym is not IRL Manhunt:

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    May 13, 2011 5:04 AM GMT
    I find that you're overreacting about this situation. I didn't cruise at my gym but I could compliment or outrightly say it to my gym buddies that I found someone relatively attractive or thought they were a looker. A polite smile will do... not a thread on RJ bitching about someone complimenting you. icon_razz.gif

    Especially if they're not actually creepy.
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    May 13, 2011 5:27 AM GMT
    TrevorMark saidI find that you're overreacting about this situation. I didn't cruise at my gym but I could compliment or outrightly say it to my gym buddies that I found someone relatively attractive or thought they were a looker. A polite smile will do... not a thread on RJ bitching about someone complimenting you. icon_razz.gif

    Especially if they're not actually creepy.


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    May 13, 2011 5:30 AM GMT
    The issue here is not that it was done so much as how. Like, do people not realize it's considered rude to talk about others behind their backs - and if you're gonna do that, why not do it when they won't hear you so you aren't being overtly rude?
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    May 13, 2011 5:38 AM GMT
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    TrevorMark saidI find that you're overreacting about this situation. I didn't cruise at my gym but I could compliment or outrightly say it to my gym buddies that I found someone relatively attractive or thought they were a looker. A polite smile will do... not a thread on RJ bitching about someone complimenting you. icon_razz.gif

    Especially if they're not actually creepy.


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    May 13, 2011 5:39 AM GMT
    FearTheFall saidThe issue here is not that it was done so much as how. Like, do people not realize it's considered rude to talk about others behind their backs - and if you're gonna do that, why not do it when they won't hear you so you aren't being overtly rude?

    If it's a compliment, it's really not overtly rude.

    If I were saying, "Wow! That woman's eyes are REALLY far apart!" outloud, it would be extremely out of line.

    Sure, thinking about it and not saying it is the conservative or subdued way to do it... but if I have my gym buddy there, I'll probably make a comment or shoot a look to them and then look directly at the subject.
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    May 13, 2011 5:42 AM GMT
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    FearTheFall saidThe issue here is not that it was done so much as how. Like, do people not realize it's considered rude to talk about others behind their backs - and if you're gonna do that, why not do it when they won't hear you so you aren't being overtly rude?

    If it's a compliment, it's really not overtly rude.

    If I were saying, "Wow! That woman's eyes are REALLY far apart!" outloud, it would be extremely out of line.

    Sure, thinking about it and not saying it is the conservative or subdued way to do it... but if I have my gym buddy there, I'll probably make a comment or shoot a look to them and then look directly at the subject.


    But when the subject can clearly hear you?
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    May 13, 2011 5:45 AM GMT
    FearTheFall said
    But when the subject can clearly hear you?

    Not everyone thinks they have to be subtle.

    I doubt it actually bothers you THAT much and if it does... where the fuck have you lived all your life where that's a serious "respect" issue? icon_razz.gif
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    May 13, 2011 5:47 AM GMT
    TrevorMark said
    FearTheFall said
    But when the subject can clearly hear you?

    Not everyone thinks they have to be subtle.

    I doubt it actually bothers you THAT much and if it does... where the fuck have you lived all your life where that's a serious "respect" issue? icon_razz.gif


    It's just not polite, is all. And given how much other... impoliteness... gay guys are responsible for at the gym, it's like, come on now. There was another thread on here about the gay community being its biggest PR problem. keep that in mind - if I were straight, would those guys have given me a good impression of gay people? No, I would probably think they were creepy and only at the gym to stare at guys, reinforcing stereotypes.
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    May 13, 2011 5:52 AM GMT
    FearTheFall said
    It's just not polite, is all. And given how much other... impoliteness... gay guys are responsible for at the gym, it's like, come on now. There was another thread on here about the gay community being its biggest PR problem. keep that in mind - if I were straight, would those guys have given me a good impression of gay people? No, I would probably think they were creepy and only at the gym to stare at guys, reinforcing stereotypes.


    Re-read this.
    It's far too concerned with other people's perceptions of "your" gay community. Instead of seeing people represent themselves, you consider a couple or a few representing all.

    You even know your thought process on this is flawed yet complain about it.

    If I told you I think ac represents who YOU are as a person, would that be incorrect?

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    May 13, 2011 6:00 AM GMT
    TrevorMark said
    FearTheFall said
    It's just not polite, is all. And given how much other... impoliteness... gay guys are responsible for at the gym, it's like, come on now. There was another thread on here about the gay community being its biggest PR problem. keep that in mind - if I were straight, would those guys have given me a good impression of gay people? No, I would probably think they were creepy and only at the gym to stare at guys, reinforcing stereotypes.


    Re-read this.
    It's far too concerned with other people's perceptions of "your" gay community. Instead of seeing people represent themselves, you consider a couple or a few representing all.

    You even know your thought process on this is flawed yet complain about it.

    If I told you I think ac represents who YOU are as a person, would that be incorrect?

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    They represent themselves, true, but stereotypes are formed when people see members of a certain group engaging in certain behaviors repeatedly, like, for example, Muslims blowing themselves up. In turn, these stereotypes affect all gay people. For a straight guy with limited exposure to gay people and likely holding some misinformation to see this behavior would not be good exposure for the gay community.
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    May 13, 2011 6:04 AM GMT
    who cares what straight people think geez

    or straight guys, since thats what most gays seem to care about
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    May 13, 2011 6:07 AM GMT
    FearTheFall said
    They represent themselves, true, but stereotypes are formed when people see members of a certain group engaging in certain behaviors repeatedly, like, for example, Muslims blowing themselves up. In turn, these stereotypes affect all gay people. For a straight guy with limited exposure to gay people and likely holding some misinformation to see this behavior would not be good exposure for the gay community.

    Annnd that would be a misinformed and ignorant straight person.

    I think you're trying to "protect" people from seeing the different types of while you label them gay or straight when the bottom line is they're just human. A straight guy will hit on a girl at the gym rudely... just means he's a douchebag... same would be if a gay guy does it to another guy if it gets a negative reaction.


    What's more interesting is what I've seen from a lot of your posts is that you want people to be exposed to only a certain kind of behavior you deem acceptable which doesn't let individuality deviate whatsoever from a long dead "norm". Hate to break it to you... a frilly gay is still a gay. You're still a gay. You're kind of different from them and are an exception to a worn, dead stereotype. Embrace that shit and quit stressin' the stupid stuff.
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    May 13, 2011 6:10 AM GMT
    Wait a minute, its rude for them to comment on you when you are close......but you can make a thread about them when because they won't see it icon_razz.gif

    Why can't you just turn around and take the compliment? As long as they weren't turbo creepy at least lol.
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    May 13, 2011 6:17 AM GMT
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    What's more interesting is what I've seen from a lot of your posts is that you want people to be exposed to only a certain kind of behavior you deem acceptable which doesn't let individuality deviate whatsoever from a long dead "norm". Hate to break it to you... a frilly gay is still a gay. You're still a gay. You're kind of different from them and are an exception to a worn, dead stereotype. Embrace that shit and quit stressin' the stupid stuff.


    Individuality is great, however, stuff that is both rude and potentially damaging to the cause of gay acceptance should really be frowned upon... misinformation needs to be fought, not contributed to... gay men should understand this lol
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    May 13, 2011 6:22 AM GMT
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    Individuality is great, however, stuff that is both rude and potentially damaging to the cause of gay acceptance should really be frowned upon... misinformation needs to be fought, not contributed to... gay men should understand this lol

    We're definitely not going to see eye to eye on this.

    End post, you're bitching over nothing and you know it. Could have easily revive another one of your threads complaining about relatively the same thing and didn't. Not too different from AC. xD icon_razz.gif
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    May 13, 2011 6:23 AM GMT
    FearTheFall said287571_745205.jpg
    Does your boyfriend know you're cheating on him?
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    May 13, 2011 6:28 AM GMT
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    FearTheFall said287571_745205.jpg
    Does your boyfriend know you're cheating on him?


    1) what boyfriend?

    2) pics or it didn't happen.
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    May 13, 2011 6:30 AM GMT
    FearTheFall saidAfter I finished my drink and began to head back toward the weights, I overheard one of the couple say "that guy's hot." His partner agreed.

    Did they say "that guy who was just at the fountain" or just "that guy?" I know that you feel it was you (or this thread would not have appeared) but were they staring at you or just looking in your direction (at the hunk behind you?)

    You are hot, but could you be upset because you misinterpreted the situation?
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    May 13, 2011 6:41 AM GMT
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    FearTheFall saidAfter I finished my drink and began to head back toward the weights, I overheard one of the couple say "that guy's hot." His partner agreed.

    Did they say "that guy who was just at the fountain" or just "that guy?" I know that you feel it was you (or this thread would not have appeared) but were they staring at you or just looking in your direction (at the hunk behind you?)

    You are hot, but could you be upset because you misinterpreted the situation?


    It was me, and the couple. That's it.
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    May 13, 2011 6:44 AM GMT
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    paulflexes said
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    Does your boyfriend know you're cheating on him?


    1) what boyfriend?

    2) pics or it didn't happen.
    3) Video pwns pics.
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    May 13, 2011 10:08 AM GMT
    I wish the only problem I had to worry about was getting complimented at the gym! I wouldn't mind having that 'problem'! icon_rolleyes.gif

    I could sort of understand if you felt uncomfortable if they'd made some really lewd/crass remark (see: "I wouldn't mind squatting on him!" or "He can pump me up any day") but really, being called hot should make you feel good not feel creeped on. I think you have issues!
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    May 13, 2011 10:32 AM GMT
    If you are so insecure and hyper-fucking-sensitive, then don't leave the house.