go_vols saidso since coming out in January, I've gone out on a handful of dates with some super nice guys...but the chemistry just isn't there.I have a dating curse...go out on one date and that's as far as it goes. urgh!
Has this happened to any of you guys? Starting to get a little discouraged here!
I don't think you have a dating curse Brad, but I wonder if you might really just not be up for getting involved with anyone at this point. I mean, you've only been out for what...five months now?
You're a handsome fella, so I'm sure that you probably garner a fair amount of interest...perhaps deep down, you're feeling a bit restless, and you want to enjoy the attention other guys are giving you?
Or perhaps you're too reliant on the internet to meet these guys? Don't get me wrong: it's a good tool...but I suspect it's a better tool for hooking up with guys for sex than it will ever be for meeting quality guys for dating and relationships!
My experience has been that the most successful dates that led to relationships that really meant something to me generally came from people I already kind of knew: this is why if someone was asking me for advice on where to meet good guys, I'd suggest they get out and join a gay social club, or sports team, or volunteer organization.
It's not an immediate answer, but if you meet someone in one of those places, chances are you'll get to know them, and you'll already have a good read on whether there is chemistry there or not. When that happens, if you go out on a date with one of them, a big part of the pressure is off, and you can just enjoy their company.
Don't get discouraged...at least you're out there meeting people. If you've managed to expand your circle of friends, that in and of itself would be a success, would it not?