tobyb saidI don't think it diminishes a wedding to say it's a gay wedding, any more than it would diminish it to say you were at a jewish or hindu wedding.
That, however, was tangential thinking. How funny.
Assuming you are bouncing off my post in using the word "diminish" which I just used and so to clarify ... Apologies if I got that wrong.
How you got from that to a retort that gay weddings are not diminishing is beyond anything I mentioned. Please let me know if I need clarify further.
I wasn't addressing your remark at all, I was reacting to the OP's complaint about the use of the term "gay marriage." No apology needed, though thanks, and I didn't mean my post as a retort to yours, so I hope you don't take offense. No need to clarify what you meant at all.
I liked what our Canadian friend just said: the world is not there yet on assuming that a marriage may be a gay one. As gay people are the exception and not the rule, we may never get there. And that's OK.
An entirely unprejudiced people might mistakenly assume a gay person they just met is straight. An entirely unprejudiced person might incorrectly assume that a reference to a wedding implied there was a bride. These things just happen, but as gay people, we experience that all the time, whereas straight people only experience them a small portion of the time, often only when someone speaks up to correct them. Our different perspective makes us better attuned that most people to these details, and makes us responsible for correcting others' incorrect assumptions. I like that.