"GAY" MARRIAGE?!

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    May 13, 2011 6:19 PM GMT
    I just had lunch, but it wasn't a "gay" lunch. I parked my car, but i didnt "gay" park it. So why is it that we are defined by being GAY? I'm tired of it.

    People seriously need to grow up and stop categorizing people! If gays want to get married then what's the BIG problem?


    It's not "GAY" marriage; it's just MARRIAGE.
  • alphatop

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    May 14, 2011 3:09 AM GMT
    AleksandrDissan saidI just had brunch, but it wasn't a "gay" brunch. I parked my car, but i didnt "gay" park it. So why is it that we are defined by being GAY? I'm tired of it.

    People seriously need to grow up and stop categorizing people! If gays want to get married then what's the BIG problem?


    It's not "GAY" marriage; it's just MARRIAGE.


    Dude, are you gay?icon_lol.gif
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    May 14, 2011 3:13 AM GMT
    You're absolutely right.
    Gay = Happy
    If you're not happy, you can't have a gay marriage.
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    May 14, 2011 3:19 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidYou're absolutely right.
    Gay = Happy
    If you're not happy, you can't have a gay marriage.


    And if ur not gay, u can't have a happy marriage.
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    May 14, 2011 10:36 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidYou're absolutely right.
    Gay = Happy
    If you're not happy, you can't have a gay marriage.


    No gay once was to + happy and bright.

    Now it + any Tom dick and Harriot, that may well be very angry, and even bisexual too; and with all the confusion that comes with that, could never = happy.

    No gay once was to = happy.

    Now it's =s homosexuality, where bisexuals stand under our banner too.

    But.......then gay also =s weired, dumb too.

    To to many the term Gay Marriage does = Gay as in dumb, weired.
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    May 14, 2011 10:41 AM GMT
    One has asked many a time why use "gay marriage" instead of another term like "Civil Unions." After all they have already changed the term marriage into gay marriage, and not just let it be marriage. So why not Civil Unions, and make that our own, and leave marriage to the straights and our half brothers the bisexuals who already get married.
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    May 14, 2011 11:49 AM GMT
    How about just Civin Unions for everyone. The word "marriage" brings with it too much religious baggage here in the U.S. By allowing the clergy to perform the role of solemnizer of a civil marriage we've made it so that people think "marriage" and we think of a big wedding in a church. Let''s take away this ability from the clergy and just be "civil".
  • Delivis

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    May 14, 2011 12:46 PM GMT
    As long as the term gay marriage denotes nothing but the idea of same sex couples getting married legally, i dont see any problem with the term.
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    May 14, 2011 5:40 PM GMT
    Delivis saidAs long as the term gay marriage denotes nothing but the idea of same sex couples getting married legally, i dont see any problem with the term.



    I agree
  • Teqkilla42

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    May 14, 2011 5:43 PM GMT
    Isn't brunch just gay by default?

    Nah, I'm just playing. icon_razz.gif
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    May 14, 2011 5:48 PM GMT
    AleksandrDissan saidI just had lunch, but it wasn't a "gay" lunch. I parked my car, but i didnt "gay" park it. So why is it that we are defined by being GAY? I'm tired of it.

    People seriously need to grow up and stop categorizing people! If gays want to get married then what's the BIG problem?


    It's not "GAY" marriage; it's just MARRIAGE.




    But I just had sex. And it was definitely GAY sex.
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    May 14, 2011 5:58 PM GMT
    JAKEBENSON said
    AleksandrDissan saidI just had lunch, but it wasn't a "gay" lunch. I parked my car, but i didnt "gay" park it. So why is it that we are defined by being GAY? I'm tired of it.

    People seriously need to grow up and stop categorizing people! If gays want to get married then what's the BIG problem?


    It's not "GAY" marriage; it's just MARRIAGE.




    But I just had sex. And it was definitely GAY sex.


    HAHAHAHAHA. amen to that brother!!
  • coolarmydude

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    May 14, 2011 6:17 PM GMT
    Toe-may-toe : Toe-mah-toe

    When you get into an argument about semantics, you've gone on a tangent that's not really at issue.
  • Mepark

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    May 14, 2011 6:33 PM GMT
    AleksandrDissan saidI just had lunch, but it wasn't a "gay" lunch. I parked my car, but i didnt "gay" park it. So why is it that we are defined by being GAY? I'm tired of it.

    People seriously need to grow up and stop categorizing people! If gays want to get married then what's the BIG problem?


    It's not "GAY" marriage; it's just MARRIAGE.


    Um, we are the ones that call it "gay marriage" as well. We categorize ourselves all the time. Take a look at this website.
  • tobyb

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    May 14, 2011 9:19 PM GMT
    I don't think it diminishes a wedding to say it's a gay wedding, any more than it would diminish it to say you were at a jewish or hindu wedding.

    The parking and the brunch look the same whether the person driving or eating is gay or not. But both sex and a wedding DO look different when it's gay people doing it.

    I am happy when I hear gay people want to get married, but I get worried when I hear people say that they want their wedding to JUST LIKE a straight person's wedding. It's not the same, it's different: there's more testosterone and less oestrogen (when it's two guys, anyway), there's less menstruation and less worrying about birth control, and there are two guys or gals, not one of each. And that's fine.

    I don't want to pretend being gay is the same as being straight when we know it's not. I think it's useful to acknowledge and even revel in that difference and be happy about it. So personally, I don't see a big need to describe gay people's relationships using exactly the same words used by straight people.
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    May 15, 2011 1:10 AM GMT
    I feel the same way about MALE nurses and MALE models... i mean c'mon!icon_rolleyes.gif
  • barriehomeboy

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    May 15, 2011 1:46 AM GMT
    The world is ruled by women, (face it, who really controls the men who control the world?) and women love labels. They use them to slot us all into conventient cubicles of behavriour. They're all fucked in the head of course, being women. Yikes I hope there are no lesbians on this site.
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    May 15, 2011 3:29 AM GMT
    AleksandrDissan saidI just had lunch, but it wasn't a "gay" lunch. I parked my car, but i didnt "gay" park it. So why is it that we are defined by being GAY? I'm tired of it.

    People seriously need to grow up and stop categorizing people! If gays want to get married then what's the BIG problem?


    It's not "GAY" marriage; it's just MARRIAGE.



    Good point.
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    May 15, 2011 2:29 PM GMT
    Scruffypup said
    AleksandrDissan saidI just had lunch, but it wasn't a "gay" lunch. I parked my car, but i didnt "gay" park it. So why is it that we are defined by being GAY? I'm tired of it.

    People seriously need to grow up and stop categorizing people! If gays want to get married then what's the BIG problem?


    It's not "GAY" marriage; it's just MARRIAGE.



    Good point.

    lol, when we married, we married. We didn't gay marry. What's that?

    Marriage is the exchanging of declarative vows of love that are legally binding.

    How's that?

    -Doug
  • tobyb

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    May 15, 2011 5:35 PM GMT
    theantijock said
    tobyb saidI don't think it diminishes a wedding to say it's a gay wedding, any more than it would diminish it to say you were at a jewish or hindu wedding.


    That, however, was tangential thinking. How funny.

    Assuming you are bouncing off my post in using the word "diminish" which I just used and so to clarify ... Apologies if I got that wrong.

    ...
    How you got from that to a retort that gay weddings are not diminishing is beyond anything I mentioned. Please let me know if I need clarify further.


    I wasn't addressing your remark at all, I was reacting to the OP's complaint about the use of the term "gay marriage." No apology needed, though thanks, and I didn't mean my post as a retort to yours, so I hope you don't take offense. No need to clarify what you meant at all.

    I liked what our Canadian friend just said: the world is not there yet on assuming that a marriage may be a gay one. As gay people are the exception and not the rule, we may never get there. And that's OK.

    An entirely unprejudiced people might mistakenly assume a gay person they just met is straight. An entirely unprejudiced person might incorrectly assume that a reference to a wedding implied there was a bride. These things just happen, but as gay people, we experience that all the time, whereas straight people only experience them a small portion of the time, often only when someone speaks up to correct them. Our different perspective makes us better attuned that most people to these details, and makes us responsible for correcting others' incorrect assumptions. I like that.
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    May 15, 2011 5:39 PM GMT
    I think the world should just move beyond marriage. Many of them don't last anyway and the law has no business in personal relationships. Just get rid of all of them.
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    May 15, 2011 8:45 PM GMT
    AleksandrDissan saidI just had lunch, but it wasn't a "gay" lunch. I parked my car, but i didnt "gay" park it. So why is it that we are defined by being GAY? I'm tired of it.

    People seriously need to grow up and stop categorizing people! If gays want to get married then what's the BIG problem?


    It's not "GAY" marriage; it's just MARRIAGE.


    I think this is simply because marriage (and relationships) generally refers to one man and one woman and that's the default. It's different than having lunch or parking your car which doesn't imply any sort of relationship. I'm gay, and when I hear that someone is in a relationship or is getting married, I usually assume it's a heterosexual relationship because that's just the norm.

    I think categorizing people is, to some extent, natural. What is more dangerous is what people base their categorizations on. I don't think categorizing someone as gay, or marriage as being a gay one, is inherently offensive. There are so many bigger problems we face, I really wouldn't sweat this one if I were you. icon_smile.gif
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    May 15, 2011 9:09 PM GMT
    When it comes to fight for your rights you cant just pretend to blend in.
  • dannyboy1101

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    May 15, 2011 9:37 PM GMT
    Organized religion that wants to stay in the 50's is the problem. If the world changes then they become less relevant bc government would be saying what is good and bad instead of their telephone version of god. The result? They would make less money and carry less power. Nobody wants to lose those things once they get them
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    May 15, 2011 9:46 PM GMT
    I've been married. I would not want to do it again with a man or a woman. I'm all for equal rights but I sure wouldn't want to marry another man.