Did you sleep with a lot of women before you came out?

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    May 14, 2011 5:25 AM GMT
    And, did you know you were gay the whole time, yet tried to fight it? Is this common for guys struggling with their sexuality?
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    May 14, 2011 5:32 AM GMT
    I only slept with one woman before I came out... I guess I was bi at that time... but turned gay as I neared 16...
    I didn't try to fight it... well now I do... but back then no.
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    May 14, 2011 7:07 AM GMT
    Nope, never slept with anyone before... although I'm technically not "out" yet.

    Although, I used to think I was bi, but I think that was just me being hopeful more than anything.
  • safety43_mma1...

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    May 14, 2011 7:19 AM GMT
    i slept with 2 before i came out so no.
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    May 14, 2011 7:54 AM GMT
    Nope, blowjobs only, pussy is gross. These were all drunken high school hook-ups anyway, I would never put myself through the misery of dating a girl. PASS!
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    May 14, 2011 7:56 AM GMT
    I have dated a girl in early high school, but never had sex with her... thank God icon_rolleyes.gif
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    May 14, 2011 12:12 PM GMT
    What was going through you mind when you did. Were you into it, or were you somewhere else...
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    May 14, 2011 12:16 PM GMT
    I came out at 16. I had 4 girlfriends up to that point. I went went as far as second base. I wasn't even really interested in going there, and yes I was thinking about my best friend (male) the whole time. It was the only way for me to stay aroused.
  • upsguy68

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    May 14, 2011 12:26 PM GMT
    I have always been physically attracted to MEN, but emotionally attracted to females. I had sex with only 1 female just to prove to myself that I was
    and always will be GAY!!
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    May 14, 2011 1:13 PM GMT
    Yeah. We used to have group sex with a lot of guys and girls. That way, everyone was comfortable with their sexuality.
  • Delivis

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    May 14, 2011 1:14 PM GMT
    Never here.
  • alphatop

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    May 14, 2011 1:16 PM GMT
    Define "a lot" of women? More than 10? Yes, than. More than 50? No. Btw, almost all of my gf that I have sex with find it highly attractive that I am bi/gay/whatever. As for me, I like to know both sides.
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    May 14, 2011 1:56 PM GMT
    I was Bi till I was 27 - from age 18 on all the women I slept with or dated knew it (it was less of an issue in the 70s). I really don't remember how many there were - if I had to guess I'd say maybe 10?
    At about 27 I began to really grow up ( a little late wtf ) and realized that women were ok but I really needed to be with a guy. I needed to connect with men in ways that went beyond sexuality.
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    May 14, 2011 2:10 PM GMT
    interesting thread...I always find this an intriguing topic when talking to other gay guys. To answer the question, yeah I've slept with a grand total of 13 girls before I came out actually icon_eek.gif and hooked up with countless others, I literally couldn't think of the exact number. I was so far in the closet when I started college that I was about to find Narnia lol. Nope, none of those girls had any clue and the ones who eventually found out were blown away. I still take pride in the fact that I've done more girls than many of my straight friends haha.
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    May 14, 2011 2:18 PM GMT
    Did you sleep with a lot of women before you came out?

    Perhaps around 20, from when I was 26 to 46. Not too many, because during much of that time I was married and monogamous.

    I was extremely confused & conflicted, why I didn't even date as a teen, much less have sex with girls. I began after returning to college in my mid-20s, dating to please my parents, planning my first dates and ending my virginity as methodically as everything else I did (I was an Army Officer on a break from active duty at that time).

    I never really liked straight sex, though I tried my best to learn about it, and perform it to perfection. The best part was after getting it inside, because the vagina really does have the muscles, pressure and friction a man likes, obviously what it was designed for, when a woman knows how to use it. And the thrusting part is very natural for a man, what he's in turn designed to do.

    But for much of the sex I was having homoerotic, closed-eyes fantasies. Dividing my mind between the nice sensations on my dick, and the thoughts in my head. I've never found a woman's body very sexually arousing, only a man's.
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    May 14, 2011 2:23 PM GMT
    I dated a few girls in college. One I was head over heels attracted to...she was a very pretty Armenian and actually quite hairy for a girl. I loved the hair all over her lean athletic body. Little did I know why...lol.

    What got me started on guys was I read someplace that 50% of men had at least one sexual experience with a guy. So, I thought it was a one time, right of passage kind of thing. So my objective became...find a dude, have sex with him, and it's out of my system for good.

    And we all know that turned out.








  • laxdude25

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    May 14, 2011 2:26 PM GMT
    My first m2m connection was with my best buddy from college, but not until i had graduated (he was a senior), was living in dc, and he came down for a crew regatta at georgetown and stayed with me. Until then I had had serious live-together relationships with 3 girlfriends, and casual sex with probably another 6-7 girls. After I connected with my best buddy (it was mind blowing intense sex) I decided I was gay and came out to my friends. But after a few years, it was clear that I was not 100% gay either, started dated guys and girls, sexually connecting about equally. Then I met my wife, who is clearly my perfect life partner, and since our marriage (for 25 years) I have not been with other women, but have had a series of short to long term connections with buddies (read my profile, my wife is fully aware of my sexuality and activity). So only the number of guys I have slept with now outnumbers the number of women I have slept with.
  • HndsmKansan

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    May 14, 2011 2:32 PM GMT
    I had several girlfriends in my 20's and yeah I had sex with them. It was nice, but it never flipped my switch. I knew what I wanted!

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    May 14, 2011 2:40 PM GMT
    I ran out the door the moment she took her bra off, so I guess that's a no?

    She must thought I was a jerk.
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    May 14, 2011 2:47 PM GMT
    I was so far in the closet when I started college that I was about to find Narnia lol.


    Haha.
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    May 14, 2011 2:50 PM GMT
    Did the sex feel physically better with a female than with a guy? I would imagine it would feel much better with a guy...but I don't know.
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    May 14, 2011 2:53 PM GMT
    Not a ton, but maybe 5 up until I was 24 and in college. It wasn't bad, just didn't feel awesome. Later when I finally played around with a guy, I felt more at home. God I live me so cock! Yum icon_wink.gif
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    May 14, 2011 2:56 PM GMT
    I was a little slut in High School, where I did have sex with several women and messed around with one guy in particular. As i got older I have had three relationships (over 1 to 4 years long) with women, my last relationship being the longest of almost 4 years... icon_eek.gif

    But being Bi, I still have a strong attraction towards men and women it's a 50-50 split... But as of last year.. I'm going to try my relationship with more of you mens icon_rolleyes.gif
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    May 14, 2011 2:58 PM GMT
    I remember the first time I was maybe 17, and I just remember thinking afterwards that it sure wasn't all it was cracked up to be. A few years later I tried it again with a college girlfriend. Yep, it's official, sex with women is WAY over-rated. That's when I began to explore other options icon_wink.gif
  • Ironman4U

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    May 14, 2011 3:15 PM GMT
    Two in college. Married one of them. And later divorced. I enjoyed making love to a woman but nothing like I do with a hot man.

    Not to gross some of you out, but a self-lubricating pussy is a pretty awesome thing (from a biological perspective)...if only guys had self-lubricating asses when aroused.