two tops; who bottoms? flip a coin? take turns?

  • newbiebottom

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    May 14, 2011 10:32 PM GMT
    so, my partner and i have recently started to bottom for each other. (we have known each other for 3 months); both of us are doing it for each other and its becoming more pleasurable for us. for those guys who enjoy topping and are in a relationship with a similar guy, how do you decide who gets to top? take turns? flip a coin etc?
  • rnch

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    May 14, 2011 10:41 PM GMT
    when i first got together with my current bf of over 3 years, we both considered ourselves "tops".

    after much foreplay and loosening up, we both tried bottoming for the other.

    after several attempts; we both admitted that he was the better "top" and i was the better "bottom" in our relationship.

    we both switch up occassionally.
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    May 21, 2011 3:01 PM GMT
    You don't necessarily have to have anal sex if you both aren't keen on bottoming. If there's no compromise, you could try facing each other and putting your cocks between the other guys legs and hump away. Or fleshlights? But it seems what works for you is working so good on ya!
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    May 21, 2011 6:51 PM GMT
    one person bottoms the first half of the sex session and the other person bottoms the next half... so if your sex usually lasts for 2 hours, start off with one person bottoming for an hour then flipflop and the other person would bottom for an hour.

    This way, both of you get the pleasure of topping and bottoming without either of you feeling as if you should be a certain role.

  • Scriven

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    Jul 09, 2011 5:29 AM GMT
    My answer is the more dominate one...

    I recently got into a relationship with a much younger man that I met through work, yay for being a server. He's 18 and I'm in my 30s but he pursued me and made it very clear he was a top.. I figured since he was such a youngen I could change that if we ever got together... I was wrong.

    I made the mistake of letting me drive me home one night when I got hammered and then he hammered me, kinda sorta took advantage of me if you want to look at it that way. Anyway, I've never been as dominated, or dominating for that matter, as he is to me.

    I hadn't bottomed in probably ten years and now I'm doing it three or four times a day. So my my answer is this, some guys are tops because they like it sexually, and some people top because that's who they are. I thought I was a top for a long time, and now I'm told different icon_smile.gif
  • rnch

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    Jul 09, 2011 10:22 AM GMT
    Scriven saidMy answer is the more dominate one...

    I recently got into a relationship with a much younger man that I met through work, yay for being a server. He's 18 and I'm in my 30s but he pursued me and made it very clear he was a top.. I figured since he was such a youngen I could change that if we ever got together... I was wrong.

    I made the mistake of letting me drive me home one night when I got hammered and then he hammered me, kinda sorta took advantage of me if you want to look at it that way. Anyway, I've never been as dominated, or dominating for that matter, as he is to me.

    I hadn't bottomed in probably ten years and now I'm doing it three or four times a day. So my my answer is this, some guys are tops because they like it sexually, and some people top because that's who they are. I thought I was a top for a long time, and now I'm told different icon_smile.gif




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    Jul 09, 2011 11:01 AM GMT
    _Mohammed_ saidone person bottoms the first half of the sex session and the other person bottoms the next half... so if your sex usually lasts for 2 hours, start off with one person bottoming for an hour then flipflop and the other person would bottom for an hour.

    This way, both of you get the pleasure of topping and bottoming without either of you feeling as if you should be a certain role.



    2 hours........I would fall asleep...........LOL
    My partner and I of 15 years take turns.
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    Jul 09, 2011 12:34 PM GMT
    _Mohammed_ saidone person bottoms the first half of the sex session and the other person bottoms the next half... so if your sex usually lasts for 2 hours, start off with one person bottoming for an hour then flipflop and the other person would bottom for an hour.

    This way, both of you get the pleasure of topping and bottoming without either of you feeling as if you should be a certain role.

    Out of the mouths of babes...and this case what a babe!! Dayum!! WOOF!!

    But, in all seriousness, unless one or the other (or both) of these two guys in question is such a "TOTAL TOP" that he just "can't" enjoy (or "submit to" or whatever)---which appears *not* to be at all the case with these particular guys **anyway**---then, yeah, just typically do an even-steven flip-flop, at least during most of your lovemaking sessions!!

    Fortunately, I'm a versatile-BOTTOM, so give me a versatile-TOP and I'm way good to go!! Flip-flops are great, but I can take 'em or leave 'em most (or much, anyway) of the time!
  • Scriven

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    Jul 09, 2011 3:41 PM GMT
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    He's 19.

    For example its 11:30 and we've already gone twice today, once before I posted that last night and once when we woke up.