I wouldn't give up chatting to guys with whom you are interested in making friends.
A long time ago, way long time, hehe, I felt that I needed a set of gay "buddies" or friends, platonic ones. I felt that because most of my guy friends were straight and I wanted to get to know other people like me as well, who were gay and had similar interests.
I found it difficult to find platonic gay friends who liked the same things as me for the. longest. time.
I had to bark up a few wrong trees to figure out which people were going to be the right ones for me - and make a few mistakes along the way. I tried different groups, a couple of organizations, a gym or two, a sport club, lord knows a couple of bars, and even those friend calling lines (for those over 40, you know what I'm talking about).
I found a lotta people not really coming from the same place as I. However, along the way, I picked up a bunch of people I wanted to 'carry along' with me until I hit a groove. And, it was worth going through the pains. Making platonic gay friends for me was tremendously difficult and painful. Especially because for most men in my age group, there weren't opportunities for us to learn how to relate to one another in a platonic way growing up, I feel.
Some of my best platonic friends I met by accident and others through my soccer club, phone lines/Internet, and through getting involved in charities that matched my values.
Now, with regard to chatting up guys here on RealJock or other websites, where guys post a phrase or two about making friends...we all know that some guys really don't mean that. The line can be cover for - "I'm hoping for a hottie to hit me up so I don't have to be rejected by making the first move." Or, perhaps, for some it's the "I'd like to seem cool," line, and while they really, truly would like to meet some friends, they don't either have the time, or energy, or both. For others, I think they put the line in there because they don't know what else to say, really.
All that said, there *are* people who do want to make friends online, and it does happen, and sometimes it happens organically. In addition to all of the things I wrote about two paragraphs up, I did reach out to guys online to make friends, and I did fail most of the time.
Nevertheless, for some, it did work, and I'm immensely grateful that it did. And most of them I didn't even try all that hard - it wasn't work. And that's the beauty of some relationships. They just happen when you allow them to - or when they are good matches naturally.
My sharing all of this to you is my sincere effort to make you aware that you are NOT alone in feeling awkward about some experiences with making gay friends (platonic ones). Second, to offer you some hope that your intentions will be received by the universe and responded to at some point in a favorable way, the way you want.
Meanwhile, good luck, buddy. Hope things are going well for your otherwise in Miami.
Perry in Philly