SEXUAL PREFEReNCE! Please need help

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    May 17, 2011 4:24 AM GMT
    So yesterday I was asking my boyfriend what are his sexual preferences! So I asked him how does he feel about "rimming " ,! So he tells me that he will only do it on a certain type of man! That "type" that was described was not me !! I feel so down now!why not lie and just say no ? Do u guys think I am catching a fit for nothing!I have been so upset ! Am I just being foolish or would you feel offended ?
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    May 17, 2011 4:33 AM GMT
    Zimboi123 said...why not lie and just say no ?
    At least now you have a heads up that he WILL eventually cheat on you.
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    May 17, 2011 4:56 AM GMT
    So you think I'm being foolish! Would you be offended though !! Its kinda like well I do engage in the act but not with people that look like you ?? Ouch am I over thinking
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    May 17, 2011 5:14 AM GMT
    My general relationship rule is that I don't ask questions I don't want the answer to. This is one of those questions. Now it's out, you can't get that back in.

    I can't think why it would be critical to a relationship, but then it's not my thing. If you absolutely must have a guy rim you, then you've got your answer. If you can live without that, then why throw it all out? There's always going to be something you don't like about a partner. It's a question of trade offs.

    Next time you ask a question, think about whether you really want the answer.
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    May 17, 2011 8:56 AM GMT
    shortguybeau saidMy general relationship rule is that I don't ask questions I don't want the answer to. This is one of those questions. Now it's out, you can't get that back in.

    I can't think why it would be critical to a relationship, but then it's not my thing. If you absolutely must have a guy rim you, then you've got your answer. If you can live without that, then why throw it all out? There's always going to be something you don't like about a partner. It's a question of trade offs.

    Next time you ask a question, think about whether you really want the answer.
    hey man thanx for that I guess I was kind of trying to ask him if he would do it in a subtle way and then I got well I only do it on a certain body type! I thought I would get a no or yes answer!I guess it was my fault
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    May 17, 2011 2:26 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    Zimboi123 said...why not lie and just say no ?
    At least now you have a heads up that he WILL eventually cheat on you.


    And be honest about it when he does so.


    Besides that, why is it so important to you that he lick your pooper? What does that have to do with "sexual" preference, since an anus is not a sexual organ?
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    May 17, 2011 3:48 PM GMT

    "So yesterday I was asking my boyfriend what are his sexual preferences! So I asked him how does he feel about "rimming " ,! So he tells me that he will only do it on a certain type of man! That "type" that was described was not me !!"


    You asked him because you were trying to work up to asking him if he'd do it to you. This is perfectly fine.

    Instead of, "No, I'm not really into it." he told you he would, but only with someone else and proceeded to describe the kind of man he would do it with.


    I'd be hurt.

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    May 17, 2011 3:53 PM GMT
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    May 17, 2011 3:54 PM GMT
    Zimboi123 saidSo yesterday I was asking my boyfriend what are his sexual preferences! So I asked him how does he feel about "rimming " ,! So he tells me that he will only do it on a certain type of man! That "type" that was described was not me !! I feel so down now!why not lie and just say no ? Do u guys think I am catching a fit for nothing!I have been so upset ! Am I just being foolish or would you feel offended ?


    what this most reminds me of is when a girl might ask me what type of woman I might go for if I were to change teams. For example, I can watch Shakira grind all day long and the idea of eating her out actually seems kinda hot (don't hate me guys). But in reality, i walk by women every day who are similar and never act on it.

    What I mean is that you are asking questions on different levels.

    If he's never rimmed anyone, it's a theory thing. If you'd asked me when I was 18, I'd have given a similar answer. Now my answer would be completely different. So he's giving an answer to a question he only thinks he knows the answer to.

    It would tell me that he's not really done sampling the buffet, even if he is your boyfriend, because he's still thinking in casual terms. If you are thinking in lifeterm, there's no real reason to take anything pleasurable off the menu. That man may be standing next to your deathbed or vice versa, are you really so uptight you're gonna deny him pleasure via the one body he's committed to?