It's one thing if you're trying to force him to be out against his own wishes, but it's another if you're just trying to show him that gays can lead normal lifestyles just as straights can.
Before I came out, I adopted the mind-frame that my sexuality is not going to prevent me from living a life any differently than anyone else would. While this may not be the tactic that some people take or prefer, I do not let being gay be the highlight of my personality. It can be, if I want, but I don't want it to be. I am a person who happens to be gay; I am not a gay who happens to be a person. Above all, I am who I am and I don't play up my sexuality any more than I play up my being left-handed, or my being a size 10.5 shoe, or anything else. If I act like it's normal and no big thing, then that's the impression that others get, as well.
Part of it for me, at least, is that I never want to feel ashamed of being gay because I never want anyone else to feel like they have something on me, that they can use it against me. I am not going to let being gay be used against me, so if I act open about it, then no one can do that. But if I act ashamed of it, then I am giving people power over me - and I refuse to let that happen. I am the controller of my life.
ohioguy12Are you out?
This is a good point. Before you start telling other people that "being gay is okay," you need to come to terms with it yourself and be comfortable discussing it.