Psycho Relationships!!!!!!!!!!! Need Advice!

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    May 17, 2011 4:46 AM GMT
    Ok.. So im out on this on... I WAS dating the guy of my dreams... He was really built! I mean HUGE! 21 years old... Just getting into med school this fall.. Seem to have everything straight! Amazing beautiful young black man! We would spend entire days not only inside of the house but in bed, cuddling, watching tv. talking, laughing, and well having sex.... Well we would go out... It would never fail! WE WOULD HAVE HUGE FIGHTS! and they kept growing till it got phsyical! Each time we made up, but im thinking the last one may be it! Should I just leave it at done and apologize?! Or should I allow the whole make up thing? I try to stop them before they happen, but it happens so quick when we argue!
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    May 17, 2011 4:53 AM GMT
    Abusive relationships are bad, Rihanna.

    Get far, far away. Change cell phone number phonebook entry to "DO NOT ANSWER" and defriend/unfollow on facebook and twitter respectively.

    Respect yourself enough to move on.
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    May 17, 2011 4:57 AM GMT
    Funny thing is! Out of the short 8 months we have been dating, he has never added me on facebook.. And doesnt have twitter.. The more builds up and gets to me!
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    May 17, 2011 5:01 AM GMT
    Well.... Whats the issue exactly? what makes you two fight? If you both love each other there should be a way to work on things. I've been in a similare situation and it wasn't even an actual relationship. I feel like sometimes with certain people the more two people love each other the more they tend fight and it gets nasty. I know it sounds weird but its sometimes true. I hope you two make it out of things okay and if you really love each other than stay together!!!
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    May 17, 2011 5:01 AM GMT
    In your profile you freely admit that you like roided up guys.
    Nothing wrong with that, but be aware that he may be cycling too much and experiencing roid rage as a result.
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    May 17, 2011 5:02 AM GMT
    What's the question, exactly?
    Do you want him to be physical with you?
    If you have any shred of self-respect get out of the relationship and away from him.
    If you don't, get away from him, get some counseling, and stop trusting your instincts (they're obviously warped).
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    May 17, 2011 5:04 AM GMT
    Nobody does this twice without your permission. Hot sex isn't worth that kind of price.
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    May 17, 2011 7:01 AM GMT
    i went through the EXACT same thing with my ex. we were together for a year. we always did fun things together. we loved to go out and look hot together. we cooked really nice meals for each-other. we stayed up late watching movies. and he was perfect. he was a pilot, he was very tall, and the sex was really hoticon_smile.gificon_smile.gif but we fought over so many things. once he held my car hostage. one other time he picked a fight at a gay bar. he got mad at me for not defending him. there were also a couple times when it got semi-violent. it was tons of drama. but it was also tons of love. like, when it was bad, it was BAD. but when it was good, it was fucking GOOD.

    he moved away a few months ago, and trying to do the long distance was just too hard. we kind of just ended up hating each-other. :-P

    if your situation is kind of like mine, then i would say its a toss up. if hes a catch, the sex is good, he makes you feel good, and its worth going through all the misery. then keep him. But if he has no money, no job, and a small penis then i say drop him.
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    May 17, 2011 7:18 AM GMT
    dfwcuban1989 saidOk.. So im out on this on... I WAS dating the guy of my dreams... He was really built! I mean HUGE! 21 years old... Just getting into med school this fall.. Seem to have everything straight! Amazing beautiful young black man! We would spend entire days not only inside of the house but in bed, cuddling, watching tv. talking, laughing, and well having sex.... Well we would go out... It would never fail! WE WOULD HAVE HUGE FIGHTS! and they kept growing till it got phsyical! Each time we made up, but im thinking the last one may be it! Should I just leave it at done and apologize?! Or should I allow the whole make up thing? I try to stop them before they happen, but it happens so quick when we argue!


    Sounds like there won't be a solution to the problem but you're holding on to him because you like the alone time. Eventually the fights will take a psychological toll and you'll have to break up. just to feel relieved. Or maybe he'll change? But I doubt that. If I fight with someone regularly then it's over for me pretty quick. Then again the one's who fight in public can be so passionate in private. So I understand your frustration.
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    May 17, 2011 8:43 PM GMT
    Physical confrontations between two people who supposedly love each other are never acceptable and are probably symptomatic of a much deeper problem.
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    May 17, 2011 8:47 PM GMT
    There is a cycle to this. They start romantic, get irritated, then they physically hurt you, then they feel apologetic and remourseful, then get romantic, etc. etc. If he hits you now, be prepared for a lot of therapy with him in order to get through it.

    It doesnt sound like he is ready for a relationship, and he may need to work on himself a bit.