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    May 17, 2011 10:43 AM GMT
    I have recently found out my then boyfriend has been flirting and hitting on other men behind my back on this site in the adult chat room. i was unaware of this when it started a few nights ago but thanks to an anonymous friend he gave full insight on the situation. The thing that i find odd is that every time he sees me online he sends me IM's with that stupid sweet talk with I love you and bullshit but has lied about saying he has dumped me a couple weeks ago. I'm sick of his lies and antics and although i still love him i just wish that he would let me go and find someone else since he says i am drama and bullshit.
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    May 17, 2011 11:48 AM GMT
    Maybe you need to let him go? It's up to you if you want more of the same or if you have the courage to break the relationship and start again. Best of luck!
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    May 17, 2011 12:13 PM GMT
    Zaakat saidMaybe you need to let him go? It's up to you if you want more of the same or if you have the courage to break the relationship and start again. Best of luck!
    Thanks
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    May 17, 2011 8:48 PM GMT
    Sounds like there's something missing in the relationship. If he's flirting or hitting on other guys then perhaps you need to sit down with him and both of you open up and start being honest with each other. There's a lot of couples that flirt with other guys but they have boundaries and they communicate well so that there's an understanding of what expectations there are for your particular relationship. If all he's doing is flirting with guys online then I'd say you're lucky but it only happens behind your back when he feels you won't be OK with talking about it. Communications....it's a wonderful thing.
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    May 17, 2011 10:00 PM GMT
    eb925guy saidSounds like there's something missing in the relationship. If he's flirting or hitting on other guys then perhaps you need to sit down with him and both of you open up and start being honest with each other. There's a lot of couples that flirt with other guys but they have boundaries and they communicate well so that there's an understanding of what expectations there are for your particular relationship. If all he's doing is flirting with guys online then I'd say you're lucky but it only happens behind your back when he feels you won't be OK with talking about it. Communications....it's a wonderful thing.
    Thanks so much for the advice
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    May 17, 2011 10:03 PM GMT
    One of the best ways to understand a person is to know what motivates them. I'm concerned about this anonymous friend because you didn't mention what is motive is, it could be to get you two to break up?

    Talk to him and tell him what you found. There is no use just trying to keep it to yourself and being a mixture of anger and sadness =
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    May 17, 2011 10:18 PM GMT
    adam228 saidOne of the best ways to understand a person is to know what motivates them. I'm concerned about this anonymous friend because you didn't mention what is motive is, it could be to get you two to break up?

    Talk to him and tell him what you found. There is no use just trying to keep it to yourself and being a mixture of anger and sadness =
    That sounds like a great idea thank you so much icon_smile.gif