Over being told I'm too short :(

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    May 18, 2011 5:33 PM GMT
    Okay, firstly I have a boyfriend. So i'm not looking. However I still use grindr to just get a feel for the gay community and stay in touch. Gay rights such as marriage and stuff are very important to me. However, whenever I start the conversation (Yes, most likely with the attractive ones. The old ugly ones are usually creepy :S) I always get the same thing... "Oh, you're 5'3? Woha... That's 3 inches off being classifed as a midget. Soz dude" I understand you're only after sex... But fuck, it kills me. And I still can't get past my height. And it doesn't help i'm only attracted to tall guys myself icon_sad.gif Blehhhh. I'm gonna live with stilts for the rest of my life!
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    May 18, 2011 5:36 PM GMT
    http://fuckyeahshortguys.tumblr.com


    or you could pick up a pair of these:
    gaga-shoes-Noritaka-Tatehan.jpg
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    May 18, 2011 5:37 PM GMT
    well that is really short...
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    May 18, 2011 5:38 PM GMT
    grindr is basically a virtual bar. yes, people do have actual conversations there, but it's not the majority. i surf as my cat.

    why include stats at all?

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    May 18, 2011 5:42 PM GMT
    Because I feel as though I have no need to hide my stats... I'm just sick of being judged by it. I mean I get told i'm cute all the time. But soon as my height hits the scenario it's woha! Back up from the potential midget! And yeah... I just hate it!
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    May 18, 2011 5:44 PM GMT
    There are guys who like short guys. I for one, have a thing for pocket gays. icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 18, 2011 6:16 PM GMT
    hate being called that! Arghhhh! FML! So unfair... I'm cutting out my eyes, so I don't have to deal with tall guys giving me the "As if" look.
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    May 18, 2011 6:18 PM GMT
    It's actually a good thing you're gay. There are plenty of gay guys who like shorties. Meanwhile no such luck would happen in the hetero world where so many women aren't open to the idea of a shorter guy.
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    May 18, 2011 6:19 PM GMT
    There is nothing you can do about it, lol. Maybe if you didn't chase only the pretty boys you will feel more accepted.
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    May 18, 2011 6:19 PM GMT
    Kristoff saidOkay, firstly I have a boyfriend. So i'm not looking. However I still use grindr to just get a feel for the gay community and stay in touch. Gay rights such as marriage and stuff are very important to me. However, whenever I start the conversation (Yes, most likely with the attractive ones. The old ugly ones are usually creepy :S) I always get the same thing... "Oh, you're 5'3? Woha... That's 3 inches off being classifed as a midget. Soz dude" I understand you're only after sex... But fuck, it kills me. And I still can't get past my height. And it doesn't help i'm only attracted to tall guys myself icon_sad.gif Blehhhh. I'm gonna live with stilts for the rest of my life!
    Sounds like karma to me.
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    May 18, 2011 6:23 PM GMT
    Kristoff saidOkay, firstly I have a boyfriend. So i'm not looking. However I still use grindr to just get a feel for the gay community and stay in touch.


    I'm sure it's not easy being, er, vertically challenged, but seriously, dude. That doesn't even pass the sniff test.
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    May 18, 2011 6:27 PM GMT
    Kristoff saidBecause I feel as though I have no need to hide my stats... I'm just sick of being judged by it. I mean I get told i'm cute all the time. But soon as my height hits the scenario it's woha! Back up from the potential midget! And yeah... I just hate it!



    more specifically. if you are on grindr for reasons other than to hookup, which would mean to have dialog, why do you need to to post your stats. there are definitely people on grindr who just chat because they are bored. you can find them by setting your age criteria over 90. because they tend to set their stats to be 99, and don't include any stats.
  • Timbales

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    May 18, 2011 6:28 PM GMT
    I've dated a guy that was 5'3" and one that was 6'5". People that write you off for being shorter than average are just doing themselves a disservice.
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    May 18, 2011 6:32 PM GMT
    Just crafted a pair of stilts icon_smile.gif
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    May 18, 2011 6:33 PM GMT
    pocketnico saidIt's actually a good thing you're gay. There are plenty of gay guys who like shorties. Meanwhile no such luck would happen in the hetero world where so many women aren't open to the idea of a shorter guy.

    icon_smile.gif +1
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    May 18, 2011 8:06 PM GMT
    You are in a relationship, so clearly there is at least one person who appreciate you for who you are, and your height. You are only 18, there is still a little time for you to grow, so I would advise you to take this one or two year left to do what you can to change your height.

    May be it is a myth, but hold off on weight training just yet, and focus on sports and exercises that promote “vertical” extension of your body, like basketball, rowing, high and long jump, running.

    Some say supplement works, but I doubt that.

    I have always been short, and it has bothered me since a young age. I understand how it feels when parents compare you to other kids of the same age, or how people seem to look down on you (sorry about the pun).

    It will matter less as you age. You will understand that almost everyone has something that is being teased about, whether it is a name that sound funny, a long nose, a patch on their skin, or being short. And there will always be bigots who picked on others because of these traits, to cover their own insecurities.
  • JP85257

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    May 18, 2011 8:25 PM GMT
    My lower limit is 5'8" Unless the dick is HUGE. lol
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    May 18, 2011 8:32 PM GMT
    I have dated guys as short as 5'4".
    I don't think I know any guys shorter than that actually.

    Anyways, they were really cute.
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    May 18, 2011 8:34 PM GMT
    As others have said, lots of gay guys prefer shorter guys. I'm only 5'8", and while height doesn't matter to me either way, I guess if I had to choose, I would go same height as me, or shorter. The guy I'm dating right now is 2 inches shorter than me, and I actually like that.

    So don't worry. You've got other things going for you. . . you're cute, you seem smart. Ignore the stupid comments from people whose sole "virtue" (at least they think so) is the fact they're six feet tall. Which is probably all they have to brag about.




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    May 18, 2011 8:36 PM GMT
    I'm short myself at 5'6" and I wouldn't hesitate to date a guy shorter than me if he were cute and of good character.
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    May 18, 2011 8:37 PM GMT
    There is a leg lengthening operation available in some countries now, it has a very painful recovery process though :

    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-1039416/Tall-order-The-bizarre-Russian-clinic-offers-leg-lengthening-surgery-STAND-pain.html

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    May 18, 2011 9:00 PM GMT
    _SAGE_ saidThere is a leg lengthening operation available in some countries now, it has a very painful recovery process though :

    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-1039416/Tall-order-The-bizarre-Russian-clinic-offers-leg-lengthening-surgery-STAND-pain.html

    This is fucking retarded.
    Do not do this.
  • Webster666

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    May 18, 2011 9:59 PM GMT
    This is an easy one.
    Since your not on there to cruise, either omit your height, or lie.

    BTW, I think that shorter guys are adorable.
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    May 19, 2011 12:19 AM GMT
    I'm 5'4'', I feel your pain man. I've tried what most people advise: just be confident. It does work...until someone inevitably tries to be cute with a patronizing short/tiny/little/mini/pocket/cute/adorable/fun-size "compliment". It's so irritating and I get this primal urge to knee a guy in the nutsack every time it happens (and I always happen to be within the perfect vertical range for doing so). Unfortunately, "heightism" seems to be a universal human trait that transcends cultures, so you just gotta deal with it and be the "bigger" man ways other than your stature. (Not like THAT you pervs! icon_wink.gif )
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    May 19, 2011 12:24 AM GMT
    It doesn't matter if you're short or tall as long as you're hot, work on your hotness! icon_cool.gif