I stopped boxing for a couple months ...

  • SoDakGuy

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    May 18, 2011 5:35 PM GMT
    You know I love boxing and it’s a huge part of who I am, but recently, my heart wasn’t in it as well as my head. So I stopped. I love boxing; you have no idea how much it’s shaped who I am, but I needed to stop.

    Ever since the assault and bicycle accident, http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/777285 I really haven’t dealt w/ my feelings and emotions. Instead of working on myself head on, I went head first helping others and at first, it was great, but in the long term, it’s affecting me mentally, physically and spiritually. I was feeling a HUGE downward spiral and I could have done two things:

    One. Mask the pain and my feelings and pretend they don’t exist and continue helping others while drinking almost every night.

    Two. Deal with it HEAD ON, focus on my wants & needs, talk to a therapist and get ME back on track.

    I chose number two. My family would choose the first one because that’s what Lutherans do here in the Upper Midwest, but I want continued success in my life. And that includes becoming a better boxer.

    I may be down, but I am not out. And I am going BACK to boxing. I miss it immensely.

    Have any of you taken time away to get your head back in the game?


  • Techboxer

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    May 23, 2011 3:48 AM GMT
    Take all the time you need to heal fellow pugilist. Your gloves and opponents will be waiting for you.

    Keep your guard up and come out punching.
  • mybud

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    May 23, 2011 4:16 AM GMT
    Lots of times man...You just back into it slow...pace yourself and over time you'll be golden....I'll keep positive thoughts for ya...BUD
  • SoDakGuy

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    May 23, 2011 2:59 PM GMT
    I was at a sporting goods store w/ my sister and her fiance' yesterday and I headed over to the boxing equipment and my sister was goofing a bit. So I showed her how to stand and how to throw and I was hitting the bags a little bit and man ... I miss it. I really miss it.

    So, I bought new gloves: 16 oz. They're heavier, but will help out a lot when it comes to throwing actual punches when I spar.

    And I did break down and cried on Friday night when I was having a slice of carrot cake w/ a friend of mine. Admitting that I'm miserable w/ my life is probably one of the hardest things to do. But it's true, I'm unhappy, but damn it! If I don't change for myself, it will never happen and I will end up a shell of a person I don't want to be. So, work on me NOW so I can be a better, happier, active person for ME.

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    May 23, 2011 3:07 PM GMT
    You cannot be more true than option 1. That is what the northern midwest do.

    My mother is a perfect example. She has masked her feelings about things for 18 years towards me, and as a result we no longer speak.

    Not to Hijack this at all, I just wanted to feel that yes, it does happen!

    I'm glad that you are attacking it HEAD On!

    Congrats..

    And yes, I have had to get my head back in the game lately. On other items.

    have a great week!

    B
  • SoDakGuy

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    May 23, 2011 9:44 PM GMT
    Honestly, it's painful. I'd rather take blows to my head than to deal w/ this, but I have to. And then I can take better blows to my body and give them back tenfold. icon_twisted.gif
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    May 23, 2011 9:51 PM GMT
    Thanks for the post and the share, man. Good to read. Wish you the best.
  • SoDakGuy

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    May 24, 2011 4:00 PM GMT
    So, I talked to my coach about what's going on. He says that there are about 8 guys now in class and it's becoming competitive. (You have no idea how exciting that is for me. I love and live for competition.) That's fueling the fire more. I'm gonna go to practice tomorrow night. It's an hour and it'll be me getting back into it w/ my stance and back into the swing of things.

    What I'm going through is that I'm admitting that my life is miserable and I'm unhappy and only I can change it. Two weeks ago, I had to write down 340 fears I have and by Thurs, I have to write down 350 ways I put myself down and make myself unimportant. I also have to write (and not send) a letter to an ex I still have strong feelings for. The reason why I have to do this writing assignment is to show ME the repetitiveness I have I'm allowing to hold me back and also see how ridiculous I'm allowing these things to hold me back.

    I know all of this will make me a better man all around.
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    May 24, 2011 4:38 PM GMT
    Kudos to you, man. ***cliche alert*** your most difficult opponent is always you because he knows all of your weaknesses and NEVER pulls punches. I have nothing but respect for you, firstly because you recognized what the problem, THEN you came up with viable solutions, THEN you chose the most difficult one (but certainly the wisest and best), and finally you're going through with it.

    Seriously, though you don't need my praise or smoke blown up your ass, good job. You're doing difficult things with all of the grace, maturity, and wisdom of a very seasoned practitioner of the combative arts. You're ultimately going to become a better person and a much better fighter. I am happy for you!!
  • SoDakGuy

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    Jun 02, 2011 7:57 PM GMT
    So ... on Tuesday ... I had a rotten ass day. I get to the gym and I'm in no mood to talk to ANYONE, but my boxing coach said I need to get back in the ring and spar.

    I wasn't in the mood, but something told me I needed to, so I did.

    And ... I SUCKED. But ... what was cool about it was I wasn't scared at all to get back in it. Yeah, I was wide open. Hell, I've been focused on muscular size and leanness, so I'm bigger than when I started. I fell over my own feet, but I picked myself up and kept going.

    Last night, I went to class. There are 12 guys in it and I'm one of the top three. It felt good; I know I'm rusty! That's a given, but it'll come back pretty fast.

    So ... I'm back. icon_twisted.gif
  • Techboxer

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    Jun 06, 2011 12:10 AM GMT
    Welcome back! Boxers cannot stay away from the ring for too long. We feel 'ALIVE' in battle. When not in combat, the rest of the worlds affairs seem slow and insignificant. We are warriors, it is what we do.
  • SoDakGuy

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    Jun 14, 2011 1:58 PM GMT
    It does feel good to be back, but these past two weeks haven't jived w/ my boxing schedule. I will be back on Thurs. I need it.




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    Jun 14, 2011 2:04 PM GMT
    I actually want to get into boxing. I initially had the moral stand that it was wrong and an antiquated sport, but I have a lot of anger to vent and it also looks like a great workout! haha icon_smile.gif

    I think I want to do it for the former though.

    xx
  • SoDakGuy

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    Jun 14, 2011 2:05 PM GMT
    Do it! You'll get ripped FAST.

    Student_90 saidI actually want to get into boxing. I initially had the moral stand that it was wrong and an antiquated sport, but I have a lot of anger to vent and it also looks like a great workout! haha icon_smile.gif

    I think I want to do it for the former though.

    xx
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    Jun 14, 2011 2:07 PM GMT
    SoDakGuy saidDo it! You'll get ripped FAST.

    Student_90 saidI actually want to get into boxing. I initially had the moral stand that it was wrong and an antiquated sport, but I have a lot of anger to vent and it also looks like a great workout! haha icon_smile.gif

    I think I want to do it for the former though.

    xx


    You sayin I aint ripped enough bitch?

    See, a lot of anger.

    haha

    xx
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    Jun 14, 2011 2:29 PM GMT
    sometimes in life we give and we give... and then comes a time to take for ourselves... do it! sometimes we can't give any more... it's okay to take when you need to!
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    Jun 14, 2011 2:37 PM GMT
    76coopers saidsometimes in life we give and we give... and then comes a time to take for ourselves... do it! sometimes we can't give any more... it's okay to take when you need to!


    When can I take you? I've been waiting quite a while now. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 25, 2011 1:45 AM GMT
    Have to say. SoDak, you and I share similar experiences!

    I've been boxing for years, and Love it. Like you, it's a big part of who I am.

    I got injured a little over a year ago, and was at first hesitant when getting back into the swing of things.

    My injury occurred in the ring. I was training at one of the boxing gyms I've belonged to, working with the trainer on mitt work. I went to throw a punch, and my leg felt like it was going out from underneath me. I downshifted to double end bag work, and it still happened. Over the next few months, whether from the initial injury or something afterwards, my leg wouldn't straighten, and when I put my weight on it, it hurt. I didn't even realize at first, I stopped standing on it... which meant I was overtaxing my good leg. You guessed it, I developed a problem with my good leg. The Ortho ordered an MRI, which showed no meniscus tear... probably just really bad "hamstring lock-up" followed by tendonitis.

    Meanwhile, I was on crutches for a while, when both my legs were strained. At worst, I separated my shoulder; at best, I developed severed rotator cuff and biceps tendonitis. This continued for a while.

    As you can imagine, I had to stop boxing for over a year.

    When I started getting back into it, I wasn't on my game. I wasn't sure I'd regain the passion and commitment I had to it.

    But as the last month has progressed, and I've been working with my top-rate trainer, I've not only started to regain my technique and form, but actually improve in many ways.

    I'm happy to say, now I'm HOOKED again (pun intended).

    I guess it was always so much a part of me that it was a little melancholy to realize all the time and training I lost... but I'll take where I'm at today any day! Making gains quickly.

    BTW: you've got really good form. Saw your video.
  • SoDakGuy

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    Oct 26, 2011 3:15 PM GMT
    I'm starting to feel like myself again.

    I moved to a different place; I'm at a new gym; I really feel I'm in a better place in my life, but I so miss the camaraderie of boxing. Once you have that feeling, it's hard to let go.

    I may just sneak back into it w/o any announcement. I'm all about shocking people. icon_smile.gif