gym and approach and meaning and signs

  • itiscool

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    May 20, 2011 2:52 PM GMT
    I would appreciate it if anyone can give me his opinion. icon_surprised.gif) Say if you see a really cute guy at your gym. He started the conversation first and had a brief chat. Later on the same day, you saw him again also in the gym from afar. He approached and introduced his name and asked for your name. Does it mean anything? Is this a sign of interest? Was he just being polite?
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    May 20, 2011 9:15 PM GMT
    He just probably wants to get to know you in a friendly way, can't say he's interested other than that unless you know he's gay
  • itiscool

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    Jun 09, 2011 4:33 PM GMT
    thank you for your help. Anyone else? icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 09, 2011 5:42 PM GMT
    Let me ask...Do you go to a blatantly gay gym?

    If yes, then he is interested in you.

    If no, then who knows.
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    Jun 09, 2011 5:46 PM GMT
    If he's closeted, he'll let you know when he feels comfortable with you.
    If you ask him, he'll likely shun you and ignore you in the gym after that.
    However, if you ask him out to a local bar for a few drinks, you might get laid.
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    Jun 09, 2011 5:54 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidIf he's closeted, he'll let you know when he feels comfortable with you.
    If you ask him, he'll likely shun you and ignore you in the gym after that.
    However, if you ask him out to a local bar for a few drinks, you might get laid.


    Also, lets not rule out the fact that he really may just be straight and looking for friends.

    Straight guys like hanging around guys man, it doesnt always have to be about sex.
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    Jun 09, 2011 7:07 PM GMT
    Go out to coffee with him and let him know you are gay fairly soon. Friends are friends. Try not to assume everyone has a hidden agenda, maybe he's just the friendly type.
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    Jun 09, 2011 7:55 PM GMT
    I know you're thinking about it, OP. Don't.

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    Jun 09, 2011 7:59 PM GMT
    FearTheFall saidI know you're thinking about it, OP. Don't.

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    Follow FTF's lead to a life of bitter isolation and lonliness. It will give you TONS to blog about on endless nights home alone.
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    Jun 09, 2011 8:18 PM GMT
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    FearTheFall saidI know you're thinking about it, OP. Don't.

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    Follow FTF's lead to a life of bitter isolation and lonliness. It will give you TONS to blog about on endless nights home alone.


    Umm...

    Play it by ear.
    Next time you see him,just say hi, ask him something casual whatever seems right at the moment.

    Or you can just grab his package. Fear the fall and do it anyway.
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    Jun 09, 2011 8:24 PM GMT
    Ezrider107 said
    Cash said
    FearTheFall saidI know you're thinking about it, OP. Don't.

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    Follow FTF's lead to a life of bitter isolation and lonliness. It will give you TONS to blog about on endless nights home alone.


    Umm...

    Play it by ear.
    Next time you see him,just say hi, ask him something casual whatever seems right at the moment.

    Or you can just grab his package. Fear the fall and do it anyway.


    LOLOLOLOLOL. That will def get this attn.
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    Jun 09, 2011 8:28 PM GMT
    Be friends first, then gay lovers later. Not the other way around.
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    Jun 09, 2011 8:36 PM GMT
    I suggest reading the thread entitled "Is it hard making new gay friends?"

    To me, it sounds like a nice guy is trying to get to know you. What's the harm in being his friend? You don't need to analyze it any more than that.
  • kemoze

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    Jun 10, 2011 4:43 AM GMT
    vincent7 saidGo out to coffee with him and let him know you are gay fairly soon. Friends are friends. Try not to assume everyone has a hidden agenda, maybe he's just the friendly type.


    i agree with you ,,
    having a good friend is something so important same like having a good partner,,
    so, just after the gym ask him for adrink ar a drive then ask for his phone no,,
    you can talk to him and through a little conversation you will definitly know whats going on in his mind, he maybe wants to make friends,,
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    Jun 10, 2011 5:10 AM GMT
    Don't try to look for something that may not be there. I've met plenty of friendly straight guys that were just looking for gym buds or workout tips. Just be friendly and engage in conversation. Eventually, you should be able to pick up hints that he's straight or gay.
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    Jun 10, 2011 5:33 AM GMT
    Cash said
    FearTheFall saidI know you're thinking about it, OP. Don't.

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    Follow FTF's lead to a life of bitter isolation and lonliness. It will give you TONS to blog about on endless nights home alone.


    1) Blogging is fun.

    2) I'd rather be creative than a loser.
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    Jun 10, 2011 2:21 PM GMT
    FearTheFall said
    Cash said
    FearTheFall saidI know you're thinking about it, OP. Don't.

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    Follow FTF's lead to a life of bitter isolation and lonliness. It will give you TONS to blog about on endless nights home alone.


    1) Blogging is fun.

    2) I'd rather be creative than a loser.



    1) It is!

    2) Sounds like a plan! When are you going to give it a shot?
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Jun 10, 2011 2:27 PM GMT
    itiscool saidI would appreciate it if anyone can give me his opinion. icon_surprised.gif) Say if you see a really cute guy at your gym. He started the conversation first and had a brief chat. Later on the same day, you saw him again also in the gym from afar. He approached and introduced his name and asked for your name. Does it mean anything? Is this a sign of interest? Was he just being polite?



    If you find him attractive or interesting, be open to his friendly nature and go grab a bite to eat or something after the gym and get to know him better. It's sad that when someone takes the initiative to be friendly that we have to over analyze it. Perhaps he just thinks you look like a cool guy to be friends with and has the confidence to be assertive. Be open to that. Who knows where it could lead.
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    Jun 10, 2011 2:37 PM GMT
    people talk to you at the gym? I am doing it wrong.
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    Jun 10, 2011 2:37 PM GMT
    itiscool saidI would appreciate it if anyone can give me his opinion. icon_surprised.gif) Say if you see a really cute guy at your gym. He started the conversation first and had a brief chat. Later on the same day, you saw him again also in the gym from afar. He approached and introduced his name and asked for your name. Does it mean anything? Is this a sign of interest? Was he just being polite?


    If you have to ask.... probably nothing!
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    Jun 10, 2011 4:48 PM GMT
    itiscool saidI would appreciate it if anyone can give me his opinion. icon_surprised.gif) Say if you see a really cute guy at your gym. He started the conversation first and had a brief chat. Later on the same day, you saw him again also in the gym from afar. He approached and introduced his name and asked for your name. Does it mean anything? Is this a sign of interest? Was he just being polite?


    I have to somewhat disagree with the others saying that it's nothing.

    I mean let's face it, I've been going to the gym now going on 3 years and nobody has walked up to me and asked my name or gave me theirs (nobody I was attracted to that is. That would be a dream come true).

    Most people just there to workout, and if they do see me and think I'm cute they'll wait to see me on adam4adam one day saying, "do you go to Bally?"

    That guy is definitely interested in you. I would keep it in the gym the next couple of times you see him not to come off too aggressive, but after that try to see if he's interested in seeing you outside the gym.
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    Jun 10, 2011 4:55 PM GMT
    Yeah, he's attracted to you on some level, but it may be just for friends. What you do next is really up to you. Ask him out for some brews, and see what develops.
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    Jun 10, 2011 5:29 PM GMT
    I'd Say just suck his cock when he is in the locker room next, it will all work out in the end. You get some tasty cum, and he gets his dick sucked. It's a win, win!
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    Jun 10, 2011 5:44 PM GMT
    You need more clues. Next time you see him, ask him if he wants to go out for a drink after you workout sometime and see how he reacts.
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    Jun 10, 2011 7:28 PM GMT
    Fit4FitnDenver said
    itiscool saidI would appreciate it if anyone can give me his opinion. icon_surprised.gif) Say if you see a really cute guy at your gym. ..He approached and introduced his name and asked for your name. Does it mean anything? Is this a sign of interest? Was he just being polite?

    I have to somewhat disagree with the others saying that it's nothing.
    I've been going to the gym now going on 3 years and nobody has walked up to me and asked my name or gave me theirs

    I don't disagree with the others saying it's nothing.
    If you go to the gym practically every day, people are going to notice you. A subset of those will think it's polite to acknowledge your existence.
    The gym I go to is noted for being unfriendly but people do occasionally introduce themselves. Everyone who's done this to me has been straight, as far as I could tell. So there's not necessarily any sexual agenda in the situation described by the OP.