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Now that we've done the whole "what's the worst thing about being gay" and we've chatted about those poor unfortunate straight people. What does everyone think is the best thing about being gay?


who's going to go first?

The freedom to make the rules for my own life. As a gay guy, I dont have society setting the expectations for my life. I can analyze my feelings and construct a life that suits me.

Living my life openly and honestly.

And not appeasing to my family wishes like some men do.

Seeing life from a unique perspective.

Haha Getting to have sex with hot men!

Being part of a gang of fabulous people.

We may be bitchy, preachy, weirdos, lefties, right-wing, fatties, fems, knuckle-heads, lots of other things.

But we're fabulous, and no one can take that away from us.

Lozx

Not have to worry about getting a woman pregnant is #1.

Making love to a man is #2.

Not *having* to deal with women other than as friends.

Sex with hot men is a definate plus. Not aveing to coerce them to have sex with you. Men like sex...

getting away with more flair in my life (fashion, music, humor)

Breaking the mold

Calling people a whore is a term of endearment

Dancing!

Having your own parade.

gayroy saidNow that we've done the whole "what's the worst thing about being gay" and we've chatted about those poor unfortunate straight people. What does everyone think is the best thing about being gay?


who's going to go first?

It's part of who I am and has allowed me to participate in activities and interests that perhaps most striaght people never dream of.

It has also forced me to think long and hard about my place in the world rather than accepting what I'm supposed to do ( as many straight people do).....that is, get married, have kids, settle down and deal with all those conventions......freedom.

Other than that, there are trials and tribulations, joys and happiness that verybody shares simply because they are human. I don't think either group has an advantage over the other.

For me, the best thing about being Gay is that I have a deeper consciousness in regard to others. Any one who has experienced prejudice or discrimination or any feelings of otherness, has also been given the opportunity to discover a deeper understanding of oneself as well as the world around us. As a result I feel more empathic towards people in general. That"s not to say that I don't disagree with people. It just means that I don't judge people based off of my own resistance or lack of awareness in regard to there situation. There is an opportunity to learn,share and grow from every human interaction that presents itself if we choose to look for it.

runbrklyn saidFor me, the best thing about being Gay is that I have a deeper consciousness in regard to others. Any one who has experienced prejudice or discrimination or any feelings of otherness, has also been given the opportunity to discover a deeper understanding of oneself as well as the world around us. As a result I feel more empathic towards people in general. That"s not to say that I don't disagree with people. It just means that I don't judge people based off of my own resistance or lack of awareness in regard to there situation. There is an opportunity to learn,share and grow from every human interaction that presents itself if we choose to look for it.

Excellent post........by the way....your comments i think not only apply to straight people, but gay people as well. Sometimes, the worst prejudice directed at gay men are from gay men. Sometimes, you gotta try to understand why people are so unhappy, mean or grouchy.......other times, you just gotta say fuk em.

I dont have to worry about having kids until i'm ready.

OH... and Madonna.

StripperRocco said OH... and Madonna.

What?! You dont have to be gay to like Madonna ...

The best part about being gay ...

Besides being able to get intimate with other men. Life is a flipping party! As simple as that ...

Ray788 said[quote][cite]StripperRocco said[/cite] OH... and Madonna.

What?! You dont have to be gay to like Madonna ...

The best part about being gay ...

Besides being able to get intimate with other men. Life is a flipping party! As simple as that ...[/quote]

LOL i know that.

There was a comedian once who made a joke about how gays recruit (he himself was gay) and he said

"Seriously... what is our selling point? We have no rights and everyone hates us. Come live in our personal Hell... but OH, you get Madonna!"

and a toaster oven...

Multi-faceted, multi-talented achievers. :-)

I agree with Caslon's comment. I don't have society setting the expectations for my life. "Masculine" and "feminine" blur together for me; society seems so set on conforming everyone to those two groups...

Emm, not being straight? HAha, no seriously. I don't know how they do it!

The best thing from my perspective (to echo previous posters) is something that admittedly took some time: to fundamentally know myself and not worry about ascribing to conventional definitions of masculinity and femininity. If people think I'm gay, so be it. If they suspect me of being straight, I suspect it bothers me much less than it bothers many straight men to be suspected of being gay.

Icing on the cake is the ability to unabashedly wear outrageously cute underwear without worrying about people questioning my sexuality.

Being different, not having others people idea of a perfect family thrust onto me.

Sex with hot men ;-)

Sharing clothes with your man, if close to same size :-)

Not having to live with a woman! I'm serious. All the moodiness, PMS, tampons in the trash, the makeup bottles and powders all over the counter, etc.

No thanks.

being beaten down so much that it forced me to look into my self and find out who I truly am which has let me be my self and do the things I want to do without fear of being labeled as something.

Plus the hot guys.. aint nuffin better then that!

The discounts.

Oh, sorry, I thought this was "what's the best part of being a tiny, wizened, cranky senior citizen?"

jprichva saidThe discounts.

Oh, sorry, I thought this was "what's the best part of being a tiny, wizened, cranky senior citizen?"

you're not tiny!!!