does being gay fuck up your social life?

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    May 21, 2011 1:32 AM GMT
    I've found it pretty difficult to maintain. All my friends are homophobic and distant, I often get ignored or people don't answer my calls, when before they knew that about me they would always answer. Since I've come out 5 years ago, friends usually won't hang around for more than a few minutes. Now I've decided "maybe i just need gay friends?" It's not that different apparently, though I've only just started trying to make gay friends. There's awkwardness because they like me and I just want to be friends.


    So I basically just have 1 or 2 friends who hide their homophobic thoughts enough that we get along well. Then a very large group of people who keep their distance.

    How about yourself?
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    May 21, 2011 1:34 AM GMT
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    May 21, 2011 1:48 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidWhy are you "casting your pearls before swine?"
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    May 21, 2011 1:49 AM GMT
    Not at all. I think my life is more interesting because I'm gay. I'm also very fortunate that I've never had to deal with any negativity or backlash from any of my friends for being gay. I'm glad that I picked good friends who accept me as I am.
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    May 21, 2011 1:53 AM GMT
    Yes, it does. All these hot straight guys wouldn't be hitting on me all the time while we're hanging out if I weren't gay.
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    May 21, 2011 1:57 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidNot at all.. if anything, it's added to my social life.

    I would not have expected this type of problem to exist for you in Boston.
    Not exactly a little hick town.


    i live in brockton, ma


    it's the ghetto with some nice looking neighborhoods. shootings in my neighborhood... and a stabbing.... my yards really nice though!!

    **point being it's NOT gay friendly here, i'm friends with the open minded intellectual type and they've still mouthed the word faggot at me with the car window rolled up, rolled it down and were like "oh what?? whats up buddy"**


    i'm just gonna change that shit, cause, everyone keeps saying that about boston, i put boston cause i've had some creepy fuckin people lurking on me before cause of myspace. scared the shit out of me.
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    May 21, 2011 1:58 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidYes, it does. All these hot straight guys wouldn't be hitting on me all the time while we're hanging out if I weren't gay.

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    May 21, 2011 2:24 AM GMT
    Although I would couch it in different terms, yes it really has negatively affected my social life.

    It's not a big deal to me though. Videogames, the gym, and caring for a pet are more important to me than having one thousand friends like my facebook status updates.

    If those people don't want anything to do with you then they are missing out on what you have to offer.

    Apparently those who mind do not matter, and those who matter do not mind. So just be yourself and see who calls you to go out to a movie tomorrow as a friend.
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    May 21, 2011 2:34 AM GMT
    no, i know 2 or 3 gay people, i barely know them, and i said that because one seemed to like me and than i was like "im not into hook ups" "oh...." barely conversation from then on


    and i've got plenty of friends they're all just distant pricks.
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    May 21, 2011 3:28 AM GMT
    You just need to find better "friends." There are always times in your life where you seem to outgrow your current friends and need to move on a bit. Gay or straight....
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    May 21, 2011 3:46 AM GMT
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    May 21, 2011 3:46 AM GMT
    I have a pretty good group of friends, almost all are straight, a few that are gay. But they all love me (knocks on wood). I mean when I told them we had a few awkward moments, but after a while things started to get back to normal and I felt like myself around them. With one friend I'm still trying to feel him out since our relationship has returned back to normal somewhat, but once in a while it gets awkward cause I'm usually crushing over my straight friends and well he's a very good friend and I don't see him that way. Never did, but still on guard in case that changes cause you know he's almost like my best friend, but not just yet. My other two besties I love them (both girls), but its good I'm getting more guy friends in my life.
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    May 21, 2011 3:47 AM GMT
    Forgot to say maybe its just the fact that they may have known you one way for so long that now that they found out you're gay is why they think maybe you're hiding other things. Just be patient and the friends who are really your friends will come back if not screw them you can make more. You pick your friends icon_smile.gif
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    May 21, 2011 3:58 AM GMT
    No, gay people fuck my social life up.
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    May 27, 2011 10:12 AM GMT
    When I first came out to my boyhood friends, most of them were understanding (even after the first few awkward moments). However, one of my best boyhood friends had become an ardent evangelical Christian, and he told me right then and there that I was dead to him. Kind of a bummer, but what are you going to do?

    If any person is not "o.k." with the fact that your homosexuality accompanies the rest of the package that is you, then I would hazard to say that they are not friends. And if you think you cannot easily change their minds on the subject, I would have to say that I would let them go.

    At that point you can find yourself some new friends who support you for who you are. icon_smile.gif