Should Porn be a Benchmark

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    Apr 09, 2008 5:55 PM GMT
    When I was coming out and learning about being gay I watched a lot of porn, and practiced bottoming in different positions etc... based on what I saw. In particular, Jeremy Jordan taught me a lot LOL

    Now, 10 years later, some of the guys I get it on with think I'm faking it no matter what I do - which I'm not, for the record. I know there should be a limit on the "fuck yeah"'s etc.., but isn't good sex like porn star sex?

    Anyway, the question is = Should Porn be a Benchmark, or is it just screwing up with unrealistic expectations?
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    Apr 09, 2008 6:11 PM GMT
    Ugh, porn sex is boring! No passion or spark, it is all very predictable and filled with bad dialogue (I once had sex with a guy that talked like he was in a porn video, I nearly burst out laughing).

    The only good thing about watching porn are all the hot-looking men.

    If my sex life was like a porn video I would have broken up with my partner years ago.
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    Apr 09, 2008 8:09 PM GMT
    American porn is boring. All that "you want that big dick dontcha".

    Rubbish, predictable. Even the men all look the same.
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    Apr 09, 2008 8:30 PM GMT
    good sex is not like porn star sex. Porn stars are not paid for being good at sex (though practice makes perfect) they are paid for looking hot while having sex.

    But, ya know. If you want to say "fuck yeah" and do it porn star style because it gets you off. Then I say Fuck YEAH! to you good sir. ^_~
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    Apr 10, 2008 9:23 PM GMT
    I don't think using porn as a benchmark is a good idea, pretty much for the reasons already listed here.

    It's boring, predictable, the guys are only doing it because they're paid to do it, etc.

    As for talking during sex, personally, I like dirty talk, but there's a fine line for everything, including that.

    And good sex should be BETTER than porn sex. Good sex should be the kind that makes your toes curl and your eyes go back in your head, and then leave you breathless. How often do you see THAT in porn?
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    Apr 10, 2008 9:42 PM GMT
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    Apr 13, 2008 4:38 PM GMT
    I agree, enthusiasm is important. If you're not entusiastic about it, why do it? I'm reminded of the jokes about women who notice that the ceiling needs to be painted during sex.
    I'm all for pleasing your top and enthusiasm is part of that. If you please them they are usually reciprical. Besides, when I maneuver that cock right on to my prostate, I am pleased, very pleased indeed.
    I prefer the term POWER BOTTOM! Work that booty and milk that cock with your sphincter.
    I always ask new men if they have a heart condition before we hook up. I don't want to kill them.

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    Apr 13, 2008 10:39 PM GMT
    Wysiwyg60 said(I once had sex with a guy that talked like he was in a porn video, I nearly burst out laughing).


    hahahahahahahahahahhahahahahahahahahaha


    ahahhahahahahahahahaha

    I CAN'T STOP LAUGHING.


    God i would have laughed SO hard in his face
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    Apr 14, 2008 4:21 AM GMT
    Yeah, sometimes I'm watching these porns and I can tell that the guys don't even like each other. I do like to get a vocal and rough in bed though but there always has to be a spak. The worst is definitely the gay for pay guys. There dicks are like wet spaghetti cause they can't get hard and are like already crying about how many people are gonna find out they did a gay porn.
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    Apr 14, 2008 8:01 AM GMT
    Wonder why amateur vids are almost always more popular than your standard set-filmed porn? Because it's more realistic. Hehe. Frankly I find set-filmed porn boring. They just go through the same old routines, and I often just watch out for highlights where they deviate then loop that, LOL

    But yeah, depends on the taste of your partner, bedroom gab should be regulated. icon_razz.gif some guys like dirty talk, some want dead silence. LOL
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    Apr 18, 2008 5:39 PM GMT
    I think that where sex-talk is concerned, it should start away from the bed.

    Porn "stars" are told what do do, how to make it look good on screen etc. Porn has its place, both within and without a real, physical partner of your own.

    Real people, and therefore real sex, don't have directors. The only real way to get good sex, the kind you are looking for, is to be honest and communicative with your partner. Tell him what you want and how you want it. That's the real sex talk.
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    Apr 19, 2008 11:55 AM GMT
    Gay Porn is SO boring
    Yeah...some of the guys are hot
    But it's always exactly the same....

    kiss a little suck dick and then f**k
    Change the guys and the scenery and that's every plot
    ever made

    I'll stick to making up my own plot lines thank you icon_wink.gif

    As far as guys talking it up during sex
    it's ok...but there's a fine line
    an Ohh Yeah
    or an oy papi I live in Miami

    here and there is fine but if a guy is trying out for the Academy Awards of of Gay sex I'm over it
    I'll start laughing or be looking for one of the socks I threw on the floor