_Mohammed_ said1) My last straw, the one I would not be willing to compromise with my loved one is loving someone else. In other words, I would break up with ANY man if he ever said to me he wants an open relationship or found out he was seeing another man. I will never allow that if you are with me - no ands, ifs, or buts... that is my last straw.
2) This is a bit subjective... where one door closes another door opens, an area that is not so great may be covered by an area that is great. In other words, everyone has their flaws and their highlights... so no one is out of my league and I am not out of anyone's league... everyone is on the same playing field. -> In my mind.. as long as you stay monogamous you are definitely someone I want to talk get to know.
Regarding (1), I'm curious:
A. Do you consider it somehow logically or conceptually (perhaps even "metaphysically", if you will) IMPOSSIBLE a man (perhaps not **you** in particular, admittedly----but not just **you**, but (supposedly) ANY man) to be **in love** (** "genuinely" ** in love, if you will; but NOTE the "scare quotes" around 'genuinely') with **more than one man** **concurrently** (or "simultaneously")? Further: A-1: Could YOU (at least in-principle) be (i.e, are you capable of being), again, at least in-principle, not only attracted-to, but in-love-with (or at least extremely--and **genuinely**!!---extremely romantically **fond** of) more than one particular man at any given time?! A-2: What if you were in-love with, or at least almost full-fledgedly in-love-with (and could easily become completely in-love-with) some man with whom you (almost presumably, we may say) have a wonderful erotic/romantic chemistry/resonance, and this man is very genuinely/sincerely/passionately in-love-with YOU, and yet he also his similar (i.e., more-or-less just as strong, and, mind you, just as noble & genuine & sincere) erotic/romantic sentiments for one or more other men, concurrently with his feelings for you. (And, again, remember, **by hypothesis**, YOU really do care about/for him very deeply, and are at least half-way (so-to-speak) in-love-with him, if not indeed (almost, anyway) full-on, full-tilt in-love-with him, precisely in the sense that, among other things, you genuinely, as I said, care about him, admire him, and very much enjoy being with him). What is HE to do?! WHAT would YOU **HAVE** him do?!
Say you fall for a guy in, say, Winnipeg or Windsor, not to far (especially the latter) from the Toronto metroplex, admittedly, but sure-as-hell not all that close either!! And he falls for YOU (big time!!), but he also, more-or-less simultaneously (i.e., overlapping within just a few days, or at most, say, maybe a week or so) (can't help but genuinely) falls for yet another guy in, say, oh, hell, I don't know, let's say Calgary (or Edmonton, or, hell, even Vancouver, say, for that matter). HE might (indeed quite possibly would) like to maintain a polygamous (yet---**mind you!!!**---**exclusive** to ONLY you TWO, NOT just a wide-open free-for-all) relationship with BOTH of you guys!! In other words, he chooses be honest and candid with BOTH of you about his feelings---and desires to maintain a genuinely loving/romantic/intimate relationship with BOTH of you, rather than go behind both of y'all's back as regards the other?? WHAT would have (or insist, or whatever) that HE DO----GIVEN, again carefully mind you and take-into-consideration, that YOU really, really DO love and care about HIM!!??
A-3: Unless you declare---which, of course, is certainly your prerogative---that it would be absolutely IMPOSSIBLE, INCONCEIVABLE for the following to be the case----WHAT IF THE GUY, in the above scenario, IS NOT "some (other) guy", but indeed **YOU**, Mohammed?! What if YOU start dating TWO (or, hell, even 3 I suppose, at least in principle perhaps) guys concurrently, but, fairly soon-on, WITH **BOTH** (or however many, presumably no more than, say, 3) of them, you realize that you are, if not perhaps fully in-love, then nonetheless right on the verge, so to speak, of being so, with BOTH of them: That is, you really are (have just evolvedly, so to speak, as it has come to develop in dating them both) damn-near full-fledgedly, **genuinely** IN LOVE with BOTH them!! What NOW, now that the shoe is on the other foot, as we say?!
In apology, let me say that I am a J.D. (though not at this time a practicing attorney) who also almost got a doctorate in philosophy (but walked away from the crap with merely a J.D.)---so I have a "double-dose", so to speak of argumentation, and Socratic hypotheticals!!!
I look forward not only to Mohammed's response, but to that of anyone else....