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    May 22, 2011 3:34 PM GMT
    I will never understand why people want to be messy and ruin another person life, take what is theirs, come into their life first as a friend and double cross you just to get close to someone you were dating. Can anyone give me some advice on what to do to get over this situation because my then boyfriend was stolen from me not to long ago due to messy hoes on this site.
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    May 22, 2011 4:02 PM GMT
    Edward011 saidI will never understand why people want to be messy and ruin another person life, take what is theirs, come into their life first as a friend and double cross you just to get close to someone you were dating. Can anyone give me some advice on what to do to get over this situation because my then boyfriend was stolen from me not to long ago due to messy hoes on this site.



    lol, your BF was stolen? He has no will of his own? icon_wink.gif


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    May 22, 2011 4:17 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    Edward011 saidI will never understand why people want to be messy and ruin another person life, take what is theirs, come into their life first as a friend and double cross you just to get close to someone you were dating. Can anyone give me some advice on what to do to get over this situation because my then boyfriend was stolen from me not to long ago due to messy hoes on this site.



    lol, your BF was stolen? He has no will of his own? icon_wink.gif


    You got that right
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    May 22, 2011 4:36 PM GMT
    Not knowing on what the full story is....I would have to say if your man went with the other guy then either

    A) Your relationship wasn't going as well as you thought it was
    B) He wasn't worth going out with in the first place if he had wandering eyes...
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    May 22, 2011 5:09 PM GMT
    He wasn't stolen, he walked away from you because you ain't cute.
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    May 22, 2011 5:19 PM GMT
    Edward011 saidI will never understand why people want to be messy and ruin another person life, take what is theirs, come into their life first as a friend and double cross you just to get close to someone you were dating. Can anyone give me some advice on what to do to get over this situation because my then boyfriend was stolen from me not to long ago due to messy hoes on this site.



    i'll take this at face value.

    if he was "stolen" he could be returned. property is "stolen". people with free will go where they want. they honor their contracts or they do not. if they do not, you don't want them around anyway.

    as for your question. how to get over it? keep yourself busy. OWN the portion of this that is YOUR fault. in other words, either you were making assumptions about your level of seriousness and overly investing in the idea of you as a couple AND/or you were naive about the intentions of someone near you (there's an expression, keep your friends close, your enemies closer (less distance to stab them))..... the pieces of this that you own are the ONLY things you can control. the rest of it is beyond your control and will only cause you needless suffering to ponder.
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    May 22, 2011 6:19 PM GMT
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    Edward011 saidI will never understand why people want to be messy and ruin another person life, take what is theirs, come into their life first as a friend and double cross you just to get close to someone you were dating. Can anyone give me some advice on what to do to get over this situation because my then boyfriend was stolen from me not to long ago due to messy hoes on this site.



    i'll take this at face value.

    if he was "stolen" he could be returned. property is "stolen". people with free will go where they want. they honor their contracts or they do not. if they do not, you don't want them around anyway.

    as for your question. how to get over it? keep yourself busy. OWN the portion of this that is YOUR fault. in other words, either you were making assumptions about your level of seriousness and overly investing in the idea of you as a couple AND/or you were naive about the intentions of someone near you (there's an expression, keep your friends close, your enemies closer (less distance to stab them))..... the pieces of this that you own are the ONLY things you can control. the rest of it is beyond your control and will only cause you needless suffering to ponder.
    Thanks for the advice
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    May 22, 2011 6:20 PM GMT
    Fivealive saidNot knowing on what the full story is....I would have to say if your man went with the other guy then either

    A) Your relationship wasn't going as well as you thought it was
    B) He wasn't worth going out with in the first place if he had wandering eyes...
    Thanks for your help
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    May 22, 2011 10:15 PM GMT
    Edward011 said
    meninlove said
    Edward011 saidI will never understand why people want to be messy and ruin another person life, take what is theirs, come into their life first as a friend and double cross you just to get close to someone you were dating. Can anyone give me some advice on what to do to get over this situation because my then boyfriend was stolen from me not to long ago due to messy hoes on this site.



    lol, your BF was stolen? He has no will of his own? icon_wink.gif


    You got that right


    Well, my question has a correct answer, and it is: " Yes he has a will of his own."

    He exercised his free will and left you for another, which tells you the quality of man he is, and that's how you get over this situation. icon_wink.gif
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    May 22, 2011 10:40 PM GMT
    It's a standard phrase in English to stay that a lover was "stolen" by another person, even when that may not be literally true. Nevertheless, it's a normal figure of speech, so I don't think the OP should be criticized personally for using it. Most people say it, either about themselves or about others.

    At the same time, pointing out the reality of the situation, to help him deal with it better, is helpful & appropriate. And I agree with the gist of the comments here, that it was a case of free-will, if not a very good exercise of it. I wish the OP better in the future.
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    May 22, 2011 10:46 PM GMT
    Art said, "..that it was a case of free-will, if not a very good exercise of it."

    And it's precisely how he exercised his free will that should tell the OP the man is not worth a solitary tear. icon_wink.gif

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    May 22, 2011 11:59 PM GMT
    meninlove said Art said, "..that it was a case of free-will, if not a very good exercise of it."

    And it's precisely how he exercised his free will that should tell the OP the man is not worth a solitary tear. icon_wink.gif



    this is so true. although it hurts, it's much better when people reveal themselves like that early. that way you haven't invested too much time in them.
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    May 23, 2011 12:01 AM GMT
    Thanks guys for the nice advice i truly appreciate it icon_smile.gif
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    May 23, 2011 12:08 AM GMT
    I agree with what they said- be happy that he showed you the poor character and lack of morals he has early, rather than later. It may hurt now but I guarantee if you keep busy and keep doing you, you'll be fine in a few days.

    It always hurts (good guy, bad guy, indifferent guy), so feel that hurt, do what you need to do to feel better and then move on icon_smile.gif
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    May 23, 2011 12:09 AM GMT
    running11 saidI agree with what they said- be happy that he showed you the poor character and lack of morals he has early, rather than later. It may hurt now but I guarantee if you keep busy and keep doing you, you'll be fine in a few days.

    It always hurts (good guy, bad guy, indifferent guy), so feel that hurt, do what you need to do to feel better and then move on icon_smile.gif
    icon_wink.gif thanks icon_razz.gif
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    May 23, 2011 12:13 AM GMT
    CALL THE COPS!
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    May 23, 2011 12:14 AM GMT
    A_1991 saidCALL THE COPS!
    LMAO good idea icon_lol.gif