Just came out to my two best friends!

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    May 22, 2011 9:05 PM GMT
    They were the first of my close friends and family I came out to and were totally fine with it. I was so nervous and got all worked up about it for nothing. They acted like it was no big deal. They were surprised because they had never suspected but they coulda cared less. One of the even made me laugh, She was like "So does this mean we can go get manicures now and stare at hot guys?" I was like yes to the guys no to the nails, I'm still a dude haha. icon_lol.gif

    This makes me feel more comfortable to tell more people. icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 22, 2011 9:12 PM GMT
    Thanks for reminding me...I need a mani-pedi...been a while.

    Oh and congrats! icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 22, 2011 9:18 PM GMT
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    FunCollegeDude saidThey were the first of my close friends and family I came out to and were totally fine with it. I was so nervous and got all worked up about it for nothing. They acted like it was no big deal. They were surprised because they had never suspected but they coulda cared less. One of the even made me laugh, She was like "So does this mean we can go get manicures now and stare at hot guys?" I was like yes to the guys no to the nails, I'm still a dude haha. icon_lol.gif

    This makes me feel more comfortable to tell more people. icon_biggrin.gif

    Nice! Great story! And I agree, the beating up we do to ourselves as we fret about all of the horrible things that *could* (and admittedly, sometimes do) happen is often far worse than the reality for most of us.

    It's quite liberating, isn't it? icon_biggrin.gif


    yes it really is because now I don't have to pretend to be someone I'm not!
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    May 22, 2011 10:36 PM GMT
    Good man

    It does feel liberating .

    Well done x
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    May 23, 2011 12:04 AM GMT
    Congrats! I know you must be flying high right now. lol
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    May 23, 2011 12:06 AM GMT
    Congrats are definitely in order icon_smile.gif

    Cheers to you living how you want to live and not giving a fuck what anyone else thinks! icon_smile.gif
  • barriehomeboy

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    May 23, 2011 1:02 AM GMT
    Nobody really cares where we stick out dicks, and no guy can be blamed for the direction his dick points when it gets hard. Most of the str8 guys believe that. We're just so terified of them from our years in highschool we can't tell them where we're pointed.
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    May 23, 2011 1:11 AM GMT
    Good for you for telling them. And good for them for still loving and accepting you.

    I told one of my best straight friends two years ago and was terrified to tell him. We went to the same church for years and had grown close as friends. Well, I told him as we were walking back from dinner to my place and he was totally fine with it. He even told me that he suspected it but wasn't sure and if it was true, he wanted to hear it from me in my own time. He's been beyond cool about it and it's never been an issue.

    I also told another one of my best straight friends last summer over some beers and he has been totally cool about it as well. We even go to the gay bars together and he loves it! What is so shocking about it is that we went to the same church as well and I was apprehensive to tell him because of what he may have believed. But, thankfully, my fears, in both cases, were completely unfounded.

    To my pleasant surprise, I recently told them that a guy I've been talking to for quite some time is going to come and see me and they insisted that they meet him so they can check him out and question him and see how he measures up. How sweet is that?

    In both cases, I am actually closer with them than I was in the past and that's a true blessing.
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    May 23, 2011 3:06 AM GMT
    Congrats! Coming out can be hard for people, so I have to take my hat off to you.
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    May 23, 2011 3:10 AM GMT
    congratulations! you should put up a face pic now!

    as for me I'm still a fucking faceless torso or an arm. icon_sad.gif
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    May 23, 2011 3:14 AM GMT
    Congratulations! I think it's very common to come out to your best friends because they do love you so much! I know that's how I felt when I did. It is easier to tell others that you know will be "ok" with it. However, when I had to tell my parents.. not so easy. And, then I had to tell my super conservative Christian best friend, not so easy.

    You'll find that most of everyone will be very accepting; however, in my experience, do not get so comfortable with the fact that some people need time to soak it in.

    Congratulations again! I know it's such a wonderful feeling! icon_smile.gif

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  • HndsmKansan

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    May 23, 2011 3:20 AM GMT
    Awesome! Congrats for having the guts to take the first steps and glad your friends are really true.

    Good first step.. the remaining steps are for you to determine. Just know we are here for support and again, congrats!
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    May 23, 2011 4:50 AM GMT
    And you did it on Harvey Milk Day. Congratulations!
  • ads80

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    May 23, 2011 9:31 AM GMT
    Congrats dude, that is amazing news icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif

    I'm sorry the above poster doesn't think it should be a big deal for young guys... it's a big deal for an individual, period. I grew up in a small town too and it took me a long time to do it.

    The key thing is telling those close to you, then slowly telling others as you feel comfortable, if it's even relevant to you. Remember, all at your own pace - the main thing is that you feel free to be yourself!

    You're a legend for being brave, now live!
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    May 23, 2011 9:44 AM GMT
    FunCollegeDude saidThey were the first of my close friends and family I came out to and were totally fine with it. I was so nervous and got all worked up about it for nothing. They acted like it was no big deal. They were surprised because they had never suspected but they coulda cared less. One of the even made me laugh, She was like "So does this mean we can go get manicures now and stare at hot guys?" I was like yes to the guys no to the nails, I'm still a dude haha. icon_lol.gif

    This makes me feel more comfortable to tell more people. icon_biggrin.gif


    That's really good to hear! I just came out to one of my friends, too. I wasn't super nervous about it and acted casual. We were talking about gay people and then I stopped and said to her, "wait. You know I'm gay, right," and she was like, "oh, really?" And that was it. Very easy and simple thankfully. Right after I told her, she started to point out guys walking by asking me to rate them on a scale of 1-10 lol!
  • ads80

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    May 23, 2011 9:49 AM GMT
    dj... nice work, make it sound like it was her fault she didn't know icon_wink.gif casual and cool
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    May 23, 2011 9:56 AM GMT
    ads80 saiddj... nice work, make it sound like it was her fault she didn't know icon_wink.gif casual and cool


    Haha, it's not as bas as it sounds here. I didn't really officially "come out" and it felt really awkward just saying it, so I just kinda...threw it in there casually haha.