What brings you JOY?

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    May 22, 2011 10:01 PM GMT
    Hi all,

    Ive been reading "The Velvet Rage", and it challenges gay men to get beyond the stages of overcompensation, and shame to a place of authenticity. It says to be on the lookout for things that bring joy.

    What I find brings me joy is the theatre- my career. I love the feeling of joy when i am offered a role ( Ive just been offered a new show), listening to muscials, singing.. and even when reading a play, being able to look at the deeper aspects of it etc.. to understand what makes the characters tick, almost as if i was in preperation for one day playing the roles.

    I cant imagine doing anything else with my life as a career.. its full of stress and insecurity but Im born for the stage.. its a vocation and a calling for me. And Im a damn good actor as well.

    what brings you all joy, what makes you feel alive?
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    May 22, 2011 10:02 PM GMT
    Flying and photography.
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    May 22, 2011 10:08 PM GMT
    My dogs.

    My garden.

    My me time in my garden with my dogs.

    Singing on stage.

    Being in Hawaii.

    Making others laugh, even people on their death beds.

    Being me.

    Being in the Aussie bush.

    My husband of 20+ years.
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    May 22, 2011 10:24 PM GMT
    Privacy
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    May 22, 2011 10:24 PM GMT
    so youi have to sully a really good thread witrh your useless narcisstic ego?
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    May 22, 2011 10:25 PM GMT
    Edward my comment was not aimed at you,. but the guy above you.
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    May 22, 2011 10:31 PM GMT
    blactor saidEdward my comment was not aimed at you,. but the guy above you.


    He does this every now and then Blactor (spamming one topic after another).

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    May 22, 2011 10:39 PM GMT
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    May 22, 2011 10:58 PM GMT
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    May 22, 2011 11:06 PM GMT
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    blactor saidEdward my comment was not aimed at you,. but the guy above you.


    He does this every now and then Blactor (spamming one topic after another).



    Whoa, I missed what Paul did that was so narcissistic. I mean, I know pilots can be egotistical, but just mentioning flying doesn't seem that bad. icon_question.gif
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    May 22, 2011 11:30 PM GMT
    Not Paul. Another guy spamming the topic. Paul is one cool cat!
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    May 22, 2011 11:35 PM GMT
    blactor saidNot Paul. Another guy spamming the topic. Paul is one cool cat!



    He is indeed! We were talking about a spammer that has been given the Royal Boot, so to speak.

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    May 22, 2011 11:56 PM GMT
    blactor saidEdward my comment was not aimed at you,. but the guy above you.


    Diddums you ask a question, I gave the truth, now you act like a petulant child. Don't ask a question if you don't want to hear the truth. It pleases one, that the fact I enjoy my life and many aspects of it, upsets you.icon_wink.gif poor little man. Sorry not responsible for your issues.icon_razz.gif One is sorry your self esteem is so low, you feel one is narcissistic; giggles at the thought.

    Sorry but you sullied your own thread because of your hate; you need to own that.

    It brings me joy that i will very soon be back in Hawaii.icon_razz.gif

    I can afford to pay someone to come into my home 3 x a week, to walk my dogs, while I am at work.icon_cool.gif

    That I am truly loved.icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 23, 2011 12:29 AM GMT
    Ahh, I didn't see it. Maybe I already had him on ignore. I always thought that would just mean there would be some placeholder post that said something like "this post has been hidden," but I guess it just has the effect of making it seem like it's not even there at all.
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    May 23, 2011 12:31 AM GMT
    She always comes by bus. I don't know why she doesn't take a cab. Not like she doesn't have the money.
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    May 23, 2011 12:36 AM GMT
    nature
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    May 23, 2011 12:37 AM GMT
    Singing. Belting it out like a rockstar, or regular singing along to an excellently appropriate song for the moment.

    That's about the only time I feel true joy, but it comes very rarely, since people are usually around and I don't want to bother them.
  • barriehomeboy

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    May 23, 2011 12:50 AM GMT
    Joy has not yet entered my life. I enjoy a lot of things, but I don't know what "joy" is.

    It was a question on my most recent performance appraisal at work too. What brought me joy at work. I bluffed my way through it by pandering to my bosses obsessions, but what the hell it joy anyway?

    Maybe when I was 5 and my mother plugged in the lights on the Christmas tree, which were those alcohol filled vertical tubes that bubbles trickled up through, and I thought Santa was going to bring all of my dreams the next morning, sitting on the floor in my pajamas at nightfall.

    I don't remember what happened the next day, but I can pretty much tell you that it's been shit after that.There was no joy. My grandmother and the cat that I hated didn't die inexplicably.

    Oy vey. I'm just another bitter old queen with cancer and whining. I started out to say something profound, but then I got distracted by my own misery. I'm usually a happy positive guy.

    I keep coming back to this "joy" thing though, after rambling on, sorry. Had a glass of wine and some rum cake.

    It sounds like euphoria. That only come with drugs, as far as I've experienced so far.
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    May 23, 2011 2:23 AM GMT
    Thanks for posting about the book. I'm looking it up now online to see what the reviewers are saying. I think there are some excerpts, too, that I've located. Haven't yet read it all.
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    May 23, 2011 2:39 AM GMT
    Many things,

    - Feeling independent and strong and able to do anything and make my own decisions

    - Taking the steps to make my dreams a reality

    - Being completely spontaneous and just driving somewhere or going on a trip on a whim

    - A warm summer night, the beach, a county fair...

    The list goes on and on!
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    May 23, 2011 4:13 AM GMT
    singing aloud, candy/chocolate, good company, good challenges
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    May 23, 2011 6:09 AM GMT
    barriehomeboy saidJoy has not yet entered my life. I enjoy a lot of things, but I don't know what "joy" is.

    It was a question on my most recent performance appraisal at work too. What brought me joy at work. I bluffed my way through it by pandering to my bosses obsessions, but what the hell it joy anyway?

    Maybe when I was 5 and my mother plugged in the lights on the Christmas tree, which were those alcohol filled vertical tubes that bubbles trickled up through, and I thought Santa was going to bring all of my dreams the next morning, sitting on the floor in my pajamas at nightfall.

    I don't remember what happened the next day, but I can pretty much tell you that it's been shit after that.There was no joy. My grandmother and the cat that I hated didn't die inexplicably.

    Oy vey. I'm just another bitter old queen with cancer and whining. I started out to say something profound, but then I got distracted by my own misery. I'm usually a happy positive guy.

    I keep coming back to this "joy" thing though, after rambling on, sorry. Had a glass of wine and some rum cake.

    It sounds like euphoria. That only come with drugs, as far as I've experienced so far.


    Barrie, I really suggest you read the book. This is what I'm saying. The. Fact is that so many people -gay or straight- aren't in touch with themselves to a degree where they feel joy. It takes time, self refection and courage to own who obe is and what brings joy.

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    May 23, 2011 6:48 AM GMT
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    May 23, 2011 7:09 AM GMT
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    May 23, 2011 7:22 AM GMT
    blactor saidHi all,

    Ive been reading "The Velvet Rage", and it challenges gay men to get beyond the stages of overcompensation, and shame to a place of authenticity. It says to be on the lookout for things that bring joy.

    What I find brings me joy is the theatre- my career. I love the feeling of joy when i am offered a role ( Ive just been offered a new show), listening to muscials, singing.. and even when reading a play, being able to look at the deeper aspects of it etc.. to understand what makes the characters tick, almost as if i was in preperation for one day playing the roles.

    I cant imagine doing anything else with my life as a career.. its full of stress and insecurity but Im born for the stage.. its a vocation and a calling for me. And Im a damn good actor as well.

    what brings you all joy, what makes you feel alive?


    You reminded me of my younger days. My short-lived acting career. The feeling you get when you know you have the audience in the palm of your hand. Some have said that it's much more difficult to get them to laugh than to cry. Perhaps. Ahhh....it really is a feeling of immense gratification when you know you've done your best and the audience appreciates it. The applause! And the worst is always when the show closes and the great friends you've made, and you, have to move on. A microcosm of life. Bittersweet.