adam228 said I split up with my boyfriend of two years because he wasn't able to trust me (or anyone in his life since childhood). That kind of trust issue is such a core part of him that a few months or years isn't going to change. Boyfriend's aren't projects, they are partners and I decided I had to move on. It was the hardest thing I have ever done, and I know I broke his heart (and thus confirmed all his trust-related fears) but I just can't be in that kind of relationship.
I've been that person in the relationship. The one with the near-impossible trust barriers. The only person who could put up with me really helped me grow up. That was a relationship defined by both of us NEEDING each other in different ways to evolve. By definition, once that was done, we'd each grow in the same direction or move on to other areas.
Trust is such a funny thing. People often give it away. and you can learn more about how you can trust someone by watching than by their words.
it reminds me of this piece I've seen written out and posted on various sites:
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do. When someone is in your life for a reason, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
Next! When people come into your life for a season, it is because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
Lifetime relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but, friendship is clairvoyant. I know why you are in my life and I love you for that reason . . . .