I forgot to delete my history........

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    May 23, 2011 10:26 PM GMT
    So one of my many brothers announced last night that he knows I'm gay because he saw real jock in the history of my computer icon_redface.gif
    i wasn't ready to tell him so i said it wasn't me maybe it was a friend of mine but he definitely knows I'm lying, I'm not even close to ready to tell my family yet i've only told 2 or 3 friends and he gets really mouthy if he has a few drinks so I'm worried it will all come out ugh! How could i be so stupid!
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    May 23, 2011 10:27 PM GMT
    BiJamie saidSo one of my many brothers announced last night that he knows I'm gay because he say real jock in the history of my computer icon_redface.gif
    i wasn't ready to tell him so i said it wasn't me maybe it was a friend of mine but he definitely knows I'm lying, I'm not even close to ready to tell my family yet i've only told 2 or 3 friends and he gets really mouthy if he has a few drinks so I'm worried it will all come out ugh! How could i be so stupid!


    If you have many brothers then why does it have to be you. Cant it be one of the other ones?

    Plus if you dont want to get caught, then dont do it. Simple solutions to simple problems.
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    May 23, 2011 10:28 PM GMT
    Chainers said
    If you have many brothers then why does it have to be you. Cant it be one of the other ones?

    Plus if you dont want to get caught, then dont do it. Simple solutions to simple problems.


    because we are the only two living at home and it wasn't him
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    May 23, 2011 10:31 PM GMT
    boy does this brings back memories lol, dont sweat it....at first things will be awkward, then next thing you know things will be back to normal....just so u know you dont have to come out to him, is one of those things where you both know and you dont have to talk about....
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    May 23, 2011 10:33 PM GMT
    Just have your web browser on auto deletion of history on exits. It's supported in all of them.

    It sucks that your brother is being dickish about it. My brother was the first person I came out to and he was very supportive of that. Try speaking to him when he's NOT drunk and acting more mature. Sometimes it's better to come out to siblings first. Good luck.
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    May 23, 2011 10:37 PM GMT
    Why not just come out and say you're gay?
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    May 23, 2011 10:41 PM GMT
    mocktwinkie saidWhy not just come out and say you're gay?


    If it was as easy as saying i'm gay and no one caring everyone would be out but its not that easy and my parents don't accept the gay thing they've said it before so can't at the minute at least. anyway only recently got up courage to tell some close friends which was hard enough!
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    May 23, 2011 10:42 PM GMT
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    mocktwinkie saidWhy not just come out and say you're gay?


    If it was as easy as saying i'm gay and no one caring everyone would be out but its not that easy and my parents don't accept the gay thing they've said it before so can't at the minute at least. anyway only recently got up courage to tell some close friends which was hard enough!


    It is impossible for anyone's situation to be more difficult than mine was in terms of coming out, so I completely understand your state of mind -- I was there, I was at the pinnacle of coming out "impossibilities". The truth of the matter is that whatever rejection process you're fearing will just end up happening at a later date, so if you think about it there's no point in waiting. The reaction will either happen today or tomorrow or next week or in 10 years, but it will be the same one.
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    May 23, 2011 10:44 PM GMT
    mocktwinkie said
    BiJamie said
    mocktwinkie saidWhy not just come out and say you're gay?


    If it was as easy as saying i'm gay and no one caring everyone would be out but its not that easy and my parents don't accept the gay thing they've said it before so can't at the minute at least. anyway only recently got up courage to tell some close friends which was hard enough!


    It is impossible for anyone's situation to be more difficult than mine was in terms of coming out, so I completely understand your state of mind. The truth of the matter is that whatever rejection process you're fearing will just end up happening at a later date, so if you think about it there's no point in waiting. The reaction will either happen today or tomorrow or next week or in 10 years, but it will be the same one.


    but the difference being i won't live at home and have to listen to it!
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    May 23, 2011 10:45 PM GMT
    BiJamie said
    mocktwinkie said
    BiJamie said
    mocktwinkie saidWhy not just come out and say you're gay?


    If it was as easy as saying i'm gay and no one caring everyone would be out but its not that easy and my parents don't accept the gay thing they've said it before so can't at the minute at least. anyway only recently got up courage to tell some close friends which was hard enough!


    It is impossible for anyone's situation to be more difficult than mine was in terms of coming out, so I completely understand your state of mind. The truth of the matter is that whatever rejection process you're fearing will just end up happening at a later date, so if you think about it there's no point in waiting. The reaction will either happen today or tomorrow or next week or in 10 years, but it will be the same one.


    but the difference being i won't live at home and have to listen to it!


    Now I do understand you there. I waited until I was independent.
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    May 23, 2011 10:46 PM GMT
    Blame it on Obama. After all, he was there today. icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 23, 2011 10:47 PM GMT
    D'aaaaawww this reminds me of when I was 14-19 or so and would look at gay porn on the family computer. I'd have this meticulous religion of cache clearing, history deleting and cookie erasing out of a deadly fear they'd find the stuff.

    My dad didn't though. I'd find the porn he looked at icon_confused.gif
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    May 23, 2011 11:07 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidBlame it on Obama. After all, he was there today. icon_biggrin.gif
    as always paul comments much appreciated but unfortunately he came over today and this was a 2 days ago only got a chance to post now!
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    May 23, 2011 11:10 PM GMT
    You may be crying now, but you'll look back on this someday and appreciate the humor of it.

    MockTwinkie is right...there is never a good time to come out...so just do it now and get it over with.

    But if you can't do that, then you need to get a lawyer attitude. Everybody already knows the truth already....which means you have to play games to get them to drop it. If he says it's a gay website, just say, "No, it's a workout website....it's called Real Jock...if it was gay, wouldn't it be called Real Gay Jock?" Or just to laugh and say, "Oh, that's nothing. I visit lots of websites." Then go on the counter attack. "You shouldn't be so nosy...what if I snooped around in your business and looked at every website YOU ever visited? Huh?"

    Anyway, if they're cool brothers, they'll drop the whole thing and tell you to wear condoms.
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    May 23, 2011 11:11 PM GMT
    My brother found my gay porn when I was 17, he didn't mention it until 2 years later when I came out, that was when he busted up laughing and said he already knew. These things happen, I'm sure it'll work out alright in the end. icon_wink.gif
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    May 23, 2011 11:23 PM GMT
    "truth fears no questions"

    Try not to stress over it so much. It sounds like its all in brotherly fun. I know its scarey but once its out & over with you'll look back & wonder what you were so scared of.

    Most of the time family members already kinda know......its a difference in thinking you know & having you admit it to them. It sounds like you have more of a problem with it than they do.
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    May 24, 2011 12:45 AM GMT
    Everything happens for a reason, be patient and you'll see what comes of it.
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    May 24, 2011 4:27 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidD'aaaaawww this reminds me of when I was 14-19 or so and would look at gay porn on the family computer. I'd have this meticulous religion of cache clearing, history deleting and cookie erasing out of a deadly fear they'd find the stuff.


    I was the same, except if I found a picture that was really hot, I'd save it on the (family) computer. I thought I was pretty crafty, hiding it in a path of folders... until I came home from school one day and my mom was at home, browsing through it all.

    Boy was my face red. I had to lie and said someone kept sending the pictures to me.

    So glad I have my own laptop now.
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    May 24, 2011 10:05 AM GMT
    There might have been something Freudian in all of this-like you might have, deep down, wanted to get caught and get the ball rolling.

    Peace,
    Bardy
  • Anto

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    May 24, 2011 10:11 AM GMT
    It is impossible for anyone's situation to be more difficult than mine was in terms of coming out

    How so?
  • somedaytoo

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    May 24, 2011 10:12 AM GMT
    internet explorer has in-private browsing. Then you don't have to worry about leaving tracks.
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    May 24, 2011 11:06 AM GMT
    Fuck it, dude.You've been caught. Might as well just own up to it and get it over with. Your brother has caught you so denying it will only make you look more guilty. Talk to your brother and see if he can keep it between just you two for the time being until you are ready yet to announce the big news to the rest of your family.

    As long as you have a cool bro who wouldn't use this type of information to blackmail you then you should be fine.

    Out of curiosity is this a home computer or a personal computer like a laptop your brother found out about your gayness on? That sorta makes a difference depending on the situation. If it was a public house computer then consider yourself lucky that it was just your bro who caught you. If it was your personal computer then I'd be pissed since that's a violation of personal space. Either way the secret is out now and how you choose to handle it is all up to you.

    Best of luck.
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    May 24, 2011 11:24 AM GMT
    nycam86 saidJust have your web browser on auto deletion of history on exits. It's supported in all of them.

    Right. The OP calls it "my" computer or is it shared? In which case the other user(s) might prefer to retain the history feature.

    Although I believe on some computers if you set up multiple user accounts you can password-protect yours only, which would prevent nosy brothers from prying, unless he catches your account still running before it goes into auto-sleep. In fact, maybe that should be done anyway, if family members are living in the same house, or drop by on their own without warning.

    And frankly, if this was the OP's computer, what was his brother doing snooping around in it?
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    May 24, 2011 11:34 AM GMT
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    nycam86 saidJust have your web browser on auto deletion of history on exits. It's supported in all of them.

    Right. The OP calls it "my" computer or is it shared? In which case the other user(s) might prefer to retain the history feature.

    Although I believe on some computers if you set up multiple user accounts you can password-protect yours only, which would prevent nosy brothers from prying, unless he catches your account still running before it goes into auto-sleep. In fact, maybe that should be done anyway, if family members are living in the same house, or drop by on their own without warning.

    And frankly, if this was the OP's computer, what was his brother doing snooping around in it?


    He was being a brother. For all we know maybe the brother had permission to use the computer. Who knows? The fact is the OP forgot to delete his history and wham....the cat is out of the bag now.
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    May 24, 2011 11:58 AM GMT
    KardioKing saidMy brother found my gay porn when I was 17, he didn't mention it until 2 years later when I came out, that was when he busted up laughing and said he already knew. These things happen, I'm sure it'll work out alright in the end. icon_wink.gif


    Your bro *does* sound cool.