Want to date someone and have a bf. why is it so hard? am i too picky?

  • brendanmuscle...

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    May 24, 2011 1:04 AM GMT
    So i want a boyfriend around my age really into bodybuilding too. The bigger the better- (though its not necessary to be my size, someone who is smaller who wants to get bigger is also perfectly good with me!)

    why is it so, so difficult to find someone who fits this profile?

    personality is important too, but if i can't find someone who fits the profile of the first paragraph, i really can't date them. It's just something i am looking for
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    May 24, 2011 1:07 AM GMT
    check out this post
    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/1572440
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    May 24, 2011 1:07 AM GMT
    Guys with laundry lists of requirements their boyfriends have to meet = Guys who stay single. It kind of just works that way.
  • brendanmuscle...

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    May 24, 2011 1:09 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidGuys with laundry lists of requirements their boyfriends have to meet = Guys who stay single. It kind of just works that way.


    No, you see its not that way. i have one requirement thats just hard to find. def not a laundry list.
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    May 24, 2011 1:23 AM GMT
    Gay bodybuilders are a rare breed icon_rolleyes.gif
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    May 24, 2011 2:17 AM GMT
    Okay so try and follow me.

    Think about all the men in the world, then exclude the straight ones. Down to about 5% (lets assume the other 5% of "gay" people are lesbians).

    Now include only the gay people from 21 to 31. Lets say 2% of all gay people.

    Now of the 2%, find out how many go to the gym on a regular basis. All things the same, thats probbably about .75%.

    Now of that .75%, think about how many people really have a hardcore dedication to bodybuilding that are age 21-31, live near you and are gay.

    Suddenly your one qualification just became an impossibly small number of people.

    And that's not even including personality.

    PS, I'm 23 ;)
  • calibro

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    May 24, 2011 2:28 AM GMT
    want and need are two different things. i want a muscled, tall boyfriend who is filfthy rich and makes abercrombie models look doughy... and oh, he should have an olympic medal, an oscar, and season ticket luxury boxes to all professional sports teams and backstage passes to all concerts. blond hair and blue eyes are preferable, but they're not deal breakers.... and in the real world i want guys i'm attracted to emotionally, mentally, and physically, someone i can love faults and all. none of my exs have been what i want, but they've all been what i needed.
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    May 24, 2011 2:46 AM GMT
    calibro said...and in the real world i want guys i'm attracted to emotionally, mentally, and physically, someone i can love faults and all. none of my exs have been what i want, but they've all been what i needed.



    Was a very good thought.....
  • ohioguy12

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    May 24, 2011 4:06 AM GMT
    Well, WHY is it so important for you to find somebody who's into bodybuilding? Is it for superficial looks or is there something more such as common interests?
  • brendanmuscle...

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    May 24, 2011 10:21 AM GMT
    ohioguy12 saidWell, WHY is it so important for you to find somebody who's into bodybuilding? Is it for superficial looks or is there something more such as common interests?


    It is about sharing a common interest ... but also a common destiny. Gotta think of it as that icon_smile.gif
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    May 24, 2011 11:00 AM GMT
    brendanmuscles saidSo i want a boyfriend around my age really into bodybuilding too. The bigger the better- (though its not necessary to be my size, someone who is smaller who wants to get bigger is also perfectly good with me!)

    why is it so, so difficult to find someone who fits this profile?

    personality is important too, but if i can't find someone who fits the profile of the first paragraph, i really can't date them. It's just something i am looking for



    Look around in your gym.
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    May 24, 2011 12:12 PM GMT
    A search for 20-33 year olds in New York, New York on bigmuscle.com yields 356 hits. None of them want to date you?