Stared at the gym

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    Jun 29, 2007 6:49 PM GMT
    I know that people stare at the gym, I have done it, when a guy passes by and has an amezing body sure why not. I also stare when I see some one doing a new excercise and I want to learn it. But what do you do when some one is looking at you giving you the evil eye? I was working at the gym and you can tell when some one is looking at you, so I felt this really strong gaze and I calmly looked at the mirrors on the gym and sure enough there was this guy three benches to my left looking at me. Not through the mirrors but directly at me. But it was not a good look, it was that psycho look like "I am thinking of the many ways I can destroy you." It was very distracting and he kept doing it, not only to me but to a few guys. He was hardly working out at all. Even a buddy of mine came over and talked to me and he brought it up, we both felt very uneasy and we moved to the other side of the gym. We noticed that hardly any one was working out around this guy and to be honest I skipped half of my routine and headed to the pool. Any one else has had this happened to them? If so what do you do? Can you do anything?
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    Jun 29, 2007 9:36 PM GMT
    You know, there's a bit of that going on at my gym as well. I'm usually in my own world, blasting something annoying to the person next to me, so I'm not looking around much (unless someone is doing an exercise I wanna steal). I guess I'm old-school in that I think it's rude to stare at someone and believe if you're gonna do that, then Say Something! You should try making a funny face at him/her and/or staring right back until they turn away (which they all do, eventually). You could always blow a kiss too, but use that one with caution! :)
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    Jun 30, 2007 3:15 AM GMT
    Hey Jack

    HAHAH Those are some good ideas, but trust me I think that if I had seen that guy in an alley, I would run the other way as fast as possible. I was not even wearing headphones or anything so I knew I had not done anything to piss the guy off, plus he was not really close. But I will keep in mind your ideas. LOL
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    Jun 30, 2007 3:29 AM GMT
    I have seen straight guys behave that way when they landed in a mainly gay gym while out of town. I've also seen steroid monsters act that way.

    Are you sure you were wearing the right clothes? :)
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    Jun 30, 2007 1:09 PM GMT
    HAHAH Yeah, had my leg warmers on, my cut-off shirt to show my belly and had a wonderful set of matching wristbands and head band with Rainbow bright on...lol...I think the guy was on something but it just made me think of all those people who just snap because no one paid attention to them, like that kid in Virgina Tech.
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    Jun 30, 2007 1:28 PM GMT
    Are you certain there wasn't just something wrong with his eyes? He may have actually been looking elsewhere.

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    Jun 30, 2007 2:11 PM GMT
    The best thing to in the gym situation is put headphones on...that way no one will bother you. Don't make eye contact, unless you are interested in talking or getting to know someone. If someone sees you in the gym on a regular basis, be polite and say hello.
    that is the best advice. As far as straight guys in the ... what straight guys LOL
    All gyms have a percentage of gay guys, I don't care where they are!!!
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    Jul 04, 2007 4:25 AM GMT
    Headphones help you keep focused.

    People stare, it is normal. Don't mind it too much. THere's not much to look at in a gym, naturally people look at other people's bodies, form, and exercises they're doing.

    I am one of those people you described. Most people think I am giving people dirty looks. Well I am not. I have better things to do. I am mostly sitting there staring off into blank space (focus at infinity), but people keep thinking I am looking at them.

    If things get awkward with one person in particular your best weapon is good social skills: say hi, nod, ask them to give you a spot and you will find that most people are super nice if you get past the unintentional dirty looks they're giving off.

    Most people in the gym are teddy bears at heart. Believe me, the toughest guy in your gym perhaps may be the most soft spoken person.
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    Jul 04, 2007 4:55 AM GMT
    muscletroy contantly stares at me at the gym. It's really annoying.

    j/k

    Let's face it, guys. Men are visually stimulated; we're just wired that way. I usually don't even realize that I'm locked in a trance when Nike man or Blacky Thug walk by (our code names for fellow gym rats ;). I generally look like a deer in headlights. However, what I don't like are those guys who go out of their way to force eye contact with me (i.e., crusing). What ever happened to subtlty?

    The way I figure it, though, half the reason for going to the gym is for the candy (of the eye variety). On those few occasions where I've gotten the evil eye, I've given it right back. Make a game of it. ;-)
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    Nov 04, 2007 4:25 AM GMT
    Man the worse thing ever to happen to me related to this was about a year ago this really small dude kept switching machines all over the gym to be right next to me. He never spoke or anything but he just constantly stared. I would look over and he would be furiously peddling on his machine bike and intensely staring at me. My buddy and I eventually left early cause he just wouldnt leave me alone. I guess he'd never seen a dude work out in just their thong before? lol icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 04, 2007 5:19 AM GMT
    I was taught from childhood that staring is rude. Usually I don't let it phase me, but there's a certain feel you get from someone staring at you in a negative way, even before you see them. My reaction has been varied... usually either giving the evil eye back or in certain cases, walking over and asking them if they have a problem with me or are they just daydreaming. (That last one might not be wise for everyone.)

    Getting the evil eye like that feels like an invasion of my space, which is something I don't tolerate very well. That might be one of the many reasons I workout at home now.
  • trl_

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    Dec 22, 2009 7:57 AM GMT
    I was always taught that staring for any reason is not appropriate.

    NO EVIL EYE!

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    Dec 22, 2009 9:02 AM GMT
    fizzle saidI was always taught that staring for any reason is not appropriate.

    NO EVIL EYE!

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    Firstly, necromancer.
    Secondly, I stare at hot guys, and then chat to them. Makes it all so much more fun.
  • rnch

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    Dec 22, 2009 2:39 PM GMT
    es, if i saw YOU in the gym, i'd stare. icon_cool.gif
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    Dec 20, 2014 11:57 PM GMT
    I usually ignore them cause I paid money to work out and use whatever machine I want, I didn't pay anything to be a puss.

    But if I'm bored or he's hot, I usually give them the curious glance of acknowledgement; look away; then look back, pause with a half smile, or a concerned expression. That way they know that I'm aware and uncomfortable with them staring at me. Always works.
  • muscleboundfe...

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    Dec 22, 2014 2:05 PM GMT
    As someone who has recovered from social anxiety I would like to point out that fear looks a lot like anger. I wouldn't assume its about me unless I moved to another part of the gym and noticed someone looking again.
  • Buddha

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    Dec 23, 2014 12:02 AM GMT
    Wow, I know you shouldn't open a new thread if there's already a topic on it but... I'd say it's safe to open a new thread if it has gone more than 7 years. I mean even a mirror forgets about you breaking it in that time.

    You get a reward for the best necro-post of the year. In addition, you sank my battleship.

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