Religion and Relationships

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 24, 2011 12:35 PM GMT
    Does it matter if your dating someone who is religious or not? Also is it an issue having a partner that practices different religious beliefs from yours?

    Personally for me, no it isn’t a considered factor when dating, and I’m comfortable with my religion so it doesn’t bother me, I’ll look at it as an opportunity to learn about something new.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 24, 2011 2:03 PM GMT
    If the person understands that I do not, and cannot believe in any gods, then it is fine. I don't care if they believe or not, but they must feel the same way about me on the matter.

    My brother is a devout christian. His long-term girlfriend is an atheist. She called me crying a few months ago, because my brother started saying that he would never be able to marry an atheist, or be with them for a really long period of time. He only started on it because of my mother; she had told him some shit about the bible saying he was in the wrong. I was livid, and later called my mother to tell her to fuck off and stop being mean to this poor girl. The girl feels the same way I do. If there were a strong reason to believe, then we would, but an ultimatum isn't going to cut it.

    As long as some guy doesn't later try to pull that shit with me, then yes, I'm fine dating a religious person. I've dated a devout catholic in the past, and would again. I would also never try to convert a partner to atheism. I respect that some people believe, and others do not.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 24, 2011 2:29 PM GMT
    I'm christian (notice the small c for humility) and Bill is an atheist. We're married (see our profile). It will be 22 years later this year. Our divergent beliefs have never been an issue. Long ago I made a deal with the Almighty.
    Like this:
    'I see You in the world around me, in every plant and person, animal and natural wonder, in this way I love You. I love Christ for what He stood for. I do not do these things (BEING a christian) and feel this way to purchase a ticket to heaven, but because I am part of You. Wherever Bill goes when he dies, send me there too, because that will be heaven for me."

    -Doug



    I love what Christ stood for. He loved believers and non-believers alike, and according to the story, died for all, not some.

    Pyro, your brother and Mom have forgotten a few things.

    "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone."

    "Judge not, lest ye be judged."

    "Love thy neighbour as thyself"

    Interestingly, Bill behaves more christian in his wonderful compassionate approach to people than many christians I've met.


  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 24, 2011 2:41 PM GMT
    meninlove said Pyro, your brother and Mom have forgotten a few things.

    "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone."

    "Judge not, lest ye be judged."

    "Love thy neighbour as thyself"

    Interestingly, Bill behaves more christian in his wonderful compassionate approach to people than many christians I've met.


    I think it's more of a selective disregard rather than a lapse in memory. I always enjoy christians more when they view religion as their personal philosophy and way to make themselves better, more compassionate people, rather than a strict set of rules that others are supposed to follow. You're the type of christian I enjoy. icon_smile.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 24, 2011 2:43 PM GMT
    *blush* Thanks Pyro, you just made my eyes all red and watery.


    Nothing would please me more at this moment than to have your brother's ear (lol, figuratively, not on a plate, eep!) for half an hour. It would be the least I could do for his girlfriend

    -Doug
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 24, 2011 3:47 PM GMT
    Hey Last Mystic,


    My Boyfriend of two years and I are both Christians, I Catholic and he Church of Christ. It's kind of a issue we don't talk much about, as both of us are relatively devout and both have problems with the other person sect. religion , in my view, Is a personal choice and shouldn't be forced on anyone. The Bible is a guide on how to be a better person, not on who to condemn others. It's a comfort not a sentence and I really dislike it when people assume that just because I'm catholic, that I instantly believe whatever the church says as law.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 24, 2011 3:49 PM GMT
    Thank you both so much for your replies and insights =)

    And that’s true I get long well with anyone from any religious background once they don't feel the need to reach out and convert me, I have had several encounters like that all ready -__-