_Mohammed_ saidMy name, or something that is NOT condescending and I expect him to want to be called by his name or something that is also NOT condescending.
We're both humans, we treat each other like ones.
bitch, ho, slut, pig, etc... are all condescending in my eyes so they are a no in my book.
While I concur with what you say here as far as it goes, I should add that I personally oftentimes enjoy "being verbal" (saying sexy, erotic, "nasty" things) and also enjoy my partner (who is usually though not necessarily always the top in the proceedings) being somewhat verbally dominating and raunchy/sexy/erotic/"nasty", but, to be sure, NOT **abusively** so. I'll say things like, e.g., "yeah, FUCK ME; oh God, yes, FUCK ME!!", and I enjoy (especially IF **HE** also naturally tends to enjoy) **his** saying things something like, e.g., "yeah, SUCK that big, thick dick! Yeah, SUCK IT!! You love that big dick in your mouth, don't you!!??!!" and/or [when he's FUCKING me] something(s) like, e.g., "Yeah, TAKE this BIG DICK---TAKE IT!! TAKE my thick dick DEEP in your fuckin' ass, boy!! You LOVE it, don't you!!??!!"
Such verbalization(s) are not a must (at least not *quite*), but are, for me anyway, a definite plus.
But, having said, all that, that can be for playful, fun sex. Sometimes the sex is a bit more romantic than merely fun-&-games (different moods, different setting(s), whatever). And then verbalization(s) are (or can be) still great, but change a bit: E.g., "Oh, yeah, I LOVE you inside me!!!" and/or "I love being inside you...so deep..." And can even be more romantic/sentimental...
Just my 2 cents...[wink]