What's your reaction when you get hit on by a married guy?

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    May 25, 2011 11:10 AM GMT
    Morning! So since I came out in Jan, I've been hit on by a handful of married guys...not a huge fan. Not sure how I should react (and wasn't aware there were so many guys out there like that). Any advice?

    Thanks!
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    May 25, 2011 11:34 AM GMT
    Married to males or females?
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    May 25, 2011 2:15 PM GMT
    "If you liked it, then you should've put a ring on it..."
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    May 25, 2011 3:49 PM GMT
    theantijock said
    go_vols saidMorning! So since I came out in Jan, I've been hit on by a handful of married guys...not a huge fan. Not sure how I should react (and wasn't aware there were so many guys out there like that). Any advice?

    Thanks!
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    This used to happen to me frequently. They really can be quite predatory. In my late teens, early 20s I'd play with them. Then I started waking up to two realities. One was that even though I enjoyed playing, I preferred playing with guys I at least had a chance with. The thought I then associated with married guys was "she gets the house and all I get is dick?" It didn't seem like I was treating myself fairly. My other issue was that being married to females, I suspected they were not in open relationships which made me an accomplice to their deception. Once I realized that, I was done with them and I learned how to politely decline when they'd come on to me.


    I've been hit on by married (to female) men a few times. I never played with them for this very reason.
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    May 25, 2011 3:53 PM GMT
    no. just no.

    but i'd let my friends who are game for it know.

    i'm not judging what is good for others, just what is right for me.
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    May 25, 2011 3:57 PM GMT
    Depends on how hot he is. icon_twisted.gif
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    May 25, 2011 3:59 PM GMT
    That married guy should be ashamed of himself for that.
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    May 25, 2011 6:31 PM GMT
    go_vols saidMorning! So since I came out in Jan, I've been hit on by a handful of married guys...not a huge fan. Not sure how I should react (and wasn't aware there were so many guys out there like that). Any advice?

    Thanks!
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    I'd be like:
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    Then be like:
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    Ending with:
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    May 26, 2011 2:36 AM GMT
    pisses me off. Absolutely not.
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    May 26, 2011 2:38 AM GMT
    It's not cool. I'm not down with it. You are helping them cheat on the wife.
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    May 26, 2011 9:51 AM GMT
    SDGMAN saidIt's not cool. I'm not down with it. You are helping them cheat on the wife.


    right, that's my theory too. and I could never live with myself
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    May 26, 2011 9:54 AM GMT
    BambinoRex saidno. just no.


    +1
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    May 26, 2011 9:57 AM GMT

    I wouldn't even touch a guy who was with someone else.

    Show character doesn't it that he's not even man enough to end a relationship.
  • alphatop

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    May 26, 2011 10:05 AM GMT
    Tell him/them that you don't prefer closet cases, such as Tom Cruiseicon_confused.gif
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    May 26, 2011 10:11 AM GMT
    BYE!!!
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    May 26, 2011 10:15 AM GMT
    When this happens, i start prying into their personal life starting with the following questions. My goal is to make them feel guilty:

    1) How long have you been married to your wife?

    2) Is she hot?

    3) Do you guys have kids together? If so how many?

    4) Do you like guys too? Are you bi or gay?

    5) Does your wife know you play with dudes?

    6) Is just for the sex or do you want something more?

    and so forth.
  • ja89

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    May 26, 2011 10:27 AM GMT
    I had a married guy today message me, I just kept thinking how could you put someone through so much pain. If you know that you are happier with a guy rather than a woman or if you're not happy enough the guy you are with now why cheat? What suprises me is that they are non chalant about how they are married or in a relationship with someone else (that's not open) and are soo eager to cheat. After today it really makes me not want to be in a relationship anytime soon. There are too many unfaithful men in this world.

    I feel like I went beyond the topic at hand. By the way, just my opinion.
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    May 26, 2011 10:54 AM GMT
    Not cool at all in my book. Don't entertain it.

    I told this one married guy he should probably go ask his wife and see what she says about it. LOL.
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    May 26, 2011 5:46 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidScrew the whole "try and make them feel guilty" bit.


    Just blackmail him and make some money! icon_twisted.gif


    LOL! You can probably do it on multiple occasions too. You can threaten that you're gonna send it to his

    1) Wife. When you're done with that,
    2) Mom, then
    3) Dad
    4) Boss
    5) Kidz

    When you're done, go back at one.
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    May 26, 2011 5:50 PM GMT

    Something like....

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    May 26, 2011 5:54 PM GMT
    if he's hot, i'd go along if it's just a hook up.
    his life isn't mine.
  • wellwell

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    May 26, 2011 6:01 PM GMT
    revulsion
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    May 26, 2011 6:40 PM GMT
    I had it happen once here on the site. We'd chat on cam, and I thought it was ok if that's all we did. Then he started formulating these ideas of coming to see me. At that point I had to stop all communication. It was really not ok.
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    May 26, 2011 6:51 PM GMT
    Well if I knew they did have an open relationship i'd be okay with it...otherwise i've tried to think i'd steer clear away from it all... icon_lol.gif
  • swedeinusa

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    May 26, 2011 9:57 PM GMT
    I am disappointed and shake my head and firmly tell them, "no".