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    May 26, 2011 2:39 AM GMT
    here what happened...i met this guy through a friend of mine n we became friends i didnt know that he was into me...i went to his place on a tour n we hung out n that night he said it was too late 4 him to go home n came over to my hotel n there he was all over me! I tried pushing him off but didnt quiet work out n then he went down on me n we ended up jerking off together n i didnt quiet like the experience...i have a bf n i was in a monogamous relationnship till now...this is the first time i cheated on him n i did even want it or like it...now im feeling all guilty n i feel as if i did my boyfriend wrong..i cant tell him about it cos he had told me not to hang out with anyone else...im pretty messed up now..what do i do?
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    May 26, 2011 2:42 AM GMT
    "now im feeling all guilty n i feel as if i did my boyfriend wrong."

    It's not a case of 'as if'. You did.

    -Doug
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    May 26, 2011 2:50 AM GMT
    You didn't fight him off, you let him go down on you and you both gave each other handjobs. Apparently you wanted it and liked it.

    Now own up to it and tell your boyfriend what happened. It's his call to keep you or dump you and you have to accept his reaction/decision.
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    May 26, 2011 2:52 AM GMT
    Strokin' aint pokin'.

    Guilt is a wasted emotion.
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    May 26, 2011 2:55 AM GMT
    meninlove said "now im feeling all guilty n i feel as if i did my boyfriend wrong."

    It's not a case of 'as if'. You did.

    -Doug


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    May 26, 2011 3:20 AM GMT
    hellfire11 saidhere what happened...i met this guy through a friend of mine n we became friends i didnt know that he was into me...i went to his place on a tour n we hung out n that night he said it was too late 4 him to go home n came over to my hotel n there he was all over me! I tried pushing him off but didnt quiet work out n then he went down on me n we ended up jerking off together n i didnt quiet like the experience...i have a bf n i was in a monogamous relationnship till now...this is the first time i cheated on him n i did even want it or like it...now im feeling all guilty n i feel as if i did my boyfriend wrong..i cant tell him about it cos he had told me not to hang out with anyone else...im pretty messed up now..what do i do?


    icon_sad.gif well it happened there's no use feeling horrible about it over and over again.

    I'd say come clean to your bf. If he loves you then he'll forgive you. If he doesn't...there's always next bf. If he forgives you though, make sure:

    1. You don't cheat again.
    2. Don't let this event become his future ammunition against you.
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    May 26, 2011 3:35 AM GMT
    JP85257 saidStrokin' aint pokin'.


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    May 26, 2011 3:52 AM GMT
    i did push him off..n we didnt jerk jerk each other off..we just jerked ourselves off...i didnt even like him in that context...i love my bf...n this guy wouldnt let me go..he was like jerk off n i wont bother you again...i didnt have a choice...i feel soo fucking bad about it....:-(
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    May 26, 2011 4:11 AM GMT
    hellfire11 saidi did push him off..n we didnt jerk jerk each other off..we just jerked ourselves off...i didnt even like him in that context...i love my bf...n this guy wouldnt let me go..he was like jerk off n i wont bother you again...i didnt have a choice...i feel soo fucking bad about it....:-(

    Oh, oh, OHHHHH. You didn't have a CHOICE?!?!?!

    Don't be stupid.

    You should have pushed him off and WALK OUT THE DOOR!! Instead you stayed in the situation you KNEW you shouldn't be in and played with him because you wanted it. Now breathe in ALLLL THE GUILT and blow it on your boyfriend.
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    May 27, 2011 8:39 AM GMT
    actuly u have to confuess, coz that guilt dose nt let to live u,or forget that incident and a guy to,ad never ever cheat your partner againicon_surprised.gificon_surprised.gificon_surprised.gificon_surprised.gificon_surprised.gificon_surprised.gif
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    May 27, 2011 8:44 AM GMT
    bigeasydude said
    hellfire11 saidi did push him off..n we didnt jerk jerk each other off..we just jerked ourselves off...i didnt even like him in that context...i love my bf...n this guy wouldnt let me go..he was like jerk off n i wont bother you again...i didnt have a choice...i feel soo fucking bad about it....:-(

    Oh, oh, OHHHHH. You didn't have a CHOICE?!?!?!

    Don't be stupid.

    You should have pushed him off and WALK OUT THE DOOR!! Instead you stayed in the situation you KNEW you shouldn't be in and played with him because you wanted it. Now breathe in ALLLL THE GUILT and blow it on your boyfriend.

    Even though it's harsh, it's all very true.

    You had control and try to play it off as if you don't. If it's that easy to get you to do something... you might have more of a problem than your first time "cheating".
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    May 27, 2011 8:45 AM GMT
    if that guy truble u,so speak to your bf urgently,or try to understand him that that was just happen,a moment ad it is passed away,i luv my bf very much,so we can nt take it forther,god bless u alwayz!
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    May 27, 2011 8:46 AM GMT
    Dude lame. Nobody could coerce me into head or jacking off while I had a boyfriend. Tisk Tisk Tisk!!!! If you tell him, he'll never trust you again. If you don't, it will kill you inside. It's a lose lose situation. CHEATING NEVER WORKS OUT FOR ANYBODY!!!
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    May 27, 2011 8:48 AM GMT

    Was this a sexting accident?

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    May 27, 2011 10:41 AM GMT
    A hallmark of wisdom and maturity is owning up when you fuck something up. If you can't get that far, you should probably break up with your boyfriend because you haven't yet become someone worth being in a relationship with.

    Eventually, after we've broken a few hearts and had ours broken, we learn to step with a little more care because hearts are far more sensitive than the measurable shelf life of a sexual urge is long.
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    May 27, 2011 10:54 AM GMT
    meninlove said "now im feeling all guilty n i feel as if i did my boyfriend wrong."

    It's not a case of 'as if'. You did.

    -Doug

    Yup...
    It's either this or rape; you can decide which. However, it really sounds like Doug has hit square on.

    Having said that, it's also not healthy to have a boyfriend who "tells (you) not to hang out with anybody else."