Pure saidErm... I've only had 2 tests (both negative) and the last one was in 2006.
Don't really see the need for regular testing in a monogamous relationship.
Getting tested is always scarey. Fear of the unknown. The idea of what you'll do if it comes out positive, luckily its much more manageable these days but scarey when you find out regardless.
To "pure" I admire your trust & love in your partner. Monogamy is a wonderful & beautiful thing. It doesnt hurt for both of you to get tested every now & then though. Believe me its better to know asap than later.
I didnt get tested for 4 years into my relationship because we were monogamous, in love & trusted each other...obviously he had a different definition of what monogamy meant then I did. It only takes one time to get it & then pass it on to you.
As far as straight couples go, I have a friend at work that dated a man for 7 years & has been married for 4 years now & she says she still gets tested every 6 months. You have to protect yourself.
I wish all loving monogamous couples stayed true to one another but this is not the case. Some guys have this "what he doesnt know wont hurt him" attitude....well in this case it can.
What if you both got tested every 6 months? The best thing to happen if you did is it would reassure you that you both are negative & had othing to fear.
Please protect yourself, so many men have written to me & said they became positive while in loving monogamous relationships, it happens so much more than you realize.