Getting tested...

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    May 26, 2011 7:20 AM GMT
    Even though its the responsible thing to do, does anybody get scared to do it? I know I don't have much (if any) risk of getting anything, but anxiety is still there. I've been getting tested every 6 months for 4 years now, and it's not getting any less nerve racking lol. icon_confused.gif
  • MikemikeMike

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    May 26, 2011 10:44 AM GMT
    The important thing is that you do it regularly. Practicing safe sex is not that tough to do! We have dumb threads like the push up thread- we should have the last time you were tested thread.icon_idea.gif

    me Dec 2010- negative

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    May 26, 2011 10:59 AM GMT
    Erm... I've only had 2 tests (both negative) and the last one was in 2006.

    Don't really see the need for regular testing in a monogamous relationship.
  • MikemikeMike

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    May 26, 2011 11:12 AM GMT
    If you don't use condoms for anal-You just might want to rethink this!

    Did you read the "I miss daddy thread"
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    May 26, 2011 11:16 AM GMT
    MikemikeMike saidIf you don't use condoms for anal-You just might want to rethink this!

    Did you read the "I miss daddy thread"


    Yeah I did, awful situation. But if I don't have trust in my relationship then I don't have a relationship. I know it's still a risk, but it's a risk I'm willing to take. If straight couples didn't trust each other enough to not use condoms, no one would get born!
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    May 26, 2011 11:49 AM GMT
    your are a grown man Pure. I am not forcing anyone to do anything. Men did the same when hiv always lead to death. I do however think the comparison with stright couples is off because the number of hetero couples who became hiv + from a cheating spouse does not come close to that amoung gay men.icon_idea.gif
    Be well!
  • jc_online

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    May 26, 2011 1:03 PM GMT
    Getting tested regularly is a good idea for some, maybe for most, gay/bi/other msm - depending on your risk factors. If all you do is mutual JO with other guys, then testing every 6 months and going through testing anxiety is not really worth it.
    Next time you get tested, discuss your risk factors with the tester candidly to assess how often you should get tested.
  • XxXxXxAZNxXxX...

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    May 26, 2011 3:03 PM GMT
    It never gets easier hahaha
    It sucks big time but better safe than sorry right?
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    May 26, 2011 6:20 PM GMT
    Pure saidErm... I've only had 2 tests (both negative) and the last one was in 2006.

    Don't really see the need for regular testing in a monogamous relationship.


    Getting tested is always scarey. Fear of the unknown. The idea of what you'll do if it comes out positive, luckily its much more manageable these days but scarey when you find out regardless.

    To "pure" I admire your trust & love in your partner. Monogamy is a wonderful & beautiful thing. It doesnt hurt for both of you to get tested every now & then though. Believe me its better to know asap than later.

    I didnt get tested for 4 years into my relationship because we were monogamous, in love & trusted each other...obviously he had a different definition of what monogamy meant then I did. It only takes one time to get it & then pass it on to you.

    As far as straight couples go, I have a friend at work that dated a man for 7 years & has been married for 4 years now & she says she still gets tested every 6 months. You have to protect yourself.

    I wish all loving monogamous couples stayed true to one another but this is not the case. Some guys have this "what he doesnt know wont hurt him" attitude....well in this case it can.

    What if you both got tested every 6 months? The best thing to happen if you did is it would reassure you that you both are negative & had othing to fear.

    Please protect yourself, so many men have written to me & said they became positive while in loving monogamous relationships, it happens so much more than you realize.

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    May 27, 2011 12:29 AM GMT
    I honestly can't imagine ever having BB sex, even in a (as far as I know) monogamous LTR.

    Trust is truly a great thing in a partnership, maybe sharing a bank account/mortgage/pet/child would suffice as my furthest limit, but risking my life on the supposition that my partner would never catch something from somebody else at any point in the future isn't something I think I would ever even consider.

    I'm too much of a realist, even when caught up in the infatuated all consuming stage of love.

    Nobody ever suspects the one they love may stray, but the statistics, many anecdotes and basic human behaviour speak for themselves.
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    May 27, 2011 12:31 AM GMT
    Tell me about it, when I go to get tested I feel so dizzy and I feel like puking even tho I always play safer and I rarely hook up. I think it's normal human nature because you're all like what if...icon_confused.gif
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    May 27, 2011 3:11 AM GMT
    Pure said
    Yeah I did, awful situation. But if I don't have trust in my relationship then I don't have a relationship. I know it's still a risk, but it's a risk I'm willing to take. If straight couples didn't trust each other enough to not use condoms, no one would get born!


    That's some fucked up logic.

    If you want to put your health and well-being in the hands of someone else then go right ahead- but being in a relationship doesn't mean "trusting" someone completely- especially with your life.

    Bareback- don't bareback- I don't care- it's your choice- but you should still get tested even when you're in a "monogamous relationship" for your own safety and your partner's. The longer you're HIV+ without the treatment- the worse off you're going to be.
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    May 27, 2011 3:48 AM GMT
    Pure saidErm... I've only had 2 tests (both negative) and the last one was in 2006.

    Don't really see the need for regular testing in a monogamous relationship.


    Ummm guess again. It's always good to know your status even if you are in a "Monogamous" relationship.
  • Koaa2

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    May 27, 2011 10:45 AM GMT
    Get tested here every 6 months.

    Don't believe there is such a thing as monogamy, no how hard some people want to believe it. Humas are not wired that way, and it is just religious nonsense that has been forced on humans.
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    May 27, 2011 10:59 AM GMT
    I've been getting tested since I was 18 and that was before I even ever had sex. It's nice to know what's going on insides your own body for the simple fact that stuff changes. Diseases are masters at surviving. They've got the human race beat when it comes to adapting and the reason we have tests is so we can detect them and deal with them accordingly.

    Even if you are in a monogamous relationship it's still good to go and get tested. Not necessarily for trust reasons (though that's one way to catch a cheat) but mostly because your body changes along with whatever is inside it. If nothing else do it at least once a year when you get your physical.
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    May 27, 2011 11:00 AM GMT
    Koaa2 saidGet tested here every 6 months.

    Don't believe there is such a thing as monogamy, no how hard some people want to believe it. Humas are not wired that way, and it is just religious nonsense that has been forced on humans.


    I'd tend to disagree. I think humans are all "wired" differently, thus we all prefer different things. For instance, some humans are "wired" in such a way as to gain sexual pleasure from someone urinating on them. I am not "wired" this way, but I try to refrain from making bold, definitive statements as to whether or not this is something all humans are or are not "wired" for. icon_neutral.gif
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    May 27, 2011 12:10 PM GMT
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    Koaa2 saidGet tested here every 6 months.

    Don't believe there is such a thing as monogamy, no how hard some people want to believe it. Humas are not wired that way, and it is just religious nonsense that has been forced on humans.


    I'd tend to disagree. I think humans are all "wired" differently, thus we all prefer different things. For instance, some humans are "wired" in such a way as to gain sexual pleasure from someone urinating on them. I am not "wired" this way, but I try to refrain from making bold, definitive statements as to whether or not this is something all humans are or are not "wired" for. icon_neutral.gif



    Pssst...Nv you forgot fisting(foot), scatting, poppers, you know.... things of that nature that not all humans wired to do.icon_razz.gif
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    May 30, 2011 12:43 AM GMT
    Always practice safe sex, but still get tested regularly. Its easier now, my doctor is gay friendly and I'm comfortable talking to him about this topic. Just got tested 2 days ago, neg for HIV and other STD's. Did anyone know right now Columbus, Ohio has the highest risk for Syphilis in relation to any other STD ? Thats is what my doctor told me anyway. Be safe guys!
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    May 30, 2011 1:14 AM GMT
    Fucking retarded, if you have something.... you have it. The test isn't going to give it to you. Knowing is much more calming and responsible. Just take the fuckin test
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    Jun 05, 2011 2:10 PM GMT
    I get tested regularly and it has always been nerve-wracking for me (I'm a bit of a worrier). However, it's always great to get the results. I have a great doctor and he tests me for every kind of sexually-transmitted disease, even though the risk is low for me. It's always good to know the truth.
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    Jun 05, 2011 2:17 PM GMT
    Koaa2 saidGet tested here every 6 months.

    Don't believe there is such a thing as monogamy, no how hard some people want to believe it. Humas are not wired that way, and it is just religious nonsense that has been forced on humans.


    Bull shit. of course humans are wired that way. a continuing excuse to fuck ourselves into oblivion.
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    Jun 05, 2011 2:30 PM GMT
    its normal dude, I get tested regularly and its just natural, it was comforting to hear the nurse at the clinic say she still gets nervous when they test at the office

    hope it helps icon_smile.gif
  • Koaa2

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    Jun 06, 2011 11:01 AM GMT
    nv7_ said
    Koaa2 saidGet tested here every 6 months.

    Don't believe there is such a thing as monogamy, no how hard some people want to believe it. Humas are not wired that way, and it is just religious nonsense that has been forced on humans.


    I'd tend to disagree. I think humans are all "wired" differently, thus we all prefer different things. For instance, some humans are "wired" in such a way as to gain sexual pleasure from someone urinating on them. I am not "wired" this way, but I try to refrain from making bold, definitive statements as to whether or not this is something all humans are or are not "wired" for. icon_neutral.gif


    Humans are sexual creatures, and there are various ways that they express their needs. Religion has attempted to pigeon hole these needs into one common theme, making those who do not follow the dogma, outside the norm.
    To say someone is "cheating" in a realtionship is nonsense and just one piece of the dogma that has negative effects on our sexual expression. Most humans just want to cum and that is all!
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    Jun 06, 2011 11:14 AM GMT
    If a freaking parrot can stay in a committed relationship then humans can do it too. Saying we as humans aren't wired for monogamy is a tired and lam excuse just to have sex and not take responsibility.
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    Jun 07, 2011 8:02 PM GMT
    Guy101 saidIf a freaking parrot can stay in a committed relationship then humans can do it too. Saying we as humans aren't wired for monogamy is a tired and lam excuse just to have sex and not take responsibility.


    Shut yo trap u clown-face-poster-who-scared-da-shet-outta-moi-lasttime.

    j/k funnyman.

    I really like and agree with his point.