Why Won't Guys Talk To Me On This Website?

  • IH2006

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    May 26, 2011 11:39 AM GMT
    Everytime I Message Someone They Don't Respond & I Hate That, Why Won't They Talk To Me.icon_sad.gificon_cry.gificon_mad.gif
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    May 26, 2011 11:41 AM GMT
    Do You Capitalise The First Letter Of Every Word You Write?

    Because That's Annoying.
  • ohioguy12

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    May 26, 2011 1:42 PM GMT
    Cause you're black









    jk
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    May 26, 2011 1:55 PM GMT
    Copy and paste in this thread verbatim examples of the opening messages you have sent, and we'll tell you exactly where you're going wrong.
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    May 26, 2011 1:57 PM GMT
    Try going with something more than 'Hi' or 'Hey'
  • ohioguy12

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    May 26, 2011 6:22 PM GMT
    MsclDrew saidTry going with something more than 'Hi' or 'Hey'


    Maybe, but I'm a firm believer that if you just say a simple "hey" or "hi" and the guy thinks you're attractive, they will usually respond.
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    May 26, 2011 6:29 PM GMT
    ohioguy12 said
    MsclDrew saidTry going with something more than 'Hi' or 'Hey'


    Maybe, but I'm a firm believer that if you just say a simple "hey" or "hi" and the guy thinks you're attractive, they will usually respond.



    I'd agree in so much that there is definitely a higher probability that an initial reply will happen, but if the responses after that are equally as dry and unappealing, the convo will run out of steam and die EXTREMELY quickly, no matter how hot the initiator may be.
  • Koaa2

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    May 26, 2011 6:31 PM GMT
    Could be that some of your pics come across as kind of immature, especially the one of you giving the double finger. just a thought.
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    May 26, 2011 6:34 PM GMT
    ohioguy12 said
    MsclDrew saidTry going with something more than 'Hi' or 'Hey'


    Maybe, but I'm a firm believer that if you just say a simple "hey" or "hi" and the guy thinks you're attractive, they will usually respond.


    I don't have much to work with if they only say "Hi" in terms of creating a response, even if they're smoking hot. I prefer 2-3 sentences. Anything more than that is a little creepy (but not necessarily, I've gotten long first emails that were very charming and engaging, and better than just a single word).
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    May 26, 2011 6:35 PM GMT
    i get little attention on this site, and quite a bit of attention on other sites. so maybe you just don't fit in with this crowd as well.
  • IH2006

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    May 26, 2011 6:46 PM GMT
    Pure saidDo You Capitalise The First Letter Of Every Word You Write?

    Because That's Annoying.


    i don't always do that
  • IH2006

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    May 26, 2011 6:47 PM GMT
    Koaa2 saidCould be that some of your pics come across as kind of immature, especially the one of you giving the double finger. just a thought.



    what am i doing wrong in my pictures?
  • IH2006

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    May 26, 2011 6:47 PM GMT
    MsclDrew saidTry going with something more than 'Hi' or 'Hey'


    i do that
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    May 26, 2011 6:50 PM GMT
    Just when I thought RJers are the neediest attention craving babies on the planet, then this thread comes out...
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    May 26, 2011 6:52 PM GMT
    I would change the profile pic for one thing....I didn't even realize that it was your backside until I actually clicked onto it.
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    May 26, 2011 6:52 PM GMT
    IH2006 said
    MsclDrew saidTry going with something more than 'Hi' or 'Hey'


    i do that


    nobody wants to open up an email that says hey.

    so clearly thats what you're doing wrong. and if they read what you write (after you fix your hey problem) and don't find you attractive they won't respond. Don't take it personal.
  • IH2006

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    May 26, 2011 6:53 PM GMT
    waimea saidJust when I thought RJers are the neediest attention craving babies on the planet, then this thread comes out...


    says the person with no photo
  • IH2006

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    May 26, 2011 6:57 PM GMT
    Should I Delete Some Of My Pictures?
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    May 26, 2011 6:58 PM GMT
    You can try to follow general guidelines of interpersonal communication, but at the end of the day it is what it is. Guys respond when they want to, they don't when they don't. You can judge and vilify them but you should save yourself the bile, it's only affecting you.
  • IH2006

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    May 26, 2011 7:18 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidYou can try to follow general guidelines of interpersonal communication, but at the end of the day it is what it is. Guys respond when they want to, they don't when they don't. You can judge and vilify them but you should save yourself the bile, it's only affecting you.



    i don't judge people im not like that
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    May 26, 2011 7:19 PM GMT
    IH2006 said
    waimea saidJust when I thought RJers are the neediest attention craving babies on the planet, then this thread comes out...


    says the person with no photo


    What does that have to with the topic in this thread? Just the fact that you can't come back with better response than that, totally proves that you ARE a baby, and this is why men don't want to talk to you.
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    May 26, 2011 7:21 PM GMT
    IH2006 said
    Ariodante saidYou can try to follow general guidelines of interpersonal communication, but at the end of the day it is what it is. Guys respond when they want to, they don't when they don't. You can judge and vilify them but you should save yourself the bile, it's only affecting you.



    i don't judge people im not like that


    You just said a judgmental statement because I don't have a photo up! Work on the consistency of your personality and response would help too. Otherwise no one wants to talk to an infant.
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    May 26, 2011 7:26 PM GMT
    Possible that your lack of proper grammar, incomplete profile or try-to-hard pictures throw people off.
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    May 26, 2011 7:30 PM GMT
    TrevorMark saidPossible that your lack of proper grammar, incomplete profile or try-to-hard pictures throw people off.


    what he said.

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    May 26, 2011 7:30 PM GMT
    Sorry I haven't responded, but I haven't received a message from you yet.