Cancer and friendship

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    May 26, 2011 3:17 PM GMT
    I'm not the biggest forum guy in the world but i thought i would use this to tell a story and maybe get a message out there in this community we share on here.

    I attend a cancer support group, we all share the same in life, we battle. I've been apart of this group over two years. There is this one guy whom in two years in my group that I've said only hi to him once. I made the effort to befriend him because he's 71 and lives alone and fights alone. This man 71years young was the coolest and funniest person I've met in a long time and a charming older gentleman. We both loved sports and comedy of every era. Things i couldn't share with my family i shared with him. I was his first gay friend and he was my first older friend. I enjoyed him because he was the friend i needed in my life now. This morning i went to pick him up for our meeting and he had passed. The coroner said he passed with a smile on his face and even though he's now gone it put a smile on my face. He and I but a smile on our face to hide the pain and to be strong for others, but his smile wasn't fake, it was of a man who's happy to finally be pain free and of a man who's life had come full circle and he was happy because of it.

    In the gay community we share some don't want to befriend because of race, appearance, social status, age and size. You never know what you have in life until you try. With my friend i unwrapped and found a golden heart individual. Befriend people and open your hearts and minds and if a friend of yours has cancer fight with them, let them know you're here with them.

    thank you and god bless for reading.
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    May 26, 2011 4:16 PM GMT
    This is a sheer testament of the unveiling fortitude of camaraderie and companionship that people shareicon_idea.gificon_exclaim.gificon_wink.gif

    This was utterly one of those contextual pieces in which carries untold momentum to be the thrusting drive to touch one's life beyond measure, bar-noneicon_idea.gificon_exclaim.gificon_wink.gif

    I was profoundly moved by reading this, and it has given me a much needed refill on a perspective that has been lingering about uhh bit depletedicon_idea.gificon_exclaim.gificon_wink.gif

    This has also given me a power of good while wholeheartedly augmenting the strength I need in the mere relation to my own God given lifeicon_wink.gif


    This without fail, is a 'Tear-jerker' which is totally second to noneicon_idea.gificon_exclaim.gificon_wink.gif

    Bless you for sharing this manicon_wink.gif

    Much love ~ icon_cool.gif
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    May 26, 2011 10:55 PM GMT
    Coming from a diverse background and up bringing, I've experience my share of racism. It's really easy for me to fall into that demographic of judging a book by its cover. But everyday try hard not to become just like those who have wronged me. Your thread helped me remember one of my favorite quotes growing up "the most beautiful gift can come from the plainest box". I want to thank you for helping me remember that so I can better myself and become a wiser person.

    There is no doubt in my mind that your friend passed away knowing there are some good things (and people) in this world.

    Your thread has moved me in a way no words can describe. Thank you again and God bless.
  • wild_sky360

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    Jun 20, 2011 8:12 PM GMT
    There are gems all around us if your eyes and heart are truly open.
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    Jun 22, 2011 10:20 AM GMT
    Oh so true. Thanks for sharing your experience.

    Sending a lot of positive thoughts your way, man.
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    Jun 24, 2011 8:19 AM GMT
    What a bittersweet story with quite a lesson behind it. Thanks for posting it man.
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    Aug 02, 2011 12:35 PM GMT
    First time seeing this thread and reading your profile cause you're MOTD. OP is what the recognition should be all about.
  • jim_sf

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    Aug 02, 2011 2:13 PM GMT
    Bump.
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    Aug 02, 2011 2:49 PM GMT
    You are a very compassionate person. Love to hear that there are people left out there like you.

    God bless
  • ursa_minor

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    Aug 02, 2011 4:00 PM GMT
    quite unfortunate that with death staring us in the face do most of us finally get rid of our masks

    we find out these masks do not matter anyhow, anytime

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    good soul chap!
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    Aug 02, 2011 4:10 PM GMT
    Thank you very much for sharing this story, I am not good with expressing myself with words or verbally, but this topic has moved me so much and gives me new revelation about life.

    Very much appreciated, thanks!
  • barriehomeboy

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    Aug 02, 2011 4:11 PM GMT
    I have cancer and I passed up the support group. If I had known there might be cute gay guys like you there, I would have joined! I'm sorry to hear that you lost your friend though. I admire you for exposing yourself to the inevitability of that. You must be as tough as you are hot!
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Aug 02, 2011 4:16 PM GMT
    Thank you for sharing, Ty --- we need more posts and forums like this on RJ. Sending BIG HUG from AZ.
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    Aug 02, 2011 4:19 PM GMT
    If we lose everything, what do we have left? Only our humanity and our dignity.

    All the best to you.
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    Aug 02, 2011 5:09 PM GMT
    I had no idea people would even care about this topic, god bless all of you whom read and care.
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    Aug 02, 2011 5:15 PM GMT
    Tynificent saidI had no idea people would even care about this topic, god bless all of you whom read and care.


    We care. We care ALOT. This post may change many outlooks - maybe just for today, maybe for years. Either way, it works.

    You really do deserve MOTD.

    Good one!
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    Aug 02, 2011 5:26 PM GMT
    This post has such positive energy that just by reading it I feel more optimistic. Thank you so much for sharing.
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    Aug 02, 2011 5:27 PM GMT
    Great story!
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    Aug 02, 2011 5:42 PM GMT
    Thanks for sharing your humanity and compassion in a world full of walls.

    You definitely rock.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Aug 02, 2011 6:07 PM GMT
    I'm confused...Why is the OP's authenticity being questioned in this thread by MeOhMy?

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/1722553



    If this is true, it would be really disappointing as I too was moved by this story. Ty, any chance you might address this?


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    Aug 02, 2011 6:09 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ saidI'm confused...Why is the OP's authenticity being questioned in this thread by MeOhMy?

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/1722553



    If this is true, it would be really disappointing as I too was moved by this story. Ty, any chance you might address this?







    ...not likely...
  • ben27

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    Aug 02, 2011 6:23 PM GMT
    great story, thanks for sharing and you're the best, man!
  • DrewT

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    Aug 02, 2011 6:38 PM GMT
    Great story! Thank you for sharing. I have had wonderful older friends, some of whom are much nicer than people my age.

    I'm willing to talk to pretty much everyone, but there are only a few that are true friends. I had a 91 year old friend pass away in 2009 and it was a sad moment, but she brought so much joy to the lives she touched.
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    Aug 02, 2011 7:27 PM GMT
    Thanks for posting... at last some honesty and integrity in the world

    Edit: Apparently not, I only just found out this profile is fake?
  • shawn33

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    Aug 02, 2011 8:17 PM GMT
    I completely agree with you man. One of my best friends in older than my dad, but I love him to pieces. Recently, he has been diagnosed with cancer and it's been tough. I am thankful for every moment that I get to share with him. icon_smile.gif