Some people's sense of entitlement really baffles me...

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    May 26, 2011 5:16 PM GMT
    So, I met this guy about 2 weeks ago for a 1st meetup. All was well, we hung out at the park on a Sunday afternoon. Kissed each other bye at the end. He emails me on connexion saying he had a great time.

    Fast forward to when I get back from vacation. I suggest meeting Saturday. He says yes and then I have to text him at 1030 to find out that he's not going to be able to meet because he, "sorry, can't tonight." because he "had a bad day." Then Sunday we plan again to meet. Night time comes around again and it's "can we do dinner tomorrow instead I've been working all day?" He gives me a few ideas of what we can do for Monday

    I agree, give him another chance. Monday comes around. On his off day. Yet another excuse, "I have to go into work today, a girl's sick".

    So finally I asked him, "OK, you hit me up online, you asked to meet and were happy to meet me the 1st time. What the hell is holding you back from meeting up with me again?" Then he finally says that he is afraid of love. Afraid to make that connection but that he wants to. I tell him to just give things a chance to happen and get to know each other first before just running away before we even get to that level. I also never gave him the impression that I was looking for love so don't know how he came to that conclusion.

    I asked him, okay you keep cancelling plans...you need to figure out a way to see me. Could barely get a response out of him. So finally I just texted him that I couldn't deal with the nonsense and I don't see why he has a profile on connexion if he's not actually wanting a connection.

    That was last night. Early in the night like 8ish. All he could say is, "calm down, I'm sorry". After that, he calls me at 12:59 AM asking me to come over. I was already dubious from the start, but I got all dressed and was just about to leave the house when I kept thinking about it.

    I told him for him to call me that late when all the other times we've tried to meet never worked out makes me feel like his backup plan. And I wasn't going to go out like that. Even if I was horny...
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    May 26, 2011 5:30 PM GMT
    Flakes get a two strike policy.

    Anything beyond that is your own fault. People can't take advantage of you without your permission.
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    May 26, 2011 5:42 PM GMT
    Lol did you charge him extra for flaking?
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    May 26, 2011 9:06 PM GMT
    And you're actually still interested in hanging out with this idiot?
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    May 26, 2011 9:09 PM GMT
    shortguybeau saidFlakes get a two strike policy.

    Anything beyond that is your own fault. People can't take advantage of you without your permission.


    I know, I know. Sometimes I may only give 1 strike. 2 is pushing it.

    I just don't understand why he acting like that. It's the most immature behavior. Makes me think he is hooked up with someone already. I mean, even if he was afraid of the concept of love, what reason would he have to skip out on a Saturday night date and his day off? There's gotta be someone else in the picture and he using that as an excuse to keep me in the vicinity.

    I guess he found out yesterday that I'm not having it. You're not just going use me when YOU feel like seeing me....

    seattlechill saidAnd you're actually still interested in hanging out with this idiot?


    we only met once. I made it clear to him twice that i was no longer interested. once when i initially texted him and again when he called me over last night.

    it took me telling him i was thru with him to ask to see me again. but it was at the wrong time.
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    May 26, 2011 9:25 PM GMT
    It looks like the both of you are really off to a rocky start. I don't blame you for being irked and frustrated; I frankly wouldn't treat someone the way your friend has been doing. I think you hit the nail on the head; you're his backup plan and he is being dishonest with your for whatever reason. We are not just throw away people.