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  • cookingitswee...

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    May 27, 2011 3:28 AM GMT
    Hey guys, I am a college student and am a member of my schools GSA. The GSA has about 30 members. I had a little crush on a guy named Mike. He is very genuine, confident, hot, and funny. I really started talking to him at the end of the semester GSA party and I felt like he was flirting with me a little. I flirted a little bit too and eventaully we had to go home. I
    I thought about him a lot the next week and decided to go for it and ask him out. Since we only spoke during meetings and he never gave me his number I had to do it on facebook. I was very causual and confident and asked him if he would ever like to go to NYC and see a show (we both love theatre) or get coffee. He seemed very excited and said yes. I gave him my number and he gave me his and I told him I'd call him soon.
    I called him two days later and his tone completely changed. He mentioned wanting other people from the GSA to come along! I was unsure what to do and trying not to be a jerk said ok, let's get coffe sometime. He said he would call me today (this was a week ago). I was not exactly optomistic. He seemed so excited before and said he loved that i was into theatre. Then he seemed to be avoiding it. So I have not really heard since and am confused and kinda annoyed. What do you guys think?
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    May 27, 2011 3:43 AM GMT
    he sounds like a typical flaky gay. welcome to the world of gay.
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    May 27, 2011 4:55 AM GMT
    running11 saidhe sounds like a typical flaky gay. welcome to the world of gay.


    Listen to this man he is on the money. Ps runner has anyone told you that the new pic is amazing?
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    May 27, 2011 5:00 AM GMT
    Chainers said
    running11 saidhe sounds like a typical flaky gay. welcome to the world of gay.


    Listen to this man he is on the money. Ps runner has anyone told you that the new pic is amazing?


    It's because you can see his ears which clearly need a firm biting.

    Oh god..if anyone plans to seriously bulk be warned your sex drive shoots up. I feel like a caged tiger lately pouncing at anything with a penis.
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    May 27, 2011 5:05 AM GMT
    running11 saidhe sounds like a typical flaky gay. welcome to the world of gay.


    Thanks, but no need to welcome me, just needed confirmation. Thanks!
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    May 27, 2011 5:36 AM GMT
    Ugh if he calls he calls. If he doesn't then send him to the island of lost flakey guys. If you ever see him again then just pretend nothing ever happened. Gay guys are like gypsies...
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    May 27, 2011 6:14 AM GMT
    Ariodante said
    Chainers said
    running11 saidhe sounds like a typical flaky gay. welcome to the world of gay.


    Listen to this man he is on the money. Ps runner has anyone told you that the new pic is amazing?


    It's because you can see his ears which clearly need a firm biting.

    Oh god..if anyone plans to seriously bulk be warned your sex drive shoots up. I feel like a caged tiger lately pouncing at anything with a penis.


    I have a penis...
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    May 27, 2011 10:07 AM GMT
    waimea saidUgh if he calls he calls. If he doesn't then send him to the island of lost flakey guys



    I don't think there's anymore room on that island.
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    May 27, 2011 2:59 PM GMT
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    waimea saidUgh if he calls he calls. If he doesn't then send him to the island of lost flakey guys



    I don't think there's anymore room on that island.


    LMAO. I think it should be the planet of lost flaky guys instead of just a mere island.

    Trollileo saidWhat happens if you're a gay gypsy?

    http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_GmPcKnOICeY/S8EBRaEb75I/AAAAAAAAAZQ/zt9qIn-hsTc/s1600/141+-+GYPSY+MEN+VENDOR.jpg

    I like the outfit...(they all look pretty gay btw!). Ya think it'll work for this year's pride? Day 1 of course.

    To OP: he sounds like a flip-flopper. But he could be also just shy. Dunno. Don't set super high expectations though this way you don't end up disappointed.

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    May 27, 2011 3:16 PM GMT
    cookingitsweet said Hey guys, I am a college student and am a member of my schools GSA. The GSA has about 30 members. I had a little crush on a guy named Mike. He is very genuine, confident, hot, and funny. I really started talking to him at the end of the semester GSA party and I felt like he was flirting with me a little. I flirted a little bit too and eventaully we had to go home. I
    I thought about him a lot the next week and decided to go for it and ask him out. Since we only spoke during meetings and he never gave me his number I had to do it on facebook. I was very causual and confident and asked him if he would ever like to go to NYC and see a show (we both love theatre) or get coffee. He seemed very excited and said yes. I gave him my number and he gave me his and I told him I'd call him soon.
    I called him two days later and his tone completely changed. He mentioned wanting other people from the GSA to come along! I was unsure what to do and trying not to be a jerk said ok, let's get coffe sometime. He said he would call me today (this was a week ago). I was not exactly optomistic. He seemed so excited before and said he loved that i was into theatre. Then he seemed to be avoiding it. So I have not really heard since and am confused and kinda annoyed. What do you guys think?


    He was never interested in you romantically. Your theater, coffee invitation may have sounded like a date to him. So he gave you his phone and said yes because the majority of people don't want to hurt your feelings in your face.

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    May 27, 2011 4:46 PM GMT
    Ariodante said
    Chainers said
    running11 saidhe sounds like a typical flaky gay. welcome to the world of gay.


    Listen to this man he is on the money. Ps runner has anyone told you that the new pic is amazing?


    It's because you can see his ears which clearly need a firm biting.

    Oh god..if anyone plans to seriously bulk be warned your sex drive shoots up. I feel like a caged tiger lately pouncing at anything with a penis.


    You guys are funny... and to confess I would not mind being pounced on right about now icon_smile.gif
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    May 27, 2011 4:47 PM GMT
    cookingitsweet said
    running11 saidhe sounds like a typical flaky gay. welcome to the world of gay.


    Thanks, but no need to welcome me, just needed confirmation. Thanks!


    Well welcome anyway icon_smile.gif trust... after the 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th, 7th, 8th, and 9th time it happens you'll be a pro at saying fukk it
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    May 27, 2011 5:04 PM GMT
    Its not about being a flake. Maybe he was nervous or did not want a relationship and you kinda rushed him into the whole date. That is why he wanted to bring people along because he did not want it to feel like a date. And what you may have thought was flirting may have not been. It is just how guys joke around but because you were so interested in him you assumed he was as well. He was just being courteous and was thinking a friendship getting to know you type hanging out and you were thinking dating relationship type. You definitely gotta be 100 percent sure before you ask anyone on a date. There are guys who just like making friends and hanging out but not looking for a relationship and well he felt like you were looking for a relationship and he probably got scared because he probably misinterpreted what you really wanted. My advice is to get to know someone first before you assume they 1) are actually into you and 2) well if they are actually gay. Again he probably is not gay but you assumed he was because he gave you his number and thought he was flirting with you. Fraternities play around like that all the time. Be sure next time before you do anything like that. Its the same thing in the gym just because you find someone attractive does not mean they are interested in you or are gay. They may just want a bro/friend to hang with. And what you may take as flirting may just be him complimenting you. Truth is you assumed and he was thinking something different, you made it clear by hesitating with him bringing friends and then he got what you meant and got scared. "Be very sure next time". And btw if he was on fb did you check to see his interest and well see his friends on his list because that also gives it away as well.
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    May 27, 2011 5:06 PM GMT
    Num1Passion saidIts not about being a flake. Maybe he was nervous or did not want a relationship and you kinda rushed him into the whole date. That is why he wanted to bring people along because he did not want it to feel like a date. And what you may have thought was flirting may have not been. It is just how guys joke around but because you were so interested in him you assumed he was as well. He was just being courteous and was thinking a friendship getting to know you type hanging out and you were thinking dating relationship type. You definitely gotta be 100 percent sure before you ask anyone on a date. There are guys who just like making friends and hanging out but not looking for a relationship and well he felt like you were looking for a relationship and he probably got scared because he probably misinterpreted what you really wanted. My advice is to get to know someone first before you assume they 1) are actually into you and 2) well if they are actually gay. Again he probably is not gay but you assumed he was because he gave you his number and thought he was flirting with you. Fraternities play around like that all the time. Be sure next time before you do anything like that. Its the same thing in the gym just because you find someone attractive does not mean they are interested in you or are gay. They may just want a bro/friend to hang with. And what you may take as flirting may just be him complimenting you. Truth is you assumed and he was thinking something different, you made it clear by hesitating with him bringing friends and then he got what you meant and got scared. "Be very sure next time". And btw if he was on fb did you check to see his interest and well see his friends on his list because that also gives it away as well.


    dude, he met him through his GSA association- i think there's a pretty good chance he's gay lol
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    May 27, 2011 5:13 PM GMT
    Right.lol But even so it does not mean he was into him. Just because your gay does not mean your every guys type. That is if he was gay. And there are male cheerleaders who are straight thats a bit of a stereotype. Then there are dudes in Basketball, baseball, football, who are gay. Again its about assumptions. And again if he was maybe in a nice way he was letting him know that he was not his type and he just wanted to be friends. He kinda rushed it and scared the guy either way.
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    May 27, 2011 5:14 PM GMT
    Num1Passion saidRight.lol But even so it does not mean he was into him. Just because your gay does not mean your every guys type. That is if he was gay. And there are male cheerleaders who are straight thats a bit of a stereotype. Then there are dudes in Basketball, baseball, football, who are gay. Again its about assumptions. And again if he was maybe in a nice way he was letting him know that he was not his type and he just wanted to be friends. He kinda rushed it and scared the guy either way.


    I agree--- just wanted to clear it up icon_smile.gif
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    May 27, 2011 5:19 PM GMT
    Haha thanks bro. Your a good debater though.lol Well I guess this case has been closed.lol
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    May 27, 2011 6:00 PM GMT
    cookingitsweet said I ask him out. Since we only spoke during meetings and he never gave me his number I had to do it on facebook.


    I called him two days later and his tone completely changed. He mentioned wanting other people from the GSA to come along!


    You're chasing him too much. He hasn't put any effort into making this thing happen and it's all you doing the work.

    I would pull back, and not make anymore contact with him and just keep things very platonic and neutral next time you see him. Pretend like he doesn't even exist and that he's not that important. And maybe then he'll ask you out.

    And FYI, since you initiated the whole scenario of meeting and stuff...he should have been the one to call and say, "hey, wanna hangout?" You can chase a little bit, but they have to do some chasing too. There should be a balance, and if there isn't? Next!


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    May 27, 2011 6:26 PM GMT
    I'd forget about him it sounds like he still has issues pertaining to going out with you one on one...It's shows a lack of confidence.......BUD
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    May 27, 2011 7:27 PM GMT
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    cookingitsweet said Hey guys, I am a college student and am a member of my schools GSA. The GSA has about 30 members. I had a little crush on a guy named Mike. He is very genuine, confident, hot, and funny. I really started talking to him at the end of the semester GSA party and I felt like he was flirting with me a little. I flirted a little bit too and eventaully we had to go home. I
    I thought about him a lot the next week and decided to go for it and ask him out. Since we only spoke during meetings and he never gave me his number I had to do it on facebook. I was very causual and confident and asked him if he would ever like to go to NYC and see a show (we both love theatre) or get coffee. He seemed very excited and said yes. I gave him my number and he gave me his and I told him I'd call him soon.
    I called him two days later and his tone completely changed. He mentioned wanting other people from the GSA to come along! I was unsure what to do and trying not to be a jerk said ok, let's get coffe sometime. He said he would call me today (this was a week ago). I was not exactly optomistic. He seemed so excited before and said he loved that i was into theatre. Then he seemed to be avoiding it. So I have not really heard since and am confused and kinda annoyed. What do you guys think?


    He was never interested in you romantically. Your theater, coffee invitation may have sounded like a date to him. So he gave you his phone and said yes because the majority of people don't want to hurt your feelings in your face.



    This was over facebook...
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    May 27, 2011 7:31 PM GMT
    Num1Passion saidIts not about being a flake. Maybe he was nervous or did not want a relationship and you kinda rushed him into the whole date. That is why he wanted to bring people along because he did not want it to feel like a date. And what you may have thought was flirting may have not been. It is just how guys joke around but because you were so interested in him you assumed he was as well. He was just being courteous and was thinking a friendship getting to know you type hanging out and you were thinking dating relationship type. You definitely gotta be 100 percent sure before you ask anyone on a date. There are guys who just like making friends and hanging out but not looking for a relationship and well he felt like you were looking for a relationship and he probably got scared because he probably misinterpreted what you really wanted. My advice is to get to know someone first before you assume they 1) are actually into you and 2) well if they are actually gay. Again he probably is not gay but you assumed he was because he gave you his number and thought he was flirting with you. Fraternities play around like that all the time. Be sure next time before you do anything like that. Its the same thing in the gym just because you find someone attractive does not mean they are interested in you or are gay. They may just want a bro/friend to hang with. And what you may take as flirting may just be him complimenting you. Truth is you assumed and he was thinking something different, you made it clear by hesitating with him bringing friends and then he got what you meant and got scared. "Be very sure next time". And btw if he was on fb did you check to see his interest and well see his friends on his list because that also gives it away as well.


    Thanks a lot for the advice. I agree that he saw me more as a friend, but don't regret asking him out as for once I did not write myself off and did what i wanted. It was worth it. I know he was gay as he's talked of guys he used to be into. He seems to come up with excuses not to date a guy after flirting with them. He flirted with a guy for weeks only to drop it as he was 18...