Why hotlist/stare at/buddy list someone and then not talk to them.

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    May 27, 2011 3:39 AM GMT
    This has happened to me a solid ten times, possibly more. I will get hot listed or even buddy listed by someone. If they or their profile look interesting I will try to talk to them but in some cases they either don't respond or send one word answers back.......why do guys do that?
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    May 27, 2011 3:41 AM GMT
    dekiruman saidThis has happened to me a solid ten times, possibly more. I will get hot listed or even buddy listed by someone. If they or their profile look interesting I will try to talk to them but in some cases they either don't respond or send one word answers back.......why do guys do that?


    I just hate when they hot list, buddy list, and then not say a word....so annoying.

    At least say something! lol
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    May 27, 2011 3:44 AM GMT
    Eh, some guys just do it at a way to bookmark you. They don't want to tire themselves looking through the same pages of guys so it's their way of putting a post-it on the guys they...whatever want to earmark for.
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    May 27, 2011 3:49 AM GMT
    running11 said
    dekiruman saidThis has happened to me a solid ten times, possibly more. I will get hot listed or even buddy listed by someone. If they or their profile look interesting I will try to talk to them but in some cases they either don't respond or send one word answers back.......why do guys do that?


    I just hate when they hot list, buddy list, and then not say a word....so annoying.

    At least say something! lol


    I'm tempted to buddy list you and not say anything now. Haha just kidding

    Yeah, I think this is true of almost any social networking site though.
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    May 27, 2011 3:49 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidHappens all the time... try a simple, Hey man,, thanks for the hotlisting and see if they reply. If nothing,, then no big loss. I do hate random buddy listings from guys that assume the wrong thing. That does require some interaction first.


    I 98% of the time say thanks for the hot list to ppl... i actually don't find it that annoying because I don't do the hotlist//buddy list thing so its all good icon_smile.gif Just wish ppl would be more friendly
  • Webster666

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    May 27, 2011 3:53 AM GMT
    Some people just like to look.
    And, hot listing isn't a message from the hot lister to you; it's a notification from the web site to you, that somebody has added you to their hot list.
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    May 27, 2011 3:57 AM GMT
    I know the feeling. I have had 5-returned visitors that have viewed me at least 8-times each since I became a member and none of them have ever wrote a single word. I assume they are hoping I get the idea of making contact first.

    Some are more brave and say "hi" or "hey" with a line. And I always reply back and they even thank me for replying. The same when I get hot listed, I always send a thank you reply. It pays to be nice.icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 27, 2011 3:57 AM GMT
    I hate this too. I might get the hot listing, but why would someone buddy list you if we've never talked?
  • alphatop

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    May 27, 2011 4:57 AM GMT
    R u guys fuckin' serious? I mean, for real? Geez, don't take stupid web site so serious...duhicon_rolleyes.gif
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    May 27, 2011 5:20 AM GMT
    AntoNomad saidR u guys fuckin' serious? I mean, for real? Geez, don't take stupid web site so serious...duhicon_rolleyes.gif


    Are you attacking me for asking a perfectly relevant question on? Is their anything in my post that suggests to you that I am asking this out of anything beyond pure curiosity? clearly other people find the topic worth discussion given that it received multiple posts from people who either agree with my sentiment or want to offer their opinion as to why people behave in the manner I described.

    Back to your hole troll.
  • BardBear

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    May 27, 2011 9:50 AM GMT
    I try to chat with people, but it usually fizzles. I guess I type too many words? Some people are chatters; some are not. Oh well!

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    May 27, 2011 10:21 AM GMT
    There are many times that I view this site from my cell phone. It allows you to hotlist someone, but it doesn't allow you to I.M. with them. You should just take it as the compliment fot which it is and move on.
    Yes, you can "buddylist" someone too from your phone. (But why do people do that if they have never chatted with that person before?!? I think people do that to make it look as if they have friends!!! I have had many email or IM exchanges with the people on my "buddy" list. They are there because I consider them buddies...duh!)
    Anyway that's why I don't respond to IMs or emails as they happen. Cell phones are a bit cumbersome at times.
    -Tristan
  • shoelessj

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    May 27, 2011 5:02 PM GMT
    musclefetish1 saidThere are many times that I view this site from my cell.



    funny, when i saw this i thought you were saying that you were in prison. it's still early for me... (think i'll hotlist you now ;)

    anyway, if i hotlist someone, it not necessarily because i want to chat or hook up with them. it's almost like i'm voting, syaing 'yeah, he's hotter than most here.' and hotlisting is a way, as someone else said, to just keep a list of all the guys here you think are hot. doesn't mean you want to do anything with that, or them. sometimes i hotlist guys because the physical transformations they've made are inspirational to me and when i get into a rut or fall off the wagon as far as working out and eating right, i'll flip thru the hotlist and remember why i workout and that...if someone has done something really exceptional, as well, or has something in common with me, roots for the same teams, etc., i'll drop him a note.

    when i get hotlisted i appreciate it and usually, if i remember, send a quick 'thanks.' the thing that does creep me out though, is if i get hotlisted and the other guy only says 'woof,' or 'grrrr' or some other one syllable animal-like grunt. weird.

    and i'd never buddylist anyone whom i hadn't already chatted with - that's kind of odd, i think. i do wish, however, that there was something besides clicking hot, that doesn't involve having to type out a long message, to let guys know that you think they seem cool and that ... that being said, if anyone wants to exchange messages with me, i'd love to actually chat with more guys here.

  • SoDakGuy

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    May 27, 2011 5:06 PM GMT
    My ADD kicks in and I focus on something else. It happens.
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    May 27, 2011 5:10 PM GMT
    same here man i get hot listed buy a hot looking guy i say "hi would you like to talk with me or something" and thy do read the message but never answer icon_eek.gif
  • BeingThePhoen...

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    May 27, 2011 5:14 PM GMT
    It is called "HOT-list". Hot people should be seen and not heard, so STFU...lol. j/k

  • jperfit

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    May 27, 2011 5:24 PM GMT
    I think for most the hot list is just a fantasy list, your not really going to ever meet that person so what would really be the point in pursuing, less its just to chat and then their are the ones that have been hot listed and u send a message, most times they do not bother to respond anyway.
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    May 27, 2011 5:24 PM GMT
    When someone hotlist you or buddylist you its to give you a compliment. There are times they just find you attractive kinda like seeing a guy in the magazine and thats all they want to see you as is attractive. Then there are guys who do not know what to say so they send you back one word. There are guys who are just very attractive and great to look at and fantasize about but thats pretty much it , then there are guys who are attractive and want a convo or more. Its about finding that out for yourself
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    May 27, 2011 5:42 PM GMT
    The way I see it

    Being Hot listed - it's a compliment just the guy's way of saying I find you attractive, it doesn’t necessarily means he wants to be friends.

    Being Buddy Listed - I’d at least like to think from time to time we do maintain some degree of conversation. I usually ask before I buddy list anyone and I only do so if I plan to maintain contact with that person.
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    May 27, 2011 5:47 PM GMT
    dekiruman saidThis has happened to me a solid ten times, possibly more. I will get hot listed or even buddy listed by someone. If they or their profile look interesting I will try to talk to them but in some cases they either don't respond or send one word answers back.......why do guys do that?


    Realjock needs to add a bookmarking feature to the site.
  • alphatop

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    May 28, 2011 1:55 AM GMT
    dekiruman said
    AntoNomad saidR u guys fuckin' serious? I mean, for real? Geez, don't take stupid web site so serious...duhicon_rolleyes.gif


    Are you attacking me for asking a perfectly relevant question on? Is their anything in my post that suggests to you that I am asking this out of anything beyond pure curiosity? clearly other people find the topic worth discussion given that it received multiple posts from people who either agree with my sentiment or want to offer their opinion as to why people behave in the manner I described.

    Back to your hole troll.


    Aren't you sweet?icon_rolleyes.gif Why don't you get a life, instead of discussing such irrelevant crap? RJ is just web site, you know, it's not a real person or something....Jesus fucking Christ, talking about stupidity....icon_confused.gif
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    May 28, 2011 1:56 AM GMT
    dekiruman saidThis has happened to me a solid ten times, possibly more. I will get hot listed or even buddy listed by someone. If they or their profile look interesting I will try to talk to them but in some cases they either don't respond or send one word answers back.......why do guys do that?


    shoot me an email when you find out lol
  • Joeyphx444

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    May 28, 2011 2:00 AM GMT
    Idk why this is
    Try saying something smart back to them, always gets ppls attention for some reason
    Being nice sucks
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    May 28, 2011 2:03 AM GMT
    Maybe some guys are too shy to approach sexy guys like you icon_redface.gif
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    May 28, 2011 2:06 AM GMT
    To hot list is just giving a compliment saying you are attractive or interesting or sexy or have a nice profile, etc. Contact with the recipient is not really necessary. To buddy list, however, is something different and some sort of communication should have already occurred or at the very least should accompany the buddy list.