just curious about men who claim to be BI- Sexual

  • TallguyNLA

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    May 27, 2011 3:41 AM GMT
    So I was talking to a co-worker today aboutwhat he finds attractive in a woman. He went into great detail abut the things that go through his mind when he sees someone he finds attractive, surprisingly enough, it wasn't sex or anything raunchy. he was more detailed about the way she moves, speaks, and gestures. I was really kind of taken back by his expalnantion. hes only 26, and in my eyes, hes still very very young, and just trying to get laid the easiest way possile,
    He also went on to say that "everyone" deep down inside has an attraction to the "BOTH" men and women. " We just dont act on it, and thats what sets us aoart from being, gay, staright, and bi...."
    I thought..."really? I dont think so, because for me there is nothing about a man that would drive me to women, and If i was stright, vice-versa.
    I do like sex, but not with women! I have never been with a woman before and have no desire to even try AT ALL! A guys mind does not work like womans... I just cant do it, and i dont think I need to try it first to decide....
    so i guess question is...
    for "BI SEXUAL MEN" how do you do it? how do you just trurn it off and on?
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    May 27, 2011 4:02 AM GMT
    It's not turned off or on. I actually find both men and women physically attractive but I have a hard time forming an emotional connection to women because of situations in my past. I'm actually really close with my dad so I think I have the ability to form that kind of connection with a guy.

    When I was younger to my early 20's I'd say I was 75% attracted to women, 25% attracted to men. Now that I'm 25, it's like...reversed. I still enjoy women, but I'm more into men at the moment.



  • coolarmydude

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    May 27, 2011 7:11 AM GMT
    Sexual orientation is not an on/off switch. It's a spectrum of attraction and desire.
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    May 27, 2011 7:35 AM GMT
    Bisexuality is very real and men can be bisexual. It's easier for me to be physically attracted to a man, but with a woman, it's easier to be emotionally attracted to them. Women have that emotional attachment that I wish men would have, but my dick seems to get hard at the sight of men quicker than it does with women. That's just me personally, coming from a bisexual.
  • theyoungtravi...

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    May 30, 2011 2:49 PM GMT
    i've always wondered what a bi-sexual guy will answer if he is forced to choose between a man and a woman..
  • laxdude25

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    May 30, 2011 3:05 PM GMT
    I am attracted physically to both men and women, but the prompts and reaction are very different in each case. With guys, it is the physicality, often shared athletic endeavor, that is then paralleled in a very intense, physical sexual connection. With women in general and for the last 25 years with my wife, the sexual connection is built more on an emotional base. That said, with both men and woman I am most turned on when I am turning my partner on. So I get really turned on when through foreplay my partner turns into a total cock whore, male or female.
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    May 30, 2011 3:07 PM GMT
    closer85 saidIt's not turned off or on. I actually find both men and women physically attractive but I have a hard time forming an emotional connection to women because of situations in my past. I'm actually really close with my dad so I think I have the ability to form that kind of connection with a guy.

    When I was younger to my early 20's I'd say I was 75% attracted to women, 25% attracted to men. Now that I'm 25, it's like...reversed. I still enjoy women, but I'm more into men at the moment.





    Couldn't have said it better...Except for closeness with the dad. Not really close to him
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    May 30, 2011 4:13 PM GMT
    cuteASIANbottom saidi've always wondered what a bi-sexual guy will answer if he is forced to choose between a man and a woman..


    I'm not attracted to a gender, I'm attracted to a person. Sometimes that person is a man, sometimes a woman, and what gender they have comes second to who they are as a person.

    If you'd give me the choice between some random man and woman (assuming I'd be attracted to any one of them) I couldn't say now which one I would choose as it would be entirely dependant on who they were and what they were like.
  • coolarmydude

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    May 31, 2011 7:25 AM GMT
    cuteASIANbottom saidi've always wondered what a bi-sexual guy will answer if he is forced to choose between a man and a woman..


    A person who thinks they have to choose between one gender over another instead of choosing a person for that person, isn't ready for a relationship.
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    May 31, 2011 8:00 AM GMT
    I'm confused as to why bi guys want to stand under the banner of gay, or shoved under it? Bisexuals do exist. What separates them from me a Gold card gay is the fact I have no sexual attraction to women at all, and would chose death over being forced into doing the nasty with one of them. Yet a bi guy is a person who has done it with both, as a Gold card Gay just would never do such a thing.

    In the next pride march support the bi pride flag,as many of our half bothers show it sham.
  • alphatop

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    May 31, 2011 2:34 PM GMT
    TallguyNLA saidSo I was talking to a co-worker today aboutwhat he finds attractive in a woman. He went into great detail abut the things that go through his mind when he sees someone he finds attractive, surprisingly enough, it wasn't sex or anything raunchy. he was more detailed about the way she moves, speaks, and gestures. I was really kind of taken back by his expalnantion. hes only 26, and in my eyes, hes still very very young, and just trying to get laid the easiest way possile,
    He also went on to say that "everyone" deep down inside has an attraction to the "BOTH" men and women. " We just dont act on it, and thats what sets us aoart from being, gay, staright, and bi...."
    I thought..."really? I dont think so, because for me there is nothing about a man that would drive me to women, and If i was stright, vice-versa.
    I do like sex, but not with women! I have never been with a woman before and have no desire to even try AT ALL! A guys mind does not work like womans... I just cant do it, and i dont think I need to try it first to decide....
    so i guess question is...
    for "BI SEXUAL MEN" how do you do it? how do you just trurn it off and on?


    You have to have some sexual experience with girls FIRST, and than say something like, I'll never have sex with them again...Like this, without experience, it's just stupid to talk about something you've never done...It would be as if someone who have never tried beer in his life is trying to explain than he likes wine better....Nothing to compare with....Get it?
  • Aquanerd

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    May 31, 2011 2:42 PM GMT
    coolarmydude saidSexual orientation is not an on/off switch. It's a spectrum of attraction and desire.


    When I first read this I read, "It's a spectrum of distraction and desire." icon_eek.gif

    Actually, both ways work for me. As does your later post. There are a lot of characteristics that attract me to another person. Gender is a huge factor, but all the other things that make up a person, from looks to personality, to philosophy, to breath, and nose hair are all part of the chemistry.

    The penis has been the biggest part of the equation for a while now.
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    May 31, 2011 3:21 PM GMT
    AntoNomad said
    TallguyNLA saidSo I was talking to a co-worker today aboutwhat he finds attractive in a woman. He went into great detail abut the things that go through his mind when he sees someone he finds attractive, surprisingly enough, it wasn't sex or anything raunchy. he was more detailed about the way she moves, speaks, and gestures. I was really kind of taken back by his expalnantion. hes only 26, and in my eyes, hes still very very young, and just trying to get laid the easiest way possile,
    He also went on to say that "everyone" deep down inside has an attraction to the "BOTH" men and women. " We just dont act on it, and thats what sets us aoart from being, gay, staright, and bi...."
    I thought..."really? I dont think so, because for me there is nothing about a man that would drive me to women, and If i was stright, vice-versa.
    I do like sex, but not with women! I have never been with a woman before and have no desire to even try AT ALL! A guys mind does not work like womans... I just cant do it, and i dont think I need to try it first to decide....
    so i guess question is...
    for "BI SEXUAL MEN" how do you do it? how do you just trurn it off and on?


    You have to have some sexual experience with girls FIRST, and than say something like, I'll never have sex with them again...Like this, without experience, it's just stupid to talk about something you've never done...It would be as if someone who have never tried beer in his life is trying to explain than he likes wine better....Nothing to compare with....Get it?


    Anto he's not pansexual or Bi. Your reasoning would mean every straight person would have to try same-sex relations in order to know they're straight.
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    May 31, 2011 3:26 PM GMT
    Seems to me that bisexual's have way more options but way more problems.
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    May 31, 2011 10:48 PM GMT
    Well if you like me and like men and women then your bisexual
  • mav29x

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    May 31, 2011 11:07 PM GMT
    I agree in that it is not a switch that you just can turn on or off. It's really the level of physical attraction and emoitional connection. It's a complex formula and everyone's is unique. While it is true that a guy's mindset is different from a woman's for the most part, some women have traits and and interests that a guy would normally have and vice versa. It really comes down to what you like and what you can tolerate.

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    May 31, 2011 11:12 PM GMT
    They probably need to come up with a new name for this because so many people think that bisexuality implies some divying up of your personal interest.

    During that period presumably you are with one person in a lasting relationship and the fact that you only like women 25% and men 75% doesn't really add up if you are with a woman. That would be like you acknowledging that you could be happier with a man.... so why are you with the woman? I think it's far more likely that at different points in our lives we want different types of sexual/emotional partners.

    I think there is some liberation in acknowledging that it could come from a man or a woman. For myself it hasn't happened but I don't rule out that it could never happen, thats a little closed minded imo.
  • alphatop

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    Jun 01, 2011 3:30 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    AntoNomad said
    TallguyNLA saidSo I was talking to a co-worker today aboutwhat he finds attractive in a woman. He went into great detail abut the things that go through his mind when he sees someone he finds attractive, surprisingly enough, it wasn't sex or anything raunchy. he was more detailed about the way she moves, speaks, and gestures. I was really kind of taken back by his expalnantion. hes only 26, and in my eyes, hes still very very young, and just trying to get laid the easiest way possile,
    He also went on to say that "everyone" deep down inside has an attraction to the "BOTH" men and women. " We just dont act on it, and thats what sets us aoart from being, gay, staright, and bi...."
    I thought..."really? I dont think so, because for me there is nothing about a man that would drive me to women, and If i was stright, vice-versa.
    I do like sex, but not with women! I have never been with a woman before and have no desire to even try AT ALL! A guys mind does not work like womans... I just cant do it, and i dont think I need to try it first to decide....
    so i guess question is...
    for "BI SEXUAL MEN" how do you do it? how do you just trurn it off and on?


    You have to have some sexual experience with girls FIRST, and than say something like, I'll never have sex with them again...Like this, without experience, it's just stupid to talk about something you've never done...It would be as if someone who have never tried beer in his life is trying to explain than he likes wine better....Nothing to compare with....Get it?


    Anto he's not pansexual or Bi. Your reasoning would mean every straight person would have to try same-sex relations in order to know they're straight.


    Exactly. When you try both sexes, than you will know (most likely) your sexual orientation.If not, keep practicing and experimenting.
  • stratavos

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    Jun 01, 2011 3:44 AM GMT
    TheLetterD saidBisexuality is very real and men can be bisexual. It's easier for me to be physically attracted to a man, but with a woman, it's easier to be emotionally attracted to them. Women have that emotional attachment that I wish men would have, but my dick seems to get hard at the sight of men quicker than it does with women. That's just me personally, coming from a bisexual.


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    Jun 01, 2011 4:17 AM GMT
    i like both, but prefer the Gents more


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    Jun 01, 2011 4:26 AM GMT
    cuteASIANbottom saidi've always wondered what a bi-sexual guy will answer if he is forced to choose between a man and a woman..


    It would be like asking to choose between your father and mother, or between two good friends, or between any two things you liked.
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    Jun 01, 2011 4:27 AM GMT
    Lately I've seen some girls that make me look twice. One on TV and one at work in particular... I've even fantazized about sex with them icon_confused.gif
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    Jun 01, 2011 4:29 AM GMT
    qwer1234 said
    cuteASIANbottom saidi've always wondered what a bi-sexual guy will answer if he is forced to choose between a man and a woman..


    It would be like asking to choose between your father and mother, or between two good friends, or between any two things you liked.


    From what bi people have told me, it doesn't work that way. Gender is only sometimes important; usually it's the person if the attraction to either sex is more or less the same.
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    Jun 01, 2011 4:46 AM GMT
    I'm not sure if it's that simple or that bisexuality is a 50/50 split. I think it's more that you COULD actually physically be with a guy or a girl. I think I'm bi and I'm far more into guys at the moment. I know I could fuck a girl right now but I wouldn't be as into it as I once was.

    There was a point in my life (my whole life until this year, actually) where I was far more into girls, so I think of bisexuality as more of a sliding scale...
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    Jun 01, 2011 4:54 AM GMT
    I've always had sex dreams about both genders.... Have guys who said they are not into girls at all ever had a sex dream about just you and a girl?